Okay so i am with a girl who i really love, i can tell that she love me too!
We have had some trouble about trusting each other, or i have had some trouble trusting her. anyway she were with her ex for a year even though he live in USA and she lives in Europe, they broke up in december, and he were her very first love, when they broke up she promised him that she would visit him this summer.
Then she meet me, and even though she still loved him, she started loving me.
she told me that no one could change her mind about visiting him, but then she came in doubt because she was so into me, she told me that if we were boyfriend and girlfriend she wouldn't visit him. He ment the world to her, and nothing could make her forget about him, but my demands were that she needed to tell him that they couldn't talk together anymore, and i told her she needed to delete him on facebook and so on, only because they still wrote that they love each other which broke my heart. She didn't expect for me to react that way so the day after she wrote to me that he would always be number one for her, and that she needed to go see him anyway. She still want to be in a relationship with me and she says that if we are in a relationship she won't do anything when she goes visit him, not even kiss him, she still have in plan to see him for a month, so here i am with no fucking clue for what to do.
it seems to me like what ever i decide to do, it will end up hurting me. i want to be with her even though she is going to visit him, because she says that if she goes visit him she will end the love feelings she has for him so that we can be together and thats the only way that she can stop being in love with him. I am just afraid that she will tell me like 2 days after she has returned to europe that she can't stop these feelings for him, and that will just brake my heart even more...
I Have no fucking clue what i am supposed to do in this situation....
PLEASE help me out, anything what so ever is appreciated

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You have a couple options 1 you can trust her 2 end the relationship if she goes but realistically if she goes she will do something with him there is to much between them and there is to much distance between you and her you know what they say out of site out of mind so it's up to you my advice dump her if she still goes after you tell her you don't want her to go because all it shows is disrespect by her not caring about how you feel

You don't have to "choose", or "doubt", or "think about". You have to fucking leave this girl RIGHT NOW.

She does NOT love you. She does NOT respect you. If she would- she wouldn't confront you this way by going to see her ex in America.

Go away now and don't look back. You are only a second choice. Your post makes this 100% clear. The only reason why you don't realize it, is because you do not want to realize it.

If i left her now with my heart broken i know i will feel like i lost the game..
you are right when you say that i don't wont to realise it, i wont because i am in love!
Wether or not she is in love with me is out of the question i can tell when she is 100% true, and i can tell that she loves me, maybe she does love him more, but that would only be because of the long relationship they have had, and because he have helped her true so much, i personally think that it is just a matter of time before she love me the same amount if not even more.
my plan so far is to keep our relationship, and when she is just about to leave i will get totally intimate with her, at which point i will tell her for the first time that i love her, this will make her cry for sure! and hopefully make her unable to think about anything else then me when she visits him!
I know that the smartest thing would be to leave her at this point, i just can't do that, i have never felt this way for a girl before and i cant see the point in leaving her right now, as i see it, i might just as well wait and try and hope that things will change

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You don't respect yourself. Let alone she would respect you.

Why are you even asking for advice? You're just wanting someone to tell you it's going to be ok well I got news for you it's not. You're acting like a complete wuss

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Change the title of this thread from "Probably" to "Definitely". What do you honestly think she and him are going to do for a whole month together? I don't know you, him, or her, but I'll tell you this: she's not paying hundreds of dollars for a plane ticket to fly overseas and not fuck the guy. You tell her the second she gets on that plane, you promise you're going to fuck the most attractive girl you can find. Keep that promise.

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Hey man,
I feel for you. I see a lot of these guys are telling you in a very direct way that you are a "wuss" and that she will "definitely" fuck the guy.

I'm sorry to hear this because reading this I can tell you love her.

But the fact of this is, if she loved you so much she wouldn't do anything to harm your relationship and this is the worst thing she could do. She is putting her and him before you.

The truth of the matter is, all the posts here seem right.

The BEST advice you can get is:

Tell her, "If you go back to him you can live with the regret of loosing me for the rest of your life".

Block, Delete, NEVER EVER LOOK BACK, NEVER EVER talk to her again, find a better girl.

Not really, i hoped that someone could come with a better solution in which i wouldn't end up getting hurt...
I started studying the game so that i could get the girls of which i liked, girls i would be able to fall in love with, but ever since i started i haven't got that feeling of love, until now, and the only reason for why i should leave her now that i can see, is that if i don't it will change how other sees me? Let me know what other reasons there is because i cant see them...
i know it might be hard to look at this from my point of view but the way i see it, i can either dump her now and never talk to her again (we go to the same school so i will still see her from time to time) or i can stay with her and hope that i either loose my feelings for her, or that i can change her mind...
Thanks for the constructive feedback!

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Let it go man, you can't stay with and hope that you will lose feeling for her. You seem like you have invest way too much into her.

I am in the relationship with a girl I love as well, its been a year now. Her ex's call, text, FB msg her. But never has she responded to anyone of them. What I have notice is you don't know what you have till its gone, and I think her ex's have realized this.

From my perspective the the guy made a pact with her to take a break for a year and see each other and see if the feelings still exist, and if she is still say "I love you" to him. Its a no brainer. There are a lots of fish in the sea. Good luck to you my friend.

She slips you dip.

I say to you either:

1) tell her how you feel very clearly and that you don't want her to go and that you value your relationship. If she decides she must go, tell her you understand that the two of them made a commitment.
At this point essentially break up with her with no regrets.
I would ask you imagine that the shoe was on the other foot and you were the guy waiting to see the girl. what would you want her to do? exactly what she is doing, which is traveling to see you.

She might go meet her prince and he is not as she remembers him or vice versa. They may no longer enjoy each other's company even if the do fuck (so what? sex is cheap anyway)

But if you tell her not to go and she does not, then you are AOK. but if she goes anyway, you have to carry the weight of that but try to get out with some dignity and class...

in her mind she has a journey to make with this person...she has to see it through for whatever reason...so let her do it if she can't be convinced otherwise either through passion or logic from you...

or,
Keep hanging out with her and being the best person you can be, never show that it bothers you and do everything you can to fuck her or be intimate with her or have fun knowing she will be leaving you soon.

when you leave a good impression in her mind, if she returns and her meeting with her old lover has failed, you will be the one she looks for because you created a clear contrast and/or a symbol of perfection that this other person now has to live up to. If he is not fun or has other flaws she will compare him to you....

either way, when she goes, do everything in your power to date or meet other girls and practice meeting people.

why can't you just keeping hanging out with her because you like her, sleep with her or w/e you like doing with her, then just go meet other girls and do the same with them, why do you have to be a one girl sort of guy? are you just going to chill out for a month, do nothing, meet no new girls, waiting for your one special girl to return from blowing some other guy instead of you just to get rid of all her love feelings?

you need any more than this?? she is using you as a backup plan, plan B, you have to dump her ass if she does go visit her ex.
the game is not about winning or losing this 1 specific silly girl.
this won't help. in fact this might just make things worse. this would just make it obvious that she has your balls and she can do whatever she wants. than you would be no challange to her anymore. this is the comlete opposite of what you wanna do.
exactly, Dr. Jones is right. otherwise they woudl be happy just chatting on SPAM. has she bought the tickets yet?


if she goes visit her, than you must dump her. actions speak louder than words, don't listen to what she says (i love you, and all this bullshit), loot at what she DOES.

start looking for other girls to get over her. she is clearly not that into you, so why would you sacrafice yourself and not see any other girl? being seen with other girls would also help your position with this HB btw.

hit us back with more update.

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i lived in kbh, denmark for a year when i was 19-20yo. these danish girls... not too affectionate at all, like to have too many one night stands, quite easy, don't make good LTR GFs. they don't like to commit until the age of 30 too much. they are good for one night stands tho.

for a LTR i d much rather choose any eastern european, russian, or even philippine girl.

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Wayne Gretzky

I never prohibited my girlfriends to see their exes. If they want to cheat on me they will anyway, no matter what I tell them. Giving ultimata like this: "If you see him, we're over" increases the chance of cheating by 80% because right now, this girl knows you love the fuck out of her, and she's not afraid of losing you to the slightest.

So the best thing you can do is dump her sorry disrespectful ass, and she may or may not come back to you. (Rationally speaking... you shouldn't allow her to come back, but I know that it can be very hard not to do so....)

But trust me... it's impossible for you not to fall in love with another girl if this is over. Just go out and meet women, you will find out that there are not only better looking, and generally better girls than her, but girls you can actually fall in love with. That's what I'm doing at the moment too, since my ex gf left me.

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