How to actually start a relationship?

Pretty much the same as any other process with a girl. Just at some point when building comfort after attraction has been expressed from her, and from you...then you talk about how you are looking for a relationship and not just some hook up. If you don't specifically outline what you are looking for things can go bad.

I actually have done this for all types of relationships from one nights, casual dating, friends with benefits, to relationships. The important thing is after attraction is secure that you express what type of relationship you are open to. Then get back into comfort and rapport building. No problem.

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Wish it were that easy!

Assuming you've already built attraction and comfort with the girl, you continue escalating both until it comes to a point where she thinks "I really like him, I want him to myself." Let's not be naive, the purpose of a relationship is just to monopolize someone's intimacy. Which leads us to a corollary, there must be a feeling of anxiety so long as a relationship doesn't exist, and even while it does. There always needs to be potential for you to walk out or dump her for someone better. It sounds terrible, but it's the only way to keep a girl interested. Women want men that other women want to fuck, and other men want to be like.

If you passively sit on the sidelines and act all nice guyish while "waiting" for her to get comfortable enough to date you - you will erode away attraction and secksual tension. Date other girls and close other numbers while you're pursuing any one girl.

As for directly communicating interest in a relationship - never. You NEVER tell a girl you want to be exclusive with her. That's her job. The moment you do that, you do slip into dependency.

Nor do you tell her you like her, you communicate that to her subtly. If you TELL a girl you like her, you signal desperation. You tell her "You're the only one I want to be intimate with." When you SHOW a girl you like her, by flirting, by escalating, etc, you tell her "I am interested in you, but not enough to want to be exclusive." A sense of challenge must always be present. She must always feel the need to qualify herself to you.

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I like Hakuna's response and agree.

Pretty much all you do to end up in a relationship is do a lot together(sped a lot of time with her), keep things intimate(arms around her, just be a boyfriend without adding the title), you watch movies alone together, eat together, it's simple you just play as if you are in one.

CAUTION: Don't start holding her too early, you let her come to you and accept her affection not give it. She needs to want the relationship more than you or she controls you. Most girls that control guys get bored with them, lose respect for them, and move on. You should be sure to stay less invested in the relationship than she is or she owns you. Even if it's just a hair, you need that advantage.

This doesn't mean don't show affection merely that she needs to come to you for it rather than you go to her with it, she needs to come to you for it. She squeezes you tighter than you squeeze her(during hug or holding hands), you walk ahead of her, these are little things but you can always tell who is in charge of a relationship by watching these basic traits.

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for me it all starts at the moment that I see my target. that's when I start to build a connection.

fucking wish i read this 6months ago

I feel you man...