Hi everyone,

situation is this: girlfriend is VERY in to me. Great sex, everything's good, I'm in the control of the relationship, then the following happens.

Wednesday we set up an ad hoc meeting, we ended up watching a movie, then no sex afterwards because she only had 45 mins left and didn't want to hurry. Fine with me, I don't like fast sex anyways.

We arranged she would sleep over on friday.

I decided to not text for 2 days. Just to make her wonder where I was up to, and because I actually was very busy the last 2 days.

I get a couple of messages from her:
"I want to see you so bad",
"Do you wanna hang out?"
etc.

This afternoon I messaged back something along the lines of:
"Hey, you can come by around 8. Don't forget to bring your suit "

She bought a very whoreish suit for a carnaval night at school, where you're supposed to dress like a whore or something... which I truly believe is gonna be very sexy. (I didn't play any of that "I'm afraid other guys'll hit on you" crap btw). I haven't seen it, hence the message.

I would expect she would be hurrying to come over. Instead I get this:
"Hey, I'm going to a party now, you're too late xx"

While we made a clear appointment two days ago, and I KNOW she's into me. I'm smelling a HUGE test. She's basically begging me to text "I thought we had an appointment, bla bla", but I decided not to message back (yet), if only to deprive her of my attention.

I think this is too much disrespect. How would you play it out? I'm thinking two more days of silent SPAM, then VERY rough sex.

I'd very much like to hear your suggestions!

Greets,
GreenGranted

I'm confused, did you not text her back after the messages she sent you? If so, can't blame her for making other plans. Sounds like she won your shit test...

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We already arranged she would come on friday, she didn't just 'make other plans'.

She send me 3 or so messages, 2 of which she sent during the time I was taking my exams (today), so I couldn't even respond to those 2 even if I wanted to. Hardly a shit test, in my opinion.

This afternoon, I DID reply with a message.

Yet she flakes?

Help make this clearer and give the time frame that everything went on. You said you didn't text her for 2 days, so I can only assume she texted you and you ignored them. If this is not the case, I apologize for misunderstanding. If this is the case, there is no reason to ignore someone that you are dating unless you are freezing them out for a reason. From what I read, there was no reason and you just wanted to ignore her. Sure, you could have received the texts during an exam or while you were busy. The beauty about texting is, you can respond at ANY time. Get a little down-time after your exam, send a quick response. Sounds like you wanted to play games, and she played right along and left you high and dry tonight.

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The hottest ginger you'll ever meet.

I don't have an ego, I just love how awesome I am.

I will try to place this in perspective. You are right, I wanted to play a little hard to get the last two days. But this was nothing more than ignoring facebook chats (which I barely check) and some messages during exams, which I replied to maybe 4 hours later. I was genuinely busy.

More on perspective: I hardly live by my phone. She knows this. I don't have a smartphone (so cant check facebook when I'm not at home). It's not like I messaged her 5 times a day and suddenly stopped.

I repeat: we already made an appointment. I think this is disproportionate reaction.

lmao this post makes me laugh, guys like you don't even deserve girls

Care to elaborate? I don't believe in blunt fact stating on forums like this.

Nice, instead of even being constructively criticizing you just act like a dickhead. Anyway Green my man, you having exams and not responding is completely reasonable, it's not like you were on FB ignoring her while you were on. She flaked on your pre-decided plan, I think it's pretty stupid she didn't even talk to you about whether or not she was going to go before you were meant to meet. This kind of shit really pisses me off, especially since you didn't make other plans.

I really hate having to do something in retaliation because it's quite childish, yeah I know it's probably a shit test for her to respond and act needy. Just ignore it man and if she keeps it up just next her, no need to stoop to any lower level and play games, your the prize man and you can replace her whenever you want, that's your mindset.

Wow, thanks Rory, I was starting to think that "don't reply to text = no sex" was the new pua norm.

I just had a facebook conversation with her (I initiated), in which I asked briefly how her party was. It turned out to be a pretty big thing, official graduation party with all the students of her year. I would never blame her for going to that, but it's her fault for making an arrangement with me, and the way she delivered: "I already have a party, too bad" is quite disrespectful.

Anyway I waited till she asked to see me today, to which I replied "I'm tutoring today, you can stay over tonight", and she agreed. So that's that. I also said: "I missed you quite a bit last night". Just the one line, nothing sentimental. She apologized multiple times.

I'm still planning to tell her in person that I hate the way she flaked on me (I'd hate to do it over facebook), any ideas on how to bring this across?

I don't really regret this happening as of now: I dived in a math book last night (since you guys like perspective: I'm a math/physics student, and I do this for fun), and I finally made a new running schedule (I started with a fierce run this morning). I think I did the right thing.

Comments appreciated, preferably with contructive criticism.

Greets!

well are you guys just dating? cuddle buddies? or thats your GIRLFRIEND. I am confused sorry. If thats your girlfriend... you GOTTA PUT HER ON THE SPOT.

If this is new and you guys are just going out.... DONT TALK ABOUT IT. Ignore it and act like YOU DONT CARE and in addition you can play the game back. ex. be less available to her etc...

She's my girlfriend of 4 months.

So she came over last night, I intended on getting pretty pissed at her, but I didn't, partially due to the fact that she had already apologized multiple times through message and then in person.

I said something along the lines of: "The way you called me off was just ridiculous." But I said it calmly, without anger.

The minute she came in we started kissing on the bed, after 5 minutes she asked "do you want to watch a movie", but I knew it was just a token resistance, so I replied "no, you're mine all night." We had one of the best sexual experiences we had thus far.

I'd say problem handled pretty well, considering the fact that this was the first time she did something like this and she seemed genuinely sorry about it.

Thanks for the replies!