Ok, so i live in a house where all my family do is argue if we start getting into a conversation we end up arguing pretty much 99% of the time.

living hear is causing me to learn bad habits when speaking to girls ill act defensive because its natural in my home i pull weird emotions with my face and sometimes get asked why i pull them any ideas on what to do maybe to help my family get along better i'm 17 so i cant currently move out i have a job so maybe another year or 2 and ill be outta here but for now i want to cant things.

Hey mate, I understand where you are coming from. For example my family was never very close and also some other issues there.

As a result I wasn't comfortable showing affection or accepting human touch.

My advice for you, is when an arguement starts decide how important that topic is for you, if it's not important then you are argueing for the sake of it. Just back off and relax there is no point fighting over something you do not feel strongly about.

Let them know you are not interested in argueing, if they insist then...

Just go for a walk don't get worked up by it. They can't argue with you if you are walking down the street thinking about things you would like to do etc.

These issues you can overcome, for instance showing affection is very important for a relationship so I trained myself to be able to do it.

Human touch or kino is very important for learning if a girl likes you and taking things further. For me it is like my version of approach anxiety at times, I find it incredibly hard to take the first step, I will think about things too much and find it awkward trying to find a reason or way to do it.

Once I have taken that step the anxiety vanishes once I realize they're comfortable with it I realize it's normal behaviour and the switch in my head that says it isn't gets switched off and I can escalate with no more stress.

Practice your stone face, sit there like you are playing poker, just a little smile the rest is stone.

Thanks mate i will try and do those things but what if its something i'm passionate about.

so for example i recently found a school photo of my little brother and i noticed he is overweight by quite a lot (my opinion) i got bullied as a child for being fat and i do not want the same for my brother so i brought the topic up that my brother looked stupid (i now realize that was not the best was to put it) and overweight all i got in reply was that i was the same when i was younger but then she starts listing all the things that are wrong with me so i had to bite the bullet and argue back i never meant this in a harmful or hurtful way but as a solution for my brother's eating habits to change!

That just comes down to thinking before you speak, think about how you would feel if someone said it that way to you.

If it is something you feel strongly about then be a man and don't give up, just try to do it calmly not in a rage/yelling fight because at that point no-one is listening just trying to yell louder than the other person or over the top of them.

Being a big brother he will look up to, you can explain to him you were in the same situation for him and you only want the best for him.

Tell him about how your life has improved from eating healthier and exercising. From the health benefits to the confidence boost etc.

If he gets defensive and starts to argue about it tell him you don't want to argue you just want him to think about it, and then stop don't argue back even if he gives you crap about one of your features.

He may sit back and go wow my bro didn't say that to hurt me or so he could have a fight about it, maybe he is looking out for me. later on that night when he calms down.