Hope this is the right forum for this. Sorry if not.

Basically last night I met this really really shy girl. I mean her guy friend came up to me in the club and asked if I was seeing anyone and said she liked me lol it felt like being back in the school yard haha.

Anyway I went over and had a chat and I got her number and was wondering how to proceed with texting. What should I say to her to get a day 2. Should I text her something funny or just say hi remember me? I want to stand out from other guys so don't want to come across lame ha.

I usually just hook up with girls and leave it at that so numbers have never been my thing so it's all kinda new to me.

Thanks for any advice! Much appreciated.

Just be yourself, she has already shown interest, so don't be so concerned about what to say or do, just do as you do.

But remember this, just because she is shy in person, doesn't mean she will be shy via text. Use this to your advantage, get her to open up in her text messages and become sexual. By creating a sexual tone, she will be more opt to give it up when in person. The more sexual it gets in the texts, the better the chance of sex in person.

Here is an example of setting the tone right away.


Text message:
1. What's up butter cup It's X from the other night.

2. I am glad you made contact with me, even if you were very shy about it. hehe

3. I actually noticed you that night, I thought you were very sexy.

4. I have been told to watch out for the shy girls. Supposedly they are very demanding in bed.

5. Is that just a myth?

This is just an example of how you can bring a sexual tone to your conversation right off the bat. But just like any pick up, you must let her dictate the pace, if she seems a little stand-offish by this, just tone it down, and re-assess the pace.

But keep in mind, this will most likely be your only time ( via text) to get her limits out of her. In person, she will revert back to her shyness.

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Thanks man thats some good advice.

I totally know what you mean about them going back in to their shells when you see them in person. Used to get loads of cases like that where we'd have massive conversations on facebook and then in person their really shy and hardly say a aword.

I don't really play by all this time lark but don't want to let the fire go cold. What time frame should I be looking at to bring up the idea of a date?

Thanks for any advice

Dont focus on a date/time. Focus on building rapport and sexual tone via text. When it starts to feel right, then invite her to hang out with you.

DONT USE THE WORD DATE! don't give her the impression it's a date. She is shy enough already, there is no need to give her added pressure with all the socially preconceived expectations of how a date should go or how each of you should act.


Make it casual. Make her believe it will be casual.

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Thanks man. It was going well. Building plenty of report. Slightly adding in a sexual tone. There was like hour gaps between me replying becuase I was busy and each time she would reply STRAIGHT away so I wasn't coming across needy or anything.

Yet since my last text she hasn't replied. There might be a genuine reason but it's been 3 days now. Should I call her on it and give her a text? Or just forget about it and move on?

Just as I was about to ask her in the next text to come hang out. Damn haha

Thanks for advice anyway SexAddict911

Awww yeah, what a good first text. Looks like you got a little distracted while making your list there, Addict.
Yeah that seems to happen a lot. In 90% of cases, I recommend asking her out within the first 3 texts. If she says yes, the conversation can continue. If not, she wasn't worth talking to at the start.

Text her again, start it back up, don't even mention or bring up the 3 day pause. You must project that it doesn't matter. She already showed interest in you, just assume she was busy, or is like every other woman on this planet and is scatter brained. It's all irrelevant.

Don't worry so much about looking needy or desperate. That shit will only make you cautious. But if you are going to engage her again, don't do it when you are busy, do it when you are able to reply right away. Escalating has everything to do with the moment. Women are emotional creatures, they respond by how they are feeling in the moment. Then longer the gap, the more opportunity they have to think about it, and talk themselves out of things.

KEEP THE FIRE HOT! If you plan on asking her to hang out, don't have pauses in your conversation. Keep it flowing, then when it feels right, make some plans to hang out with her, Don't ask her, tell her.

Example: I'd like to hang out with you, I think we would have lots of fun. We just gotta get you out of your shell When are you available?

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Cheers man. thanks for all the advice! I text her earlier and after a few exchanges mentioned hanging out. I didn't ask liek I have learnt but her reply was "well I'm a very busy person. we'll have to see!" "What would we do if I did have time eh?"

A shit test to see if I say something lame? (Don't worry I weren't going to say dinner and a movie at the cinema ha).

I know she is genuinely busy the same as me (we're both final year university students finishing in like 1 month).

Any advice on replying to this would be great. I feel it's make or break I kinda want to convey that it will be totally chill and nothing serious. I'll pull out the big guns for date 2.

I was thinking maybe jokingly mentioning some totally absurd ideas that are full on serious. And then busting her saying did she really think I was going to tell her all my ideas over text we'll haver to go for coffee and see how it goes? Hmm I don't know. Any help much appreciated!

You could go the absurd route, but the danger with that is it could potentially turn the idea of hanging out as a "joke". Rather than blatantly saying something that you'd be doing which she could say "yes I'd love to do that" or "no I wouldn't be interested in that" I think you should take the approach of keeping her a little curious maybe hint at something like "are you afraid of heights?" or even just go for the old "that's for me to know and you to find out "

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Musterion's Journal

shy/SHī/

1. Easily startled; timid.

2. a. Drawing back from contact or familiarity with others; retiring or reserved.

b. Marked by reserve or diffidence.

3. Distrustful; wary.

The highlighted are the brilliant suggestions of someone who has never dealt with shy girls in reality.

Refrain from using them. Trust me, they'll do more harm than good, with the overt sexual tones from the get-go setting you up as some sort of a sleaze bag in her eyes. And that's not a great first impression to build upon.

If you're dealing with shy women, you have to be patient and get them to open up and then address the attraction. Also, the sexual side of things should be subtle, not obvious. Also, shy women like charming, good mannered men, not some d-bag on a sex run.

Be excellent in your conduct, respectful but confident in your language and know when to give her time and space. You'll do fine with these pointers.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

It's funny that you say all of this, and that you are so arrogant to assume you know best. You have been in this game for what? 3-4 years, as your initial post would suggest.?

Hey Don shall I get into the fact that one of the female that used to come to this forum, left because YOU WERE STALKING HER. I actually know all the details. I am sure the people on your post would love to hear it. `

Is that the signs of a man that know best? You advice is weak, you act like you know shit but you are clueless. Don't assume you know anything. All women are not the same. Just because you want to deal with shy girls like that, doesn't mean its the right way. I have never had a woman accuse me of stalking them.

Half your advice is a joke, one of your first few posts you mention to keep texting a woman over and over, HAHAHAHA! thats the best way to lose them. But then again, I forgot I was talking about a STALKER

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Since you know she is very busy and all caught up in studies, Id suggest you say something that conveys, that you are a fun guy. You have to keep the power as well. Remember she was the one that made the first move, her interest is there.

Since she is busy, and you can't necessarily get her out while the fire is hot. You need to keep her intrigued, you need to keep her wondering. So rather then painting a specific picture of your evening( as in saying exactly what you will do) Make it mysterious, but just be sure to make her know it will be fun regardless.

here is an example of what you could say:

Her: well I'm a very busy person. we'll have to see!" "What would we do if I did have time eh?"

You: Well we will definitely have to do something very fun, to get your mind off all the books and things. You'll have to let me know when you are free, so we can set something up. All you have to do is supply the time, I'll supply the fun.

If she keeps pushing it, tell her you will surprise her, then keep building rapport. It's important that she feels comfortable with you but at the same time you don't come off as desperate or needy.

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It's not an impressive man who fights on an internet forum.

Stop.

I'm blushing.

On a more serious note, I'd normally ask for proof of the said allegation that you've leveled at me, coming from the female in question, but I am not going to waste my time here.

Considering you're a second rate keyboard jockey with a propensity for fabrication, I am going to let this one slide.

Also, you'd do well to heed to Slip n Slide's advice. It won't do much, but it should help you get a notch above your gutter level "reputation".

On a final note.
I don't know if I should add illiteracy to your list of ever growing "impressive" attributes, but you seem to have a very wrong interpretation of the English language. I suggest you take some course or work hard on improving it by yourself.

Texting a woman over and over is fine when the ratio is maintained at 1:1 between sending texts and replying to them, but I guess you conveniently left out the second part. Didn't you?

So, a disgruntled liar or just an illiterate? Choose your lesser evil.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I don't see a difference here, Don. You're fanning the flames.

Why can't someone delete this thread? I think OP got what he came for.