Hello guys some hours ago i went out in my usual night club that i visit everyweek 3 times î entered the club right away and allrighty found some friends in there that i know they usaly sarg there too (looking for womans) there is one thing i realised and i dont know if this also counts as an improvement in pick up but it seems like i have become much more confidence with approaching strange mans? I can remmeber the first time i went in the club or in partys in generall that i could not talk any word with anyone i found it really hard to start a converesetion with anybody even with mans i was also afraid to even talk with the barkeeper now this has changed dramaticly i do not have any problems with talking with strange mans anymore i can easlie go alone and after 5 min i find some guys that hang out with me and we chill together and i allways find a topic to discuss ( im not gay !!) but but my friends are allways bussy with playing video games on the computer or they dont wanna come out with me because they dont like clubs or they allrighty have a girlfriend or stuff like that.

And to hanging out alone in clubs its really borring

Well in the last 3 weeks i collectet 24 new numbers from new ppl that i meet in the club unfortunately 23 of those numbers are guys lol and only one of them is a phone number from a girl seems like i allrighty destroyed a big barrier there im really happy that i can talk to new ppl i never met the approach axiety for approach womans is still the same like it was on the first day when i startet this game 6 month before nothing has changed there yesderday there were 4 hb's sitting on a table right next to me one of them was a girl that i was in school i even remember her name we was in the same class together but even if i know her i could not go there and say something there is something like a barrier that stops me to do it its like something in my head that is trying to stop me to do it like my emotions are working against me i find alot of those girls pretty cute i have some good rutines in my head that i could use for them i mean openers but i just dont do it i think my main fear is not that im getting rejektet my fear is that those girls have a boyfriend and the bf gets angry at me because i approach her girlfriend wich i can understand but if her bf is drunk i dont wanna fight or risk my life in this game i allrighty breaked the first barrier with mans i can talk with any guy in public without any problems why is it 10000 x harder to approach womans? how can i solve this problem i allrighty readed somone posting an answer on this forum that it could be a good training to go on the street and approach 30 womans and ask them for time will this really destroy this mental barrier

how did u guys personal defeatet your approach axiety i think thats the only problem that is holding me back to get a girlfriend because i think i have more then enough knoweldge and informations in my head now i dont think i am a complet newbie anymore

When i see a girl that i like i this is was is going on my head:

Ohhh wow she looks so cute ohh shes so hot.... i have to approach

Dont do it! i warn you your making a big mistake you want to die?? You want to fight with this boyfriend? how do you know she dosent have a bf? maybe hes right behind you or hes just sitting in the next room waiting for her are you sure gonna aproach?

this is what is going on my mind when a girl is infront of me that i like (im not psycho but its true)$


I think my bigest problems are my ansasters because my father is arabic and there the mans are really crazy if u approach the wrong girl they still kill you nothing has changed there in the last 1000 of years... maybe some of my ansaster died because of approaching a wrong girl and now i have this stuck in my memorie : (

(alotugh this cant be true because my father dosent have any aproach axiety at all lol and indeed i live in switzerland where the ppl here have other mentalitie like west world mentalitie

any advice?

23 numbers were guys. That's fine. It means your social. But in my opinion, doesn't take much to be social with guys...seriously fucking takes jack shit - no joke.

But girls different. Focus on girls. Fuck the thought. I know that sinking feeling. We all fucking have it...evolution gave it to us. break away from it.

Approach anxiety gets renewed every day. So I personally do what's called the rejection game. On the subway on my way to my sarging venue, I try to get myself as many rejections from women as possible until I reach my destination. It gets you into social god mode.

dude, forget about it. everyone has AA, it really never goes away. ask the most advanced ppl. and they got it too.

"the wrong girl"? no such thing. you might catch any girl IN A WRONG MOOD, but check for body language, it will give you an indicator about who is worth your time.

unless you are looking for new friends, might i suggest that you stop socializing with guys at the club and focus on women? now that you are more social, move on. keep focused.

fuck it! you will get shot down, you will get rejected. i am a successful, intelligent, social, good-looking guy and it happens to me all the time. trick is, you keep going. you will run into a girl that will like you and that's it. it will all have been worth it. as you gather experience, you will get better at it, more and more girls you run into will give you what you want. don't get discouraged. also, every time you get shot down, it affects you less and less. that allows you to FOCUS.

you are the shit! you are the shit! you are the shit! now go out there!