Assert yourself
You can stand out in a crowd just by having a position of power. To get there, ask for more responsibility than you think you can handle. Go after the things you want instead of sitting back and hoping the boss will recognize you on merit alone. Being assertive about what you want will do more for you than all your silent workdays. Remind your boss from time to time about where you plan on going in this world, lest he forget. He may not care about your goals, but when a job opportunity arises, he will likely think of you, the busybody fly in his ear who won't leave him alone. The squeaky wheel does get the grease.

Learn to talk
People tend to gather around those who can talk and tell good stories. Other than Helen Keller, you'll never see a deaf-mute with an entourage. If you do, send me a letter. Look around at bars and parties, and you can see that the natural sellers have people nearby. The quiet people follow talkers, not necessarily because they admire or respect them, but because the talkers are making all the decisions. Learning to sell yourself is the first step in getting noticed, and if you can sell yourself, you can sell your agenda as well.

Dress sharply
Don't dress for the job you have, dress for the job you want to have. Unless you plan to sling tacos on the corner for the rest of your natural life, start dressing and acting like your superior. The guy who puts on a tie tends to be trusted more than the guy wearing a greasy T-shirt. Appearance alone isn't going to get the job done, but it will grease the sale, and more importantly, it will help you meet chicks that you can take home to mom (or just take home).

Have the ability to laugh at yourself
To be noticed might occasionally mean making an ass out of yourself. Walking on eggshells is no way to make an impression. Guys like Capone and Luciano didn't pussyfoot around and when they entered a room, people straightened up to take notice. Of course these guys made mistakes -- big ones -- that got one of them exiled and the other sent to Alcatraz. Even in prison, Capone stood out in the crowd (which is the one place you'd rather not stand out).

Entertain your audience
The people I always try to steer clear of are those with no temperament, no emotion and no interesting opinions. Your personality needs a spark plug, some bite to make meeting you worth a second visit, otherwise the crowd will avoid you the next time around. If you have too much personality, it's annoying. Too much cheeriness is depressing and a constantly negative personality is a tranquilizer. Find some middle ground between the two and make it your own. If you don't have an interesting personality, there is a perfectly suitable place for you in the world of accounting.

Not everyone can stand out in the crowd, so if you want to be a follower, be one. Smile and nod and be happy listening to more interesting people who love an audience. However, if you want to stand out in the crowd, you should get a good woman on your arm and a reputation for satisfying her. It's important to remember that standing out in the crowd doesn't mean you have to be the boss -- it just means you have to be admired or noticed by those around you.

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my personal theory is and i have to remind myself of this everytime i go out is noone ever remembers the quiet people. My boy and i will go out just to chill and we have woman approach us saying i remember you guys from such and such place you always look like your having fun mind if i join you and we always say of course

Great advice Wild, much appreciated.

It goes without saying that this requires some solid inner game to pull off.

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That's a lot of great information, but I'd like to make one addition to the above section that I quoted.

I agree that dressing nice helps, but other styles shouldn't feel dismissed. I know some people, like myself most of the time, *do* enjoy the look of more ragged clothes. Just as a style decision. A bit of advice I once read that I've kept in mind ever since, is that the distinction from looking like a slob and looking sharp is how well the clothes fit you.

If you're going to wear a plain t-shirt, (make sure it's clean - dirty or stained clothes will just never work), but also look at how well it fits to your body. If you're going to wear more of a torn look, it's got to be well fit. Not necessarily 'tight,' but just well fit to your body. If your clothes are torn and you're wearing an XL sized shirt, and you're a medium or small, you're going to look like a bum.

It can really make the difference in appearing as though you've got it all together instead of looking like a mess.