This is 60 years of challenge's answer...
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The Fantasy of Purity
She only has sex with me. That means she loves me.
Why do guys stay in exclusive relationships when they admit they are bored and not getting the type of sex they want. Just because supposedly the girl is so sweet and innocent. A so called good girl.
So I’m calling your bluff.
If you’re so bored and you’re not having the type of relationship you really, want then get out of it.Why do these guys stay?
It’s because they are scared they will never really be loved.
I believe despite the boredom some guys are enjoying a secret benefit of the exclusive relationship that they are embarrassed to talk about.
The Fantasy of Purity. She is only having sex with me. That means she loves me. I am loved. I can see why the “Bad Girl” who loves sex is such a threat to any man who equates being loved with a
woman’s sexual choices.
M/w Thinking
If my girlfriend loves kinky sex that means she might easily hook up with someone else if I’m not
there to defend it. If she does have sex with someone else that means she doesn’t love me.Which means I am not loved.
Defenders of Purity
Are you really going to spend your whole life trying to defend a woman from having sex with someone else so you can feel loved?
Are you really going to be too scared to take a long vacation with your buddies. Are you going to forbid her go to Vegas with her girlfriends? Are you going to sacrifice your freedom for her purity.
The truth is nobody will ever love you unconditionally besides your mom. But in reality no one can really love you but yourself. Your girlfriends only love the feeling of sexual attraction you give them.
It’s all about the pleasure chemicals. And the action is all happening inside her body.
When the feeling of sexual attraction you provide is gone sooner or later she moves on and some other guy is getting his pole smoked. Sexual attraction is a selfish bitch. There are many guys who have absolutely no problem dating several women and do so with ease. They seem to sleep well at night. I bet they would tell you they feel loved.
What’s their secret?
They don’t equate she is having or might have sex with another man as meaning she doesn’t love them.They understand she never really loved them anyway. Because it’s a relationship built on sexual attraction she could never love them in the way we all really hope to be loved, unconditionally.
They get their unconditional love from family. They get their self esteem from work and through hobbies. They volunteer, give to charity, go to church, socialize to give value and make hundreds of human connections throughout their lives keeping them fulfilled and feeling loved.
There are many other forms of love out there in the world. If you really want to be loved practice giving to others. Just like if you want good friends be a good friend first.
Are you ready to stop relying on a woman’s purity as the benchmark that you are loved.And if so, what are you waiting for?
Purity is just a fantasy.
Be free and love yourself.
You will always have Freedom
Women don’t just give away pure female affection with no strings attached for long periods of time.Purity is their trump card. Purity is a billion dollar business. And women are all too happy to give you
your fantasy, but you will pay for it. Whether that be through freedom, money, time, drama, supporting
kids, whatever.
It’s been said that as men we are biologically wired to feel repulsed when a woman we love has sex
with another man. We find it too hard to accept their affection after that.
Maybe it’s a defense against raising a child that is not ours. You might not be able to stop these
emotions but there is one thing that will always cheer you up.
You may never have one womans purity.
But you will always have freedom.