Yesterday we've broken up with my gf of 10 months. I'm currently feeling down as shit but it won't last forever. I'm free and looking forward to game but I can feel that I'll have to wait for a little.

It's an extremely complicated situation. I told her if she misses me she should call because I would still start it all over. I'm not gonna call her. She broke up because she didn't feel the same as before and she is not sure about she would miss me or not.

So it's like an either temporary or permanent brake. I know these are usually not working so I'm not expecting for anything and I'm trying to move on but I'm not gonna lie to myself and I know that deep inside I do hope she will call some other day.

The only positive side of this I see currently is that I'm free and I'm trying all day to look at this side of the deck but since I don't feel the strength at the moment to game it's very hard. You're very welcome to share similar experiences or advice.

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I know how you feel, I broke up with my ex of 3.5 years 2 months ago... It hasn't been easy, and it still isn't easy, but I know one day soon I will look back and realize it was for the best.

To be blunt, and this is only my opinion, a break is a break up. My ex tried to get me to agree to a "break", but I told her I don't do breaks and I can either give her space, or we break up. She chose space, but it led to a break up. I'm not saying your situation is anything like mine, but be prepared to move on and start moving on now if you feel up to it.

Your confidence will be shot for a while, hell mine is still shot. Haven't really found a solution to this, except time seems to help. If you guys do break up, the moment you actually realize she has moved on you will feel almost as bad as you do now. I just found this out last week, and it brought me back a bit. Actually walked in on her and her new guy getting my dog from her house, so it came as a bit of a shock and I wasn't expecting it. Be prepared for that as well...

I'm not trying to sound like a buzz kill, I'm just trying to be realistic. It won't be easy, and it won't be instant. I wish you the best, there are tough times ahead but it will make you a stronger person.

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Similarly, my LTR of 3 years ended about a month ago now. If it only happened to you yesterday then I can imagine how down you must be feeling - it took me about 3 or 4 days to get past the worst of it, but I'm still not completely over it.

The best advice I can give you is to accept the pain. Don't try and pretend like it didn't happen or anything like that; accept how much you miss her, cry over it if you have to, and do not be afraid to talk to your friends about it.

As the poster above me said it will make you stronger in the end, so accept it, let it run its course and eventually you'll move on. Hope that helps.

Worst thing you can do is to remain friends with this girl

She broke up with you now use your anger and go find you better looking girl ASAP. I can almost guarantee a 1 month or 2 from now she'll show up with another boyfriend. You don't want to be that guy sitting around doing nothing hoping she eventually come back.

Get angry think about her worst qualities and forget her it helps you move on faster.

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I'm not doing that just for the sake of me. We both handle this like adults and I'm not saying we will remain friends but we will talk. We're in the same university we will meet, it's inevitable and I'm not gonna avoid her because that's not facing this thing, it's just running away from it. I've met her today too to get some of my stuff. It hasn't been that bad at all. Anyway thanks for everyone. I'll update when necessary. Wish you all goods.

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You're not running away from the problem, she broke up with you, she didn't want you anymore so you don't need her in your life anymore and it's okay to avoid her now. Be stubborn, be greedy. You are your #1 priority, do what you gotta do for self benefit. When you start gaming girls again, you'll realize you have so many options that is was her loss not yours. Improve yourself, start gyming it, go partying with your friends, show her who's boss and grab life by it's balls

I said it's a little more complicated than just simple she didn't want me in her life anymore. But to make it simple, I'll try to: It just didn't work anymore and she was the one who said the final word. I said and now I repeat. We're not gonna be BFF. But I'm not avoiding her. I know I've got options. I could call up like at least 2 other girls to bang, right now. It's just not my way of dealing with this. I won't lie to myself just to move on. I'm not gonna make it look like this relationship was not worth it. It was happy for a very long time and I'm not gonna negate this, and I'm looking at it this way. It was good, it turned not good, it's now over. That doesn't mean that the entire thing was a piece of crap, and it doesn't mean that I should be angry at her at all, neither does it mean I should avoid her.

I know that for many people it can help in order to move on, as for me it wouldn't help at all. I know myself very well. I prefer honesty with everyone, including myself. Why would I search for her bad features and start getting angry? Just why? Anger doesn't solve anything. It just generates unnecessary stress. I'll find my peace again and move on without tricking my mind. It's not like we were married. It's not like she was the love of my life. She was just a girl with whom we used to be very happy together and that's all. All I miss is the fun we had and her meals because she cooked very well. I don't think it's impossible to move on from that even if I occasionally speak with her.

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All right. Update. Now I didn't want to share this until now because I knew what most people's reaction would have been... But when we broke up she honestly confessed she had cheated on me two days before. Actually I have a pretty interesting view on cheating but that's not important right now.

This week was a complete mess. I was broke, I was either drunk or high almost every evening with a friend of mine. In addition, turns out she pretty much has a crush on the dude she cheated on me with, also the misery of moving out. It's been a little complicated to start with, I was hanging at a friend but I can't stay there so long so I'm coming back to the dorm asap, just in another room. Problem is there are two free spaces. One room is the adjecent to our former, and the other is adjecent to the "third party"'s room.

Now I've made my decision. I've stopped whining and crying, one week was more than enough for self destruction and martyrdom. I'm going to move back to the room that is next only because it's easier to get my stuff there I'm continueing to maintain a pretty good relationship with her. Or I'll try... at least till she gives me the money she owns me for the room painting.

Good news however there are potential targets in sight. I'm not in need of another serious relationship for a while, I don't even say I need a good fuck. All I need is female attention. It fastens moving on. Of course female attention is likely to end in fucking but that's another story.

To be completely honest with myself I still hope there will be something between us even if I know it's not good, even if I know it's not gonna happen. But I just can't stay and eat the same pile of shit over and over again. This is something that won't change by itself, I have to make it happen, and I'm 100% on this track right now.

It's a brand new day, and the sun is high...The rest of this song is not important right now

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