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If you get shy and quiet then you're feeling that you have less value than her. Or it is one-itis and you simply don't want to fuck up your chances of being with her.
The problem is that if you worry about fucking up your chances then you are taking away from your congruency(if she's seen u macking it with other girls). Then you will probably fuck up if you play it safe and micromanage your actions/things you say. I'm recently getting over a girl that i "didn't wanna fuck up with" because i saw her as being the MOST compatible with me than the other chicks.
And if you can't be your true self, then you aren't compatible with the girl in the first place. I can only suggest... from you saying that this PUA stuff has increased your confidence/alphaness...then stay congruent to that no matter who the person is.
I know I have to stay congruent, but I dont know how? Do you have any suggestions? Getting nervous around her isn't a conscious thing.
When I did the cube, she loved it, but I couldnt really follow up with anything because I was nervous and couldnt think of what to say.
She talks back to me, and shows interest. I still get nervous though, and I dont know why.