i once told a gf she couldn't talk to her ex, made her delete his number ex, guess who she dumped my AFC ass for a few months later.

You need to dump her now and dump her fast, if she's into you like you say she is then you dumping her will soon change her mind about meeting this guy, if it doesn't then she's not that into you anyway so fuck her

No of couse not! IF i choose to stay with her while she is away, i will hook up with other girls! even if i don't really want to, but just to get the feeling that i have been unfaithful to her!

Thanks a lot for all the posts guys! i really do appreciate it, especially the ones who can see it from my point of view, i have definitely gotten smarter by reading your answers!
and for the records, for those of you who are in doubt

I am not bad at hooking up with girls, i would say that at least 75% of the girls i talk to is easy for me to end up with, i got a large social group and the girl i am with knows that, most of her girl friends have flirted with me, and all of them thinks good of me! I am better in bed then the guy she is going to visit, even though he is about 1-2 inches bigger then me, she normally goes after large musculaire types, however i am the first one whos arms is almost smaller then hers!

Just wanted to clear that up!

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The first bit of your message sounds like you want to hook up with other girls just to give yourself piece of mind when she cheats on you with this other guy, which in my opinion is the immature way to go round it, you need to just dump her to find out if she's into you or not, like i said before, if she's into you then she'll soon change her mind about going, if no then fuck her go get someone else

It probably is a very immature way to handle this situation, but you can't blame me, im only 17! But i KNOW that she is into me, i am very good at reading persons and i do know for a fact that she loves me! i think that the problem is that the other guy means so much to her emotionelly due to all the personal help he have given her, all the emotionel problem that he have helped her through, and thats why i hope that if i stay with her, i can begin to mean even more to her then he does!

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Pure disrespect and lame excuse to go see him, it's not about closure or anything. When they broke-up the chapter should off been closed already. Her visiting him is re-opening the chapter and is so disrespectful towards you.

Yes you love her but if there is anything i can tell you it's that self respect and pride is far more important then any girl.

PLEASE don't be a fool and blind! She will fuck him no matter what she says. They have been together for a long period of time and had sex before, you not being around her,nor any friends who can see what shes up to make this the perfect situation to cheat. If she really loves you she will not go... she goes which says it all.

You need to let go and see if she comes back to you, if not she was never yours.

Break-up is the only right thing to do, tell her that you find this disrespectful towards you and will not tolerate it, you got millions to choose from who do respect you.

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As much as i hate what you are saying, deep down i know that you in some way are right, i have been done a lot of thinking lately! this shit has really messed with my head, my dreams lately have been totally fucked up! but i finally think that i have comed to a decision, i will fuck her until she leaves, if hot girls come across my path meanwhile, well, then i will fuck them aswel (if possible). A week before she leaves i tell her that i will from now on block her out of my life cause thats the fastest way of getting over her, while she is gone i will hopefully get some other pussy as well!!!
Thank you guys so much for making this decision clearer!

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the best thing to do is fuck her good, i mean make her cum at least once everytime you fuck her, twice if you can

A few days before she's due to set off pull her to one side and say, 'i've been thinking and i'm really not comfortable with you flying to see another guy, i've never been the sort of guys to make rules in a relationship so i dont think we can carry on' then walk away, i promise if she is into you then your phone will be blowing up withing minutes

here's the cold hard truth about your situation...
You're a teenager! She has no real obligation to you. Which is the reason she's going to see her ex even though you told her not too you're words don't really matter. You don't have a high paying career you're not paying her rent or able to buy her fancy clothes. You don't come from a extremely wealthy family. She's able to leave so easily because you really can't do anything for her. All you have is puppy love.

I don't know anybody who's had the ability to travel or go to college who's had a long lasting relationship at the age of 17. You're going to meet a thousand better looking girls you don't need to tolerate disrespect for this one.

Once you reach about 21-22yrs+ and have you're shit together girls are going to have a bit more respect for you.

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Don't dump her if you love her... She just needs the wake up call that she has you in a situation nobody deserves(Especially when you love eachother.)
Confront her with all the facts and let her answer.
ask her this:
Wy do you want to pay this much money to see your ex

Are you sleeping in a hotel that month?

Ask wat she would do if she was in your situation?

if she still want to go:
You now have a free pass to meet other woman, make a good girlfriend whom you will see every week or so, your girlfriend will get jealous and she would not even dare to go out of the city.

Woman are very possessive, so the only way to avoid letting her or yourselve break your heart is jealousy from her side.

I'm really sorry people are not monogamous. And i don't trust her one bit. If she leaves, it's over between you two. I really like your strong mindset for her.

tippit, you are tryin to reason with a girl? trying to cme up with facts? good luck with that!

i usually don't agree with reo, and he has his style of giving advice but he is so right here. you might dont like hearing the best advice but it is there, just read through all the comments.

and again: actions speak louder than words. look at what she DOES and not what she SAYS (and wants you to beleive).

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I disagree with this. The things you mention: High paying career, paying her rent, wealthy family are totally irrelevant to the situation. Girls don't give a fuck whether you got a 42 inch flat-screen or a fast car. Its all about the person, sure some cash helps but many woman cheat on wealthy guys because how boring they are.

If your a confident male with a great personality she will most likely not want to lose you.

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Got to agree on this one!
I mean isn't this what all the authors of pick up books are trying to make people believe, and isn't it what pick up is all about? being able to get the hot girl, even though you are not rich, good looking, famous or any of those things

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OK, getting, but what about keeping?

this can be true, when you are in the lover category. than financials, career, health, social network, fame do not count that much. you can lay the girl without having any money in your pocket.


but does it work on the long run? when you wanna show some provider skills?

lets say you have no money, no savings? and no career, mission? you don't have a vision where you are going in life? i doubt you could keep any decent girls around for a long time.

tactics, lines, interesting personality, being witty, and all the mystery method stuff do help you lay a girl. but how do you keep her around?

not all women are the some. some focus on the looks more, some only seem to care about money, some about artistic skills, some are amazed by famous people or by power.

but you just cannot say that these things don't matter. they do matter on the long run.

i ll never forget the first daygame approach i ever did. you know what that HB8's first question was?
-"what do you do for a living?" (qualifying me)
i told her that i work for this and that bank. and she gave me her number few mins later. but what if i had said that i was unemployed? or homeless and unemploeyed? see my point?

if you don't have much money, that's fine as long as you have a strong and ambitios personality and you are going somewehere in life. women are smart investors when it comes to long run.

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Furiox after you let your ex girlfriend make a such "beta b***h" out of you. You are the last person who should be giving any kind of relationship advice to anybody.

I even told you that girl was going to dump you and it happened just like a said.
I think you're seeing shades of yourself in what I said.

I had a highschool science teacher who told this girl in our class, who had just broken up with boyfriend, that teenage relationships are worthless and your crying over some guy who still has to beg his mom and dad for milk money and that he didn't feel sorry for her wait until she turns about 25- 27yrs get some life experience then I might feel a little sorry for you.

Basically I realize now he was telling her and everyone in class that you still have a lot of growing up to do you're going to meet a thousand other better guy/girls.
Aslo he was saying her boyfriend was a loser which he was and still is till this day.

But at the time I was thinking just like you and Valdemar1 that what my teacher said just a cold blooded. Once you grow up get to college about junior year girl are trying to pair with the successful men. Girls may come to college with their highschool sweethart by the end of it all they're with someone else who's a doctor, lawyer, athlete, someone with potential etc. a highschool kid just can't compete.

I seen several marriages out of highschool not last once they made it college. Theres just so much opportunity out there why settle when you're so young.

I look at things now a 17, 18 19yr old girl can't do shit for me.

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man she is using you.. you wanna be used you lose, throw a coin at her and go fuck other girls.. they are all the same and there are plenty of them... you just have to try and you will not regret