I don´t know what's wrong with me. I'm not the best on meeting women, but normally I can approach them in partys or clubs, get their phone numbers and even sometimes make out with them.

The first problem comes when I want to see them again. Normally I text or call the girl a few days later,make conversation and try to build comfort, but when I want to go on a date with her, she seems uninterested in me and makes excuses, so I never see the girl again.

The second problem. Sometimes I have a first date, and I think everything goes well, but when I want to have a second one, she refuses, don´t answer messages or just disappear. So I think the first date wasn't good at all.

An example:

Few months ago I started to text a girl I met a long ago. I wasn't interested in her at first, but a really enjoyed talking with her, she mades me laugh a lot and we had a great phone/text relation.

Time later she started to act differently. She texted me nice things, told me she had a gift for me, sent me kisses, etc. I'm not gonna lie, I really started to like her back... a lot. Even we couldn't see each other because school, work and other stuff, the things seems to be great...

BUT... a week or two ago, she started to act cold, bored and uninterested in me. She doesn't reply my texts, answer my calls and if she did, our conversations gone bad... She doesn't want to go out with me and I really don't know why.

I saw yesterday in her's friend restaurant, she invited me because i told her I really want to see her, but I feel she did it just for pity. She actually told to a common friend to go with me. The night was from bad to worse. She barely talked with me, she seems uncomfortable when I touched her, she doesn't laugh at my jokes and she took the first opportunity to talk to anyone else...

I really don't know what's wrong with me. I appreciate any help with my problems.

Sorry about my english.

Thanks in advance

There is nothing wrong with you. You are perhaps showing too much interest/neediness. My advice is if your first date ruins things then skip the first date. Hang out instead.

This kind of thing happens to me all the time. They are horny one minute and distant the next. First try and stop it before it happens and if it does, show a willingness to walk away.

Chamoy,

A lot of things could be going wrong. Maybe it's an ongoing thing you do, which affects all your dates, or maybe the long row of rejections is just a coincidence. In any case, if you really want to know what you did to make things go sour, just ask the girls themselves.

That might sound like a crazy idea, unthinkable. But think about it: If I met a girl who messed things up, which caused me to stop liking her, and then some time later, that same girl came back to ask me honestly, as friends, if I could tell her what she did wrong, so that she can avoid making the same mistake in the future, I would gladly talk to her and tell her what she needs to hear. I would suggest that you do that, just remember to keep it cool and don't put any pressure on her.

Buena suerte carnal.