I tried to #close a girl that I've had a nice conversation with on a dating website. However, she hasn't responded to this message, even though she read it four days ago. She said earlier that it would take a lot before she would decide to meet someone.

How do I solve this one?

This is the very reason why I advise guys to make plans for a day 2 prior to getting a girl's number. She has absolutely nothing invested in your interaction. Put yourself in her shoes. If you were an attractive woman getting a plethora of male attention online, and somebody who didn't create enough attraction asked for your number, how easy would it be for you to simply not reply. This is one of the major disadvantages of online game vs actual infield.

You've essentially given her complete power of your relationship and thus drastically lowered your value.

If you want to continue this, then you're going to have to play the game. Put in the time to build comfort prior to going in for the kill.

Well, we have been writing for ten weeks. I wrote her today:

"I'm gonna take jog to explore [area X] tomorrow afternoon. Just tell me if you want to join "

Answer:

"Thanks for the offer, but I still think it's a bit scary, even though I like running. And isn't it hard to keep a conversation going while running? Just wondering."

I think this girl is very shy. Any ideas how to convince her?

10 weeks??? That's outrageous. Sounds like she's just in it for the attention. My only suggestion at this point, is to offer her something non-threatening. Invite her to a public place where you and some friends will be and encourage her to bring a friend of her own. If she declines that, then abandon ship and start some new sets.

You're spending way too much time on online game. Real game is done face to face. These dating sites are just tools to meet people. There's only so much attention and comfort that you can build without actually seeing the person.

When I meet a girl online, I stick to what I call "The Four Hour Rule." If it takes more than 4 cumulative hours of communication on our collective parts, then I eject. Say I spent 10 minutes writing her that initial email. Then I get a response from her that I figure took 7 minutes to write. Then we spend 30 minutes chatting. We're now at 47 minutes. If I can't get her to meet up by the time we hit a cumulative 4 hours, then I will straight up tell her that I'm not interested in being a virtual friend, and wish her the best of luck in her endeavors. A man of value is busy.

When I number close, if they don't give me their number. I give them mine, and say something like, "Haha! not talking to you on here anymore. Text me!".

80% of the time they text me.

i was reading until the 10 weeks mark, dude, move on? there are 10 million others available!

keep the conversation light and interesting in the first few emails, and then go for the number close, 10 weeks is way too long bro.

move on from this one