Sometimes I feel that however attracted you are to someone and they are to you, there is still the issue of the jealous Ex-girlfriends, the jealous friends, generally Jealous people.

If they see someone has something they can't have they do everything in their power to get between them.

eg. Getting you to let slip on things behind your partner's back. (easy when you are drunk)
Seducing you to make your girlfriend jelous.
Spreading rumors (whether they be true or not)


comments like "Oh, he's a player, stay well clear", "doesn't he already have a girlfriend?", "he said he slept with you",


I need tips on how to overcome this, as it's the ONLY problem I have. If not then I'm just going to have to go round sleeping with randoms.

I find it best to ignore these people. When you ignore them, they try even harder to break you up or cause drama. In doing so, it becomes more obvious what they are doing, and then it makes them look like the miserable, jealous scoundrels that they are.

- Z Dubya

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Simcity, I am copying and pasting your question into Zip's thread. I hope you don't mind, but I think she can give you a good answer on this. If you like, I can delete it. Just let me know.

I actually have this very issue a lot myself. In some situations I ignore it. In others I call them on their shit. Sometimes the stuff works, other times it doesn't. Nothing works consistently yet, because there's another party you're dealing with.

cool, Zip gave a MASSIVE long essay about it
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Sometimes you don't realise who the shit stirrers are though. Thinking back, I start to realise who were the problem sons of bitches, not just my "mates" but family aswell, which makes it harder. It baffles me how someone could be so nice to you to your face and the second your back is turned be so malicious and hateful towards you. It makes me sick to the stomach.

I recently had some abuse on bebo.com where a "jealous fat one" told me i was "so fucking ugly and you drive around in your dads car thinking your cool and noone likes you". It has something to do with me sleeping with one of her friends (twice ) and leaving her friend 4 days later for some other girl.

Despite all of this abuse miss fatty throws at me, I'm 95% sure she is attracted to me so I might sleep with her to shut her up. Anyone think this is a bad idea? (I'm serious)

My rule is if I am attracted enough to her to do her, then go for it. If not, there's just not a damn thing you can do about it, cause if I ain't attracted, I just can't do it.

Don't ever listen to someone you don't believe has your interest at heart. If they're not a close friend or family member then most likely its bull anyways.

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SIMPLE. Don't tell anybody who you are gaming. Keep that shit to yourself and on the down low. How it's supposed to be down in the first place.