Ok i approached one girl on collage. Actually in place where studnts eat. English is not my first language so i dont know how do you call it, ill call it studnets restoraunt.

So, she looks kinda shy, but like 9.

One day i was sittng 2 tables below her, and i seen that she was looking at me while i was looking away while when i look at her she starts to look around.

I decided to aproach her, came to her table asked if chair is bussy, she said no so i sitted down and asked her "Hi, i see you around and i was wondering whats your name " she had a smile ALLL THE WAY fro ear to ear. She shed her name gived me hand, then i said ok, see you around and went to my table.

few days after i saw her on the street and she putted her look at the street like somone shy would do it
came near to me i said her Hi, and she respoded with smile again

So i was curious shes interested and just extremly shy, or just not interested.

Saw her few times again she said hi... smile again properly, then i found her on facebook aad add her.


So few days came by, nothing happening didn saw her anyware so i decitded to try to provoke reacion over fb *didnt have any choiuce...

I left her a comment on photo.... nothing....


Few days after that.... i left her message.. nothing....

2 weeks have passed, i was sitting in coffieshop drinking coffei with my friend and she passes by my table hed up in the air like she dont sees me.

I was talking to my friend *who is my wingman usualy but she didnt know about her* that is that girl from restoraunt etc.. and i was looking at him a sho was standing like little bit left and he told me she is looking at you... turn around...

dont know why.. i didnt want to...but he confermed that she was stearing at me whole f time while i wasnt looking.

after that she deletid me from facebook.

i was all like oh well i dont like her i guess so what..

That was like mount ago. Seen her 2 more times once she said hi.. on the street, once she was with some dude i did said hi i think she was too but like.. shy hi...

And.. now .. last night at the restoraunt..

I was with my friends my friends ware like SHE IS LOOKING AT YOU so when i looked at her she turns her hed on other direction she sitted at the tablle RIGHT ACROSS mine, so i See her ALL THE TIME, i was lookin at her all the time and nothing she was looking at all directions except mine! but i was RIGHT across her..

So .... didnt know better sent her a fr again... on my friends suggestions... he said if she denies you.. its like over for now, if she accepts you again.. game on...

Do you have ani suggestions can you give me some advices and commes where did i went wrong...

sorry for my bad english

Here's a suggestion. Grow some balls and ask her out.

It sounds like she's still wondering about you. You passed up so many opportunities and it seems like she got tired of waiting.

If I were you, I would have continued talking to her the first time she smiled. That's an IOI, so why did you leave?

hey man,

Sounds like she is either a bit strange (in which case stay away from her as she will fuck with your head) or she is waiting fro you to be confident and approach her again but this time continue the conversation and lead it. Remember girls love confidence and leadership in a guy. You showed confidence by approaching her the first time and she probably liked that. She is now probably waiting for you to approach her again. Facebook meesaging is not going to cut it as it portrays a lack of confidence. Basically there are three scenarios here for why she is staring at you;

1. She is a psycho
2. She thinks your a psycho
3. By far the most likely, she wants you to approach her again! but this time LEAD the coversation.

Therefore your next step is to approach her and so next time you encounter her start a conversation, lead that conversation and show her how awesome you are. Sorted

Hope it goes well for you mate,

Callum

Next time just approach her and stop being an AFC and start being a PUA

Think of a good opener and work your way from that

I probs should of just said that ^^ As good advice as any

No point in asking her out on the street. If i had opportunity to ask her out i would.

Moust of our mettings afret me hitting on her was like on street... never at some place where i could aproach to her....all our meetings ware whene she was going somevere so did i... not moust natural thing to do HIII hey wanna grab a cup of coffie? That is the problem.
Care to expalne what opportunity i did have?
I know just one...
She was with a friend. Female one. It wasnt apropriate way to do it. And senserly, i hitted on her, so i was little bit scared.
My point. Wrongest fucking move in the book. I was so angry at myself why did i do that. ......but i dont see her often anyway....thats why i got idea "hey if she is a bit interested she might reposnse" wich is kinda lame and dumb at same time.

Without me things would be just awso**

So im planing to do that.

tnx man.

Analising this whole situation... so...
She probably is a bit, all girls are bit psycho.
Ok there is a big chance she thinks im a pshycho thats why i was so scared to hit on her again. That + rarly seeing her.

So i wanna start conversation but how do i start it... i feel like i have to explane to her im not psycho... cuz honestly... i would look at myself as psycho at her place... i cant get any idea...

i was so f lame this time i have to do some shit...usualy im good at it.. im a bit natural... i can get chiks, get laid at 17, had a lot of girls till now... but this is whole new teritory for me..i hitted a girl on daygame... never done that.

ok guys tnk you all, next oppurtunity im going for the killshot.

She will maybe deny me, but ... nothing to lose everything to prove.

There is 3 things i could do.

1. Aproach her.
2. Forget go from the start with some other girl...
3. Keep being lame.

So i chose first, if first goes to hell im goint for seconds.

if i can pick up chiks in night game with just bodylangauge... i can do it in daygame at least i have to learn do to daygame.

Let me know the result!

Soncheese x

Sure man... im thunking now how should i do that....

im just hoping ill saw her without wall of female friends cuz i cant do nothing aganst that, at least i dont have idea what to do about that...

Ill just hope ill see her... anyway....

Monkey I'm going to be real with you and I think that's what most guys need. They need other dudes to be totally real and not feed them bullshit.

I gotta say but your making up excuses. You did indeed have ample opportunities. What about when she was right behind you when your friend was like, "Hey dude, she's looking man!" Did you have the opportunity? Yes. Did you take it? No.

The first time you met was an obvious opportunity, but you left.

Then the restaurant, and then the few times you saw her and said hi. Just before facebook got involved.

Dude, put some steel in your spine and just talk to her and be direct (I know this might be hard for you because you don't seem very direct at all, but it's easier than you think) with your intentions. And so what if she's with a friend. Talk to both of them and make friendly. It's called being sociable. Doesn't have to be deep or anything, just be positive and send a fun and friendly vibe. This will help them see you as a normal human being, not some creep that looks at them or ignores them from a distance.

If you two are alone at any time, say, "Hey, I know I've been acting a bit weird, but I'm gonna be straight up honest with you. I think your pretty attractive and I'd like to get to know you more." Boom. That's not so hard is it?

You also seem to have tunnel vision with her. Stop placing her on some pillar and just know that she's just a girl, like all the other billions of girls. If she doesn't respond well, move on. No use in trying to sit in a train if it's never going to move right? Just hop on another one.

Sorry if I'm being harsh, but man up. We need to stop bullshitting each other and be realistic.

Hey again man, if you want to get her into a situation where your one-on-one with her or at least somewhere a bit more social try inviting her out somewhere i.e "Me and some friends are going out next week sometime, you (if she is with her friend) and your friend should come, looks like an amazing night etc more bullshit etc" That has worked well for me in the past. I'll be honest, I know I'm not quite ready to do a day approach yet so well done for that but you do need to now step up to the mark. There is some great advice for you here, now go and get her

P.S the advice from the guy saying you are puting this girl on a pedestial is totally right, she is not a goddess and even if she is, treating her like one will definately not work. All the best mate

Sure man that is the point of community. well i hope so i do. If i make mistakes cuz im making excuses i can fix that. Ok i didnt take that, but that was opportunity for what? She was waiting elevator i was like 10 meters from that? What should i do in that kind of situation? Only think i could do is turn around look et her and say hi, her elevator whould came and she will be gone?

To stop her i need to jump of my chair and run trought coffieshope like idiot? And that is not good way to do it.
well gues that is opportunity i did a lot of thinking about that. But i cant cry regreting i have to be smarter next time.




Yeah im indirect smooth guy. I dont like to tell stuff directile... i love body language ...

That corssed my mind. But i dont know what to talk about with her friend?
Thats why i left first time...
Usually i can do that.. .be sociable but i dont know in this situation i really didnt know what to talk about?

I still dont.. im thinking about it... and i dont have f clue. If i see her alone i totaly know what to talk about but with friend.. no idea..
No, i can do that.

I honestly think that is source of the problem. I did told about in some early post. I usualy dont have problems like this. and i dont have clue why i have tunnel vision of this girl...

actualy today i wanned to hit at another one at same place i saw IOI and i didnt i was like "omfg what if she came and saw that" In the moment i was thinking that is the brightest idea... problem is i see its not when i get my head cool. In any other sittuation i would do that, actualy i hitted on this one while i was gaming another one in same place ( her number i got... and other stuff )

tnx for honesty man, i really have to do something about this... cuz this is big inner game for me .... speacialy cuz of this idealised tunnel vision of this one...im like from the start I WANNA BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS GIRl.. usualy... i dont care... one night stand or relationship i dont care... and in that case i usualy get what i wont...

Cant agree more, problem is im not myself with this one.. I was thinking to ask her just to go out to grab cup of coffie, like i want to get to know you better n stuff.
i just cant trow bullshit to this girl....

Didnt seen her jet...

i just came up with a plan!

When i see her on the street:

Me: Hi
HB: hi
Me: hey wait i wanna tell you something, do you know what is your problem?
she would probablu get interested..
Hb: ?
Me; im trying to get to you to know you better and you are always in a hurry! )
So if she reponse properly
Me: So give me your number , so we can get eachother better? ...

Im just... confused, about one stuf:

If she hesitate should i leave like : ok nevermind, see you around

Or go pushy a bit? Like give me a chanse i dont bite and if she denies after that to smile to her and go like i dont giv a fuck