Hey guys, I’ve got a bit of low-key game for you today. I know a lot of you guys don’t feel comfortable with the high-energy game that a lot of systems use so I’m going to give you another option. This technique combines several of the methods presented in my book into one very simple approach.

Skill Level: Intermediate
Duration: 30 seconds or less
Environment: Day, Night, Indoors, and Outdoors
Most Useful: First dates, female acquaintances, street game, anywhere personal space is normally acknowledged and the environment isn’t too loud

Now, everyone knows the closer you are to a woman the more it suggests a certain level of comfort and familiarity. Typically this has been used in the material out there to keep up appearances to outside observers and to gauge your progress. BUT what do you do if you have failed to build enough attraction before entering the comfort phase?

Don’t worry. It’s an ease fix with reverse proximity attraction building. Women, like men, read proximity in much the same way and they tend to be more sensitive to it than we are. So, what exactly is reverse proximity attraction? Simply put it is the creation of attraction based creating proximity situations SHE initiates and the amplification of attraction based on how you react to these situations.

Confused?

Let me clarify things for you.

But first let me just say this: Yes, I’m about to give you what amounts to a Jedi mind trick. Yes, it’s quick and easy. And yes, you have to have some poise to pull it off.


Here are the four steps:

1. Create a request.
2. Act on your own request.
3. Focus on the result.
4. Misconstrue the result as an acknowledgement of her attraction.

Step 1: Create a request.

Let’s say you are out on a date at a restaurant with a girl you just met and things are going okay, but the attraction doesn’t seem to be strong enough from her side. So what do you do? You make a request creating proximity. If you have a good sense of timing this can be done nonverbally, but if not simply ask her to pass you something like the salt.

Note: This works best when touching is still new and potentially awkward.

Step 2: Act on your own request.

You reach for the salt at the same time she does and your hands meet. Now, Joe Average will immediately pull back because a. he’s embarrassed and b. he doesn’t want to seem too forward. Instead you will pause for a moment displaying self-confidence. This is where the poise comes in and you can’t react at her touch. If you do this won’t work.

Step 3: Focus on the result.

After your hands have met and have remained at the same spot while touching you will want to focus on the result. Look at her hand on your hand for a few seconds. This will take a little bit of practice on your part because if you don’t focus your gaze long enough the impact is negated. If you stare for too long you’ll come off as weird or at the very least it will read as something being wrong.

In cultures where personal space is observed this will create a slight amount of embarrassment in her. Generally speaking this will cause her to forget you asked her for the salt in the first place and she will think she initiated the contact. It will read this way even more so if you used nonverbal eye coding to create her reaction.

Note: I’ve included a simple nonverbal eye-coding example below.

So, at this point you have created an emotional response (slight embarrassment) though seeding (a verbal or nonverbal request).

Step 4: Misconstrue the result as an acknowledgement of her attraction.

Having focused on the result by holding your gaze you have basically asked the question, “What are you doing?” If you do nothing else here you will create an awkward situation and make her self-conscious. So, instead you want to create another emotional response that is more favorable. This is REALLY easy to do. All you have to do is with a calm expression on your face slowly look up into her eyes and hold your gaze for a few seconds.

Note: If you have trouble looking into her eyes feel free to use the forehead or single eye workaround.

Now, what you are doing here is using a female technique where you look for verification of the truth of her actions in her eyes. Her embarrassed emotional response will conflict with the new nonverbal information your gaze is conveying to her. In other words you are basically asking, “Is your display of attraction genuine?” By nonverbally asking her this question she will naturally assume that she did create a display of attraction by touching you. Her initial emotional response shifts to the new emotional response of attraction. Since most women filter the world through their emotions this shift creates an even stronger bond between you.

Holding your gaze allows you to display even more self-confidence amplifying her attraction and from here you have a few options.

a. Reward: Give her a complement for feeling attraction.
b. Release: Look away as though the feelings between you became too intense releasing the tension. Feel free to keep the create tension/release tension thing going throughout the night.
c. Return: If the emotional response is particularly strong forget about the rest of the meal and ask her if she wants to go home with you.

Reverse Proximity Attraction Street Open:

In this example I’m going to give you a quick example of using reverse proximity through nonverbal eye coding.

Step 1: When you are approaching a woman on the street you would like to talk to look her in the eyes.

If she:

Holds your gaze = Green light.
Looks down then returns your gaze = Green light, but she’s a little shy
Looks away to the side = Yellow light. It might be a sign of disinterest or she might be playing hard to get/ego display.
Looks away to the side not returning gaze = red light. She’s not interested.

Step 2: As you near walking toward her you will want to maintain a path that will collide with her if one of you doesn’t move.

Use nonverbal eye-coding to determine your direction. In other words look to the left if you plan to walk to the left and vice versa.

Step 3: Step in the opposite direction you eye-code to her. Stop before you run into her as you both try to go around on the same side.

Step 4: Both of you will start walking again, but eye-code the wrong way again. Stop. Repeat.

Note: If you do this too many times she will think you’re making fun of her so keep this in mind.

Step 5: Open verbally with a lighthearted joking delivery.

Examples:

“Are you always this directionally challenged?”
“Oh my God. Would you please get out of my way?”
“I bet you meet all your boyfriends this way.”

Optional: Place your hands lightly on her arms and gently move her to the side. Then open.

Depending on how much time you have to work with hold a conversation. Or go for a quick number with something like exaggerating how you’ve had an accident and you’ll have to get her contact info. Just because she’s cute doesn’t mean she’ll get off that easy. Make a date to go shopping together in the future to replace your scuffed “irreparable” shoes and to have lunch. Or maybe go for a walk and give her lessons on proper walking? Anything using callback humor is good.

That’s it! Now get out there and level up your game.

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Hi, I'm A. Fahren and I'm an author. I love to travel, socialize, and am hopelessly addicted to movies. That's about it.

Enjoyed the post, Nice for 1st meet up connection!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I especially liked the street opener, I've used tactics similar to this in the past and they always seem to work well

Classic! That should definitely get a laugh and open a sexual frame in a nonthreatening way[/quote]

excellent post-I'm saving this one.

Furthemore-i really really liked how you organized this. Well done.

Thanks.

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Hi, I'm A. Fahren and I'm an author. I love to travel, socialize, and am hopelessly addicted to movies. That's about it.

I'm a sucker for a well organised post.
Especially when the content is as good as this one too!

Good shit. I love the street opener.

There are so many stone cold bitches in my town when I am walking the streets at lunch (in a very friendly open air SPAM) it amazes me.

I have been trying the "eye contact expiriment" where you basically stare at girls approaching you in the eye and see if they maintain eye contact, look away, smile, etc.

And only saying hi back or smiling back if they do first — (and I catch myself breaking this rule ALL THE TIME), but what I am finding is that 99% of the girls I make eye contact with look immediately away and turn stone cold.

I know for sure it is not my approach, body language, or anything of the sort because if I am not on the street I can talk to anyone. I am not the only one who says women here are cold bitches to approach, in fact my town has been ranked as the worst city to live for a single man more than once by the "mainstream media" LOL.

But I love that day game gambit.

I need some less balsy shit for my "default 3" I will revert to when my mind draws a blank, but if I open a couple girls with some warmups, I can surely try out the "cock block" (I like giving them simple names) on some girl who is walking down the sidewalk in the opposite direction as me.

There is a difference between a gaze and a stare. Maybe they are picking up on your overly eager desire? If she thinks you want something she'll immediately go into "I don't want it mode." Sort of like when a salesperson calls you on the telephone. A lot of people walk around looking unapproachable. People frown, look down, etc. and it is often subconscious. Although, it is hard to say what it could be without seeing what is going on with the situation.

If it is such a bad place to live maybe you should think about moving.

Here's an old school trick for getting women to open you on the street. Relax your face, slightly raise your eyebrows, and part your lips a little. As you near her on the street give her good eye contact and seem like you are about to say something while she holds eye contact. Often her brain will fill the void by easing the tension by thinking you've said hello when you haven't said anything and she will say hello.

Not really game per se, but it is good for new guys that sometimes need that little extra bit of confidence to get things rolling.

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Hi, I'm A. Fahren and I'm an author. I love to travel, socialize, and am hopelessly addicted to movies. That's about it.

Good stuff. I am not kicking myself but last Friday after work I had to take my daughter to get a dress and was dragging my 2 year old son with me through the mall. They had walked up ahead of me a little way and this HB9 walks past me and we just lock eye contact the entire time.

With neither of us breaking contact we both gave each other the ole' "I want to fuck you" smile but I was also in this mood of "I just want to get this shit done and get home" mode so I didn't stop to pick her up. It was a sure thing had I stopped her.

I know that most of my day game problems are internal. I always have some excuse lined up for not making a move there — even in this situation above. Granted, I really WAS in a hurry to get the hell out of there and home, but I should have stopped this girl for sure.

I have much more confidence now than I did almost 2 months ago because I am getting some pussy from multiple angles where I had just been dumped on my ass in a LTR gone bad. I think everything will work out in time. I do find myself in a better mood and just randomly talking to strangers and such now and having a level of confidence in my demeanor which I haven't had in a long time.

I think ultimately that will make a bigger difference than anything else.

this is good, lots of play possible with the whole automobile accident thing. "do we need to report this to our insurance companies?" "we" thing, togetherness. (playful exasperated tone) "well, I guess I'm going to need your name and phone number for the insurance report". "are you always this bad of a driver? killed anybody?"

This is a solid plan. If done correctly this can be so playful on the street. Perfect for the boardwalk. I'll be sure to try this, and let you know how it works

Cant wait to try this on my campus.

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I like this alot. I'm thinking bout using it tomorrow.Its perfect for me opening is a problem for me i always get nervous and it takes me too long to open, then i seem like a weirdo by the time i do build the confidence n get shut down.

Has anyone tried this with an ex gf? I'm about ask this girl (seriously dated 1,5 months 2 months ago) to have dinner with me. This mainly sounds good to rebuild the attraction that I think I lost, being a little needy and AFC..