Hey guys,

I appear to have the exact opposite of premature ejaculation.. When I'm having sex with a girl I find it very hard to come during the sex itself or even during a BJ. The only way I seem to be able to ejaculate is while I'm masturbating.

It's not a major problem and I love the fact that I can go for hours but I feel a little stupid finishing myself afterwards. It's kinda nice if the girl doesn't mind and sits there waiting with her mouth open but I would sometimes rather come inside her.

Any ideas on why this is the way it is or how I can get myself to blow my load more easily?

Thanks in advance!

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Quantity. Because someday, you will find quality

Same problem as you bro. All you need to do is stop fapping and you'll be able to cum

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Can only pull when drunk but hoping to change this

lol...I was going to suggest the same thing stop masturbating, so when your finally with a girl you'll cum faster...
You might want to try different positions too but either way it's a good thing if you can go for an hr. I would start looking for 3-sums if I was you...lol

I had this exact same problem for a fair while. I used to look at it as a curse and a gift in the way that i could never get the satisfaction but for the girl i was with lasting a long time is great. I got over this by not masturbating for a while and then having sex and also while having sex make sure you really thrash it man haha no slow boring missionary shit although id hope thats not you anyway.

hope that helps bro

+1 on stop masturbating.

Also, a trick i've used: if you're having sex / getting a BJ and want to 'finish up', start fantasizing about whatever you *would* be thinking about if you were masturbating.

dont stop fapping... it reduce you ability to fuck greatly... my gf... told me so in awkward conversation... and please do enjoy yourself during having sex, like keep on fucking till its almost time to cum, or learn to pretend that you are cumming outside her, but actually cum a bit inside her before pulling out problem solved... she wont get pregnant, to have a child is creating a life.. creating a life is kinda an "upstairs" god thinggy... so no worries... and yeah do try buying a good lubricant like durex tingle lub, try it... stop buying cheap shit and using it like vasseline or johnsons fapping lub

The Fuck? That's the worst advice ive ever seen. Don't ever come in a girl, homeboy I had the same problem and it's two fold.

1) You masturbate WAY too much. Stop masturbating, or at least reduce it to less than 4 times per week. This will also help your testosterone production, your overall since of well being, and your focus.

2) I assume you're wearing condoms, they suck. However, when you're having sex with a realllyyyy hott chick that is good in bed you'll still come with a condom on and it will feel amazzzingg.

So the solution is really a long term one. Stop masturbating and use condoms, and the quality of women you start to sleep with will actually improve because you'll start screening girls out that don't fuck the way you want them to fuck because they can't make you cum and you'll lose attraction for them.

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Living In Fear Isn't Living

Pull out and jave her finish you off orally, if that helps you orgasm. I like to do it anyway b/c

1. lowers pregnancy risk still further. A few months ago I, for the first time, noticed a condom tear from screwing - I think it was b/c she was a super-tight, Asian virgin and not wet, and I reeeally had to squeeze it in there. Fortunately I pulled out b/c I wanted to deflower and release in her anally (two virginities in one session!)

2. a girl swallowing (or taking it anally w/o a condom) feels more intimate than me releasing inside a rubber and then tossing it.

3. It establishes a dominant frame, especially because you'll have the aftertaste of the rubber, which I'm guessing is not especially pleasant.

4. some girls get sore from extended screwing. I had one girl, another super-tight Asian, who actually loved for me to switch back and forth between vaginal and oral so that her lower and upper body would get breaks. For some reason, Asian girls, in my experience, love giving head, even if they are virginal (maybe they lied to me about being oral virgins). Perhaps it's because they're too tight to enjoy Caucasian cock much, perhaps it's the height difference, the submissive and methodical personalities. Perhaps they are living up to massage-ho stereotypes or feel they need to work harder to keep up with white girls. I don't know, but I love it. Now if only they had green eyes and bigger racks...

Also, in my experience, how long it takes you to release is very dependent on the girl. With some girls I take a long time but can orgasm when I want to, with some I take a long time and have to really try (usually by mentally fantasizing) to cum. With some I cum quickly, perhaps earlier than I'd like.

I'm surprised nobody has discussed learning Tantric breathing techniques.

Shit works.

I'm 45, I have sex 3x a week on average, I take care of myself 2x a day religiously, and even at my age can go 4x a night (not EVERY night.... LOL). I'm commitment-phobic, so it's rarely with the same woman.

Tantric helped tremendously. I can stop an orgasm, and I can also increase it. I know what I need. I know when I get that certain rythmn while fucking, I'll cum as fast or as slow as I want. Once I hit that rythmn (for me, missionary, her legs up, and I'm deep and piledriving... after I'm there - she's along for the ride - it's MY turn). I can stop it mid-pump though.

I'm a sexual nerd though... anything I can read, study, lern that improves HER experience, I'll do it...

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

That's a good trait. I can't commit to the learning, its hard.

i dunno guys, i have this too and not masturbating didnt help that much for me... i had to try mentally stimulate my ejacualations because i felt like i was torturing the girl (it was bj time lol)

I have the problem that if i hold it and dont come the first 5-10 minutes in i will have a problem coming at all. How much ever i think about pussies falling from the sky or how hard and intense i fuck or how whatever brutal handjob/blowjov i get. Just doesnt happen sometimes... The girl feels a bit awkward and you have to explain yourself or something. a bit annoying sometimes..

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Dont fight it, enjoy it..

BRO!!! I totally know what you mean. If you explain you could have came within like 5m but like it when she orgasms first and didnt want to blow your load quick she'll be more happier

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Can only pull when drunk but hoping to change this

Yeah i guess. But that sounds kind of weird aswell i guess. "i promise i could have cummed straight away but then...well then i couldnt.." you know what i mean.

Btw, noticed your quote. Usually i have a real hard time cumming when im drunk. Sober I have the other problem instead.. i have a problem holding it in, then when i make it i cant dum.. haha oh well, the could be worse things in life

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Dont fight it, enjoy it..

welcome to the lot.. for me only a very specific and hard to find penetration angle provides enough stimulation to actually come.. everything else feels awesome but won't get me there.. which is good for a while since I know I can hold it and make the girl enjoy the ride.. at times though I hold for too long and even the right angle and speed won't make me cum..

I actually found masturbating a day before I know I will get laid seems to help it.. as if it put things in motion

part of it is certainly psychological as I feel a pressure to pleasure the girl first.. but in a world of earlycomers I won't complain too much. just glad to see I am not the only one.

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