Hi everyone,
It's been some time since I last posted: I wanted to wait with the update to see what effect this 2 day beta trip would have, and how things overally would be going. So basically she's been out of her last relationship 5 months ago now. Time is on my side, we've been seeing each other for 3,5 months. But we are not a couple officially yet.
I list posivies and negatives.
Positives:
+This 2 day trip was a great success, great sex, great vibe, everything went great.
+Over the last weeks she made up a song for me (about me) which she always sings when she's with me (too cute and too funny, lol)
+She just rented flat for 6 months with a contract in my city, 20 mins away from me. So it does seem so that she is not moving back together with her ex.
+She is working on a painting for me (she says she fianally has inspiration after many years)
+She is making plans with me for a month ahead (on visiting her male friend 3 hours away from here, introducing me also)
+If I tell her that I don't like somethings, she changes it. Shoes, dresses, behavior. I don't wanna go too far with this though, I really wanna avoid being needy.
+Richard Pryor, you are a goddamn genius!!! I used the "your pussy belongs to me" line multiple times during sex and here is what happened:
she replied, "yes it does"
than few weeks later SHE was telling me "my pussy belongs to you"
than last weekend she (also durning sex) told me that she doesn't want anyone else to ever have me (ie. I am hers basically).
+She put on the 1st picture of me on her facebook (it does not seem as if we were toghether though)
+MagicCaveman, I did what you recommended and it worked perfectly, thanks a lot! this:
Quote:
"What are you doing? He's your ex, you shouldn't be talking to him. Do I talk to my ex? NO, would you want me talking to her? NO. ex's are ex's for a reason. end of."
I also added Pryor's thing about respect so she said sorry and she promised that she would not meet him agian. It was like 2 weeks ago. I haven't asked about it since.
Now the
negatives:
-I really feel that she is trying to fill up this gap here. She needs orbiters. Like there is this 30yo married guy, who is in love with her, he admitted, he even said that he would commit suicide if she was with some guy... WTF?? But she clearly told her that she was not interested many times. Yet, my HB9 had lauch with this guy last week (out of pity I guess), and asks for legal advice from him (he's a lawyer). And than she mentions all these orbiters (this guy and some 2 others) all the time and talks about them to me! Especially when she drinks. I'm not fuckin interested in hearing these all the time. How do I tackle this behaviour?
-HB9 has sooo many pictures of her ex on her fuckin facebook I cannot beleive. All cuddling and shit. This bothers me a lot, and is clearly a sign of 2 things: 1) still has some feelings for her ex 2) I am not her BF.
-The other night she was telling me that, she opens up so slowly to ppl, and is afraid to get hurt. We had great sex afterwards but still...
-She moved to to this new flat last week, living on her own now, alone. And it turns out that one of her new neighbors on the same floor is the best friend of her ex BF!! (and this guys sister)!
First, she was telling me that she was really shocked and sad about it when she found this out, because she was trying to get away from her ex, and this was totally random that it happened like this. I beleived her.
Than, the next fuckin day I call her on the phone at 9pm and she is over at that guys place drinking, being drunk!!! I told her that I got a party invitation and she should join me and she was on her way to me within half an hour.
But still, I addressed this issue later, and she was telling me that she did feel bad about having this neighbor at first, but then she just wanted to be nice and all she did was that she did not refuse a welcome drink. I didn't tell her not to meet that guy again. She said that she would invite this guy and his sister over for dinner in some time to return the kindness and that's it.
I can totally foresee what will happen within weeks. This guy is gonna throw a house party, with HB9's exBF being there. And HB9 would be invited of course as she leaves just fuckin next door. It's all set up. I'm sure exBF and this neighbor are already working on setting up this event. Needless to say, if she goes without me, she is dumped the next day. If I find this out of course... she could always do this secretly.
Any input is grealy welcomed, you guys have been such a great help! There has clearly been a lot of good progress but she is just not my GF yet. 
CHAT
