I was at the gym at college with my friend Adam. After he does one set on the leg machine (where you push the weights up using your legs while laying kind of back) one of the girls who works there walks over to my buddy. She tells him something along the lines of

"You're doing it wrong, I thought you weren't supposed to lock your legs."

Now, when she said this, she said it in a playful tone. Also, while she said, she had a finger inbetween her lips (I hope this picture is getting across).

My friend spoke 2 sentences to her and left. Later, I told him that she was showing signs she wanted him. He brushed it off saying "Nah, and I was locking my legs on it too, which is wrong. But it was only 390 which is light for me so I didn't care."

Am I wrong? Did I misinterpret the situation? Or am I right that she was flirting with him and my friend Adam should have tried to go after her?

It would be impossible to tell without having seen the interaction in person, but it's generally best to trust your gut in situations like this.

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I did see it though. I was literally like 10 feet away watching this 20 second interaction take place. It's not like it was recounted beforehand. I saw it up front and made a conclusion based on my observations.

I would have to say your friend was probably correct. If a woman that is interested goes out of her way to approach a man, the signs of interest are a plenty. She may not show it with her words, but the body language will generally be overwhelming even to the less experienced on looker and especially to the one receiiving the interest. If you saw it as interest but your friend didn't, odd's are it wasn't.

As 870 said, it's impossible to for us as third parties to tell you if it was or not, but in general, women's bodies never lie, even if their words do. It should of been overwhelming. Strong eye contact, a sort of strut, semi seductive walk and even a look back as she walked away. etc etc. If a woman is making the effort, she will certainly expect a result. He natural instinct will be to press it ( draw attention to herself) to at least see she had an effect.

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I agree with the other guys but it is also important to remember that initial attraction is everywhere, you see a cute girl you would bang everywhere. A woman sees a man she is attracted to everywhere. It's not a big deal when a woman opens a man, I got opened 3 times last night and got sent a sexual overture by another(and I'm the ugly one between my buddy and I). It's just initial attraction. Initial attraction is a good first impression it can be made better or it can be destroyed and you become completely unattractive.

Was there an initial attraction? Perhaps, I agree with 870 and going with your gut. We don't normally open people we aren't interested in, her language pattern was also submissive something we do to people we are attracted to.

Just my thoughts... You need to add in whether there was preens, submissive signals, etc. Attraction is everywhere.

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From what I noticed, she walked over, said the quote, but it wasn't what she said that raised my attention, it was how she said. Sounded very playful in a tone that didn't match what her normal voice sounded like.

Additionally, while she said this, she sort of swayed her hips to one side while standing, then stopped and rested her finger on her lip while my buddy spoke to her.

If you see only one body language sign you may misinterpret it, if there are several, you can be sure... I am 99% sure after 3 signs...

What he said. As I see/read it, body language is always a cluster. It's not one gesture that means something. I'ts the combination of gestures that means something.

For example:
If you cross your arms in a conversation, it, in combination with closed feet and not smiling means a defensive position in the conversation. or disagreeing.

but if you cross your arms while your outside and waiting for a train, it just could mean that you find it cold outside.

So basicly you can't say "crossing arms -> disagreeing", its the combination of multiple things what makes it mean something.

So if you see one courtship gesture (or sub-consious IOI), look for other gestures and try to figure out what they mean in combination. Then you can put this into your advantage.

just my view on this.

-Q

it is what it is, body language is good for making educated guesses,

generally positive body language is positive and negative body language is negative, we tend to be positive towards people we feel positively towards and negative towards people we feel negative towards, anything that indicates anything towards being positive is a positive sign, there is no need to overthink this too hard, if you see positive body language you might as well assume that person likes you, but just because you like someone or are attracted to them does not mean you will sleep with them, just the simple fact that agirl walked up and talked to your friend should be a good enough reason for him to talk to her if he is interested as she actually put some energy in to doing something for him, if it was attraction or just a friendly gesture is fairly irrelivant, it is always worth a shot if you are interested

all the other posts in this thread also raise good points, if you think it is interest, it most likely is

From what you describe it sounds to me like it may have been a cluster, with the hips, the tone of voice and the finger on the lips as she was speaking, seems like unthreatening and submissive behaviour.

Perhaps she was genuinely trying to be helpful and give a few pointers, but in my opinion that could have just been her opener.

Not intentionally trying to stereotype here, but its in an effort to establish what type of gym user she was - Was she quite the athletic type who knew what she was talking about, looked the part and wasn't afraid of working up a sweat in the gym? She may have just been trying to be helpful. Even so I couldn't totally dismiss this as she attempted to start a conversation and to some extent she displayed a cluster.

But if she was one of these girly girls who just chats around the water cooler with near flawless makeup and goes just walk on the treadmill for 30 minutes chatting with their friends, then this was almost a certainly just a opportune reason to get to talk to your friend, was she with any other friends who was your peripheral, who may have been observing also?

I'm just trying to understand the reason behind why would she really care about your friends' technique on a machine, but to whatever aim, it seemed friendly and constructive.

Based on what I've gathered from your post, although probably would have like to seen it for myself to be certain, the body language seems to sway me to believe your observation sounds fairly accurate.