Quick backstory: saw a girl on POF with very similar interestes and musical taste. She mentioned she like Ricky Gervais, but not in an attraction sort of way. Her profession was listed as "Ninja Spy". She had a LONG list of what she is looking for in a date.

My opener: I mentioned I was glad Ricky Gervais didn't get her hot and bothered or she wasn't allowed to talk to me. I asked her if she'd checked out new episodes of one of his shows. I complimented her on her taste in music (I could tell it was important to her). Then I left it at that.

Her reply: Something like "You can tell a lot about someone by thier taste in music."

Not bad, but short. My thought is she gets a lot of messages. I took it as a challenge, but I also wanted to make things more interesting. Based on her profile I'd say she's got a sense of humor.

Here is where I want some critique. My follow up was this:

Any thoughts? Be harsh.

wow nice message, i like im going to have to use that one.
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I thought I'd post an update to this. I was able to get her to meet me for a drink the same day, it took about 12 messages in total. I won't get into too many details, but if you'd like to know the specifics just ask.

The next few replies I sent involved more banter with the same tone as that one I posted. She moved to more serious topics pretty quickly, and I responded with answers that demonstrated value, but still keeping the banter light – lots of jokes, smileys, etc. I dropped my name around message 3 and then my digits around message 7.

I moved things over to text with message 12: (lime was her answer to question #1)

A few quick texts back and forth (similar tone) and we planned to meet for drinks when she got off work.


Now, I feel like I should talk about how the actual date went – because, well, it's sort of funny. No, I didn't fclose, because frankly, after meeting her I had no desire. She talked quite a bit about her parole officer (question #3 backfired!), talked about fights she'd been in, about an ex (who may or may not still be in the picture), and had no less than NINE drinks to my two. When she would go to the bathroom she would stop and chat up guys she knew in the bar we were at. Pretty much one of the worst dates I've ever been on. I politely paid for our bill and got the hell out of there, but not before wasting $65 and 2 hours of my life. She also looked NOTHING like her pictures. I suppose thats part of the online game. Now I just need to brush up on my bail game, hahaha.