ive been dating a girl for 4 months on off and have finally got it stable.
After last nights best sexual antics she asked me how long i thought we'd last i said a while, she said forever; cute i know. But then she went on to tell me she didnt want kids and get married, i searched around and found out that maybe it was a shit test, i told her i didnt mind not getting married but having kids is important to me, i continued to ask her what scare her about having kids she said child birth, i said thats fine and mentioned adoption etc, at the end i said to her it sounds like she doubting the future and we went back and forth with her saying she didnt doubt it and i said well dont try and scare me.

I really want to have a word about it to her but when i attempted it she said "yeh i stuck by my guns".

i want to bring it up to say that it is very important to me and not to doubt the future and take each day as it comes i know she may not want those things now but it's something that she may change her mind on as it has done with one of my family members, also it is way too soon to be talking about it shes 19.

You are 19 so I'd say unless things get really serious where you are wanting to marry then I'd let it go. Like you said there is going to be lots of time for her to change her mind. The way I thought about things when I was 16 wasn't how I thought when I was 18, 21, 25, or even now that I'm 30. Your values and opinions on things shift a bunch. As women get closer to 30 that clock starts ticking.

If you see yourself being with her a long time then maybe it is something you should talk about. Right now I say just enjoy being with each other. You are both young what you want will probably change a lot.

Best of luck,

Jon

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I wouldn't worry about the not wanting kids thing
"accidents" happen condoms break.....or come defective from the manufacturer

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I like your thinking xD

but on a serious note cheers jon

JSmooth i like what you have to say about values changing, and at 19 its not something that needs to be brought up right away. If your still in a stage with her where you think she might be shit testing you than its wayyy too early to bring up kids. If things are stable and you guys are spending a ton of time together than maybe you need to find out the reason she doesnt want kids. Its a major difference in values and if after a while if she doesnt budge, you need to know when to call it quits and find another one who wants the same things in life as you. Keep in mind that you might also need to compromise, for example if she has a fear of child birth but is ok with adoption as you mentioned you are

You're 19, so enjoy life, you shouldn't be thinking about having kids.
Live a little. Once you have kids you get tied down to work, wife and responsibilities.

Take a needle and poke tiny tiny holes all over your condoms.

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