Hi there. I've been approaching girls quite a bit since read several books, but I've noticed something: none of them are in the least bit attracted to me. It doesn't make a lot of sense to me, I'm 6 foot tall, blond and not overweight. How do I find out what I'm doing that's unattractive??

I'm in London if that helps. I think it's a particularly difficult city for single guys because there are so many more guys than girls here.

Show your approach to some friends, find a pua in your area, or even some girls and get their take on what you may be doing that is turning the women off. Remember attraction isn't always just an instant thing, you have to build it sometimes. It could be in your approach, your body language, your voice inflections or tonality, or a few other little things. Bottom line is without us being able to watch you approach its going to be tough for us to give feedback.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

look, i know london very well. the key is to not do what 99% of the wankers do. adjust your approach, your style, your game. don't sweat it. it's about experience too. all this stuff is not worth anything in your brain. you have to test what works for you and your environment.

So don't make it look like you're trying to pick the girl up, just have the intention to make her happy at that moment? Is that what you mean?

I'm not really sure I know that 99% of the guys do in London because I've actually never seen a guy approach a girl he doesn't know here.

If you really are, at the very least "average looking" and you approach even occasionally then some girls WILL find you attractive. Even if you have pretty bad game, and you approach 10 girls, chances are that at leas one of them will naturally find you attractive. Honestly its most likely in your head, work on your inner game man.

This is one that helped me, say to yourself over and over again all day, when you wake, before sleep, at meals, ect.:

"Everyone I talk to is attracted to me"
OR
"Everyone likes me"
OR
"Everyone wants to fuck me"
OR
"I always get good reactions when meeting people"

Hope this helps

^This, he is probably right.
Try geting a better mindset,,, where you are attractive, and women need to qualify themselves to you, not the other way around.

Remember, you are the prize, and dont put women on a pedestal like an AFC.

Cheers.

I can go through the motions of approaching, talking, getting her number (they never say no) and then I try to contact her and either get an excuse "I'm too busy" or they just don't anwer and don't reply.

I've even had a girl ask me for my number. We exchanged numbers and I called her in a couple of days and she said she was too busy and wanted to concentrate on exams. WTF?!

yeah probably some inner game would help.
you know what i was thinking... I couldnt find any page on here where you could possibly post a pic, and get tips on style and such. is that possible to do that? of course there couldnt be any slamming or making fun of people. but I was just wondering is that possible for us to set that up?

When it comes to style, this is one of the few times asking a girl for help is useful. Girls will usually chomp at the bit to dress a guy too. I did this recently and I have gotten nothing but compliments on how much better I look now.

Get tighter jeans, better shoes, avoid plaid shirts, if your hair sucks wear a stylish hat, hang out with a natural (even better than observing a PUA at first), and practice every day. Already late to my night game activities... someone please answer my mom daughter sets question in the sticking point thread, I'll be back on tomorrow to check it out.

thats smart. I think I will try that. so I guess i would say hey I'm looking to upgrade my wardrobe. what can you recommend me? and then how do you get the girls number so you can set up that shopping date?

As for observing PUA's here in my city is very lacking, you get in contact with one and you do a sarging night and then you never hear back from them again

i never make it obvious i am trying to pick up. just trying to have fun and giving her the opportunity to be a part of my world. then i escalate. in my humble opinion, do not go out with mindset YOU want to make HER happy. you know you will.

london is a challenging field, too many wankers! these women are spoiled by attention but... they are women. they pretend, but WILL SETTLE for unique (in a good way, not creepy, wierd way).

hotter the girl is, the LONLIER. if you make it clear you don't care about looks, like 99% of the wankers, but want to know HER (and this is a great tip), will test her to see if she is interesting enough FOR YOU, you will at least have your foot in the door.

what i said here is pretty general and can be applied to most women. if she gives you her number, it's an IOI.

i had many girls bail on me after giving me their number and seeming really into me.

if she does not pick up your calls or flakes, then you did not build enough attraction and/or leave a lasting impression. i am working on this myself, and it's one of my weak points actually.