I think you misunderstood me. I don't mean that you can substitute all your inner game for size....without inner game you wont be attractive at all I think.

I just mean that if comparing two guys with the same level of inner game and then one goes to the gym and gets big while the other doesnt then the gym guy will end up with more inner game simply from his size. He will be more confident and alpha than the other guy who is still the same size.

Of course I think that game is about whats on the inside, but Im just saying that I think that getting bigger makes you feel more masculine and physically dominant which will increase confidence and social dominance....IMO[/quote]

damn dude what is your body fat %, no homo, must be close to nothing to be only 141

It makes a HUGE difference! The guy In th pic above has a great phisique and obviously works very hard on it, I'm not hating in any way.

But I am around 6ft and of stocky muscular build, women love feeling safe and secure and me putting my arm around a girl (16.5" biceps) automatically makes her feel that way.

Most women have body issues and being next to me makes most women feel petite and delicate.

Also things like when we walk through I crowd I can take her hand and lead the way confidant that people will move out of my way. I get served quicker at bars, other men show me more respect as to avoid p@ssing me off.

All of those things scram ALPHA MALE to women

Jay86

Jay87 this is what I think. I see big guys getting more respect all the time, probably people dont even realise they do it but it happens, and it must make you feel more confident if people are acting like that around you. I mean if your about to walk through a door and sooner big dude is about to walk through from the other direction most guys would probably let him through first. And bet they do it a lot less when they're bigger than the other guy walking through.

And tbh I see so many more big guys that are REALLY confident compared to skinny guys. You may get a skinny guy who is confident but not often is it REALLY confident.

And to be honest logically it makes sense for us to have evolved with this indict to respect the big guy more. Back in the day (ie. Hundreds of thousands of years ago), if you didn't then big guy could just beat the shit out of you or just kill you. But if you did that for everyone then you wouldn't ever look alpha and wouldn't get laid so when you bigger and you can get away with acting alpha without risk then you would.

And seeing as we have the same brains it makes sense that we still think like this.

Its really not being "big" that makes you more alpha, Its going after what you want and pushing yourself to achieve what you want in your chosen field.

For example someone like Bear Grills is not muscular and in no way a lean ripped individual either, but he stands strong knowing that every day he is pushing himself as far as possible in his "Labour of Love".

I garuantee you that if today you purse whatever it is you are truly passionate about and please try not to feel like a BOSS at the end of the day. If you go after what you want in life and stand strong despite rejection or acceptance (yes both are damaging id you let them get to your head) just sit back and watch how much more congruent you are and how many more people seem to be drawn to you.

Screw the cars, screw the money. screw the muscles the only thing it takes to make it is BALLS

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I think its as much about self confidence as it is looking good.

[quote=""The Gift""]I agree. Big isn't everything..

I'm 6ft and 141lbs...the numbers mean that I'm some skinny kid, right?

I'll let you decide:



Correct nutrition is as important as going to the gym, perhaps even more so. This will seperate you from the weekend warriors in the gym.[/quote]

your ripped man! if your only 141lbs then ima really start eating healthy lol

Well, it doesn't significantly matter whether you're a buffed up superman, a malnourished looking guy, or a fat chubby fella since it all boils down to your confidence. Buffing up simply adds to your confidence. Furthermore, if you feel the need to have a good and healthy body to pump up your self-respect, then hit the gym as much as you want!

I started lifting heavily before I got into pickup, and the number of girls I pulled skyrocketed. I know everyone talks about the inner game...but as a start, yes, getting ripped/jacked/just looking fit, will make you naturally more attractive to girls. You will notice the change, and you will like it.

Obviously, I still have self esteem/ego issues, that's why I'm in the pickup community (to get over them)...but lifting definitely helps out in the beginning. In the long term, I think you're going to want to focus on your inner self while maintaining a healthy outer self.

If you don't carry yourself like an Alpha already going to the gym won't help that much( will probably build some confidence though so that will help you be more Alpha, although I found that contact sports build more confidence). If you do then it might enhance the image that you are an Alpha.

Couple of months ago when I didn't watch my body language(posture, eye contact, etc), despite being a big guy I did not look alpha at all. After I started acting like an alpha friends noticed immediately and said that I look different now, one went as far as saying that "I look like a goddamn man now". That shitty body language was costing me a couple of inches of height as well.