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I'm an introvert and I rarely talk. I enjoy listening a lot more than talking. It takes a lot of energy for me to be in a group of friends/acquaintances and continue to actively take part in the conversation. When it's more serious conversations, or a topic that I'm familiar with, I do ok. But when people start joking around, bantering, coming up with funny ridiculous things, my mind goes blank.
Naturally, it's hard for me to build attraction when girls want to have a fun time and I either:
a.) not say anything
b.) turn the conversation into something more serious.
Not everyone has a really playful personality. You can still play to your strengths. For example, the 60 Years of Challenge method would probably suit you very well since it focuses on listening, building sexual tension rather than being entertaining, etc.
However, you're still wise to seek some improvement in the area of bantering and joking around if you feel a weakness there. Turning a conversation into something more serious is a necessary skill, but so is turning something serious into something more jovial. What are some of the things in your life you use for entertainment? For example, what are some shows you watch, movies you've seen lately, activities you normally do, etc. I really enjoy watching comedy movies, South Park, reading funny comics, watching stand-up every now and then... I believe these influences might have made me a more fun and less serious person. I think they've also made me funnier.
Now, I know this may sound unrelated, but I think meditation helps, too. Meditation molds your mind so that it's easier for you to live in the moment. A problem you may be having is that you go inside your own head too much and start thinking too much about things other than the NOW when social situations start to pick up more energy. I recommend just 5 minutes of Zazen meditation per day. Look it up.