this is a thread talking about my journey. iv'e gone from being a true AFC to getting girls every other week.
in myself, i have been seeing girls on and off more than usual the past year. only the other day my HB8 friend named deya told me "your meeting another girl tomorrow?!?! your with someone every other week!". this to me was quite striking as i didn't even realize what had changed in me to be getting these girls every other week. not only that my journey has been such a slow process that i hadn't even realize myself that i was getting with other girls every week, it has fealt the norm for a good year now.
what i want to talk about here is something that i hope everyone can learn from. no, i'm not always getting HB all the time but it doesn't mean i'm never getting them either. to become a master pickup it does take alot of balls at first and although i feel iv'e improved dramatically over the past couple of years i still feel like ive got a lot of work to do to.
the start:
at the start of my journey it started with my brother, he said he had read a book called "the game" by Neil Strauss. now most of you who read this will all know this book. i was so intrigued and it was the first ever book i had ever read through out at the time ( i have read plenty of other books since). at first it was just a fantasy of mine to even get close to what these guys were doing.
after a time of 7-8 months, i finally kicked myself as i spent all this time reading different material of pick up, mystery method, magic bullets, and a number of other books. i was just filling my head with so much information that it confused me to the point where i started over thinking every situation i encountered. even speaking to a fucking bar woman who in reality was just being friendly. in my eyes i thought this pick up shit was an absolute joke and that it was a curse more than a gift to the men of the world.
i felt i was worse than the AFC i was all those months ago an wasn't getting anywhere.
somewhere there is still hope:
i took a trip to Germany to see my father, this is my second time visiting and i love the place. the architecture was the fresh, the people pleasant, not only that, the girls over there are fucking hotter than here in England.
i go into a small city (cannot remember the name at the moment) with my dad's fiance. she is a small German woman and although she isn't the best looking of women she makes up for this with her vibrant and deep understanding personality.
today's mission for me is to finally find some well fitting clothes for my new transformation. at this point in my PU journey i was concentrating on my appearance. at this point i still have a lot of issues with the way i look. i'm not a bad looking bloke, i just could just make myself look alot better within what i wear.
i enter a shop and buy certain clothes that i find really different for when i get back to my home town of Scarborough, it's a small town and knowing that you will be the only one wearing this clothing was an ambitious drive to have when choosing what to wear. also here i was also with my dad's fiance's daughter named Sarah. we entered a shop, this was my first time shopping with women. here i actually felt confident being in the women's world. being around really hot women and knowing here is a good place to look if i ever wanted to meet someone of this stature. also the principles women have over clothes is pretty territorial.
back to the norm, or am i?:
i'm back in Scarborough and i'm going on a night out for the first time back from Germany. i get myself ready and i look pretty fucking awesome. i go to my bro's and need my hair doing as i didn't own any hair styling gel at the time. he did it for and i had some advice from my friend katya who is a HB9, who is also a dancer at a strip club. she is very good with fashion and she told me some advice that i won't forget that is "to much gel is never cool, honey!". came to understand that less is more in the world of fashion, that if you keep it looking more natural but make yourself well groomed that is the best look.
i got to the pub, and i got to the bar. the bar girl was pretty damn hot. i ordered my pint of beer and she asked me something other than "is that all?" my escape mind kicked in as i wasn't used to girls asking me more than my pint order so i quickly scampered tot eh back of the room where i was waiting for my mates.
as i was drinking my beer i could see her coming over to my area tidying the tables. in the corner f my eye i could see her looking at me. still this is new to me. i thought "holy shit, she is actually noticing me!". this obviously as i know now is the time to engage. i didn't i just went on drinking my pint. i saw my friend who joined me and we had a good laugh. i went up tot he car again to get another pint and she said something to me and said "oh i had a sandwich earlier and im a bit bloated while laughing" i though now i can talk, i just opened my mouth and said "well i bet it won't beat the one i had at McDonald's earlier...". instantly the conversation went dry, i thought, what the fuck did i just say!?!? that was hopeless.
going through:
as time went on i started getting noticed more and my ability to speak to people got a lot better. over time i got aproached more by different girls. and i started feeling a better self coming through. conciously i was learning things about women but i wasn't really aware of it.
one time i was sitting on the setee and i had learned my can opener. i saw 4 girls sitting on the sofa next to me and my mates went out for a cigarette 2 mins before. i thought, "DO IT!!!!!!" so i sat over and said hey, you girls think this is a good place?. as i spoke my words just spluttered, i stuttered and just blew the whole thing. as fast as they sat down, they got up and walked away. i just felt so embarased thing everyone saw this shameful even in my life and i just sat there feeling hopeless and ashamed. these sort of situations used to make me feel upset through the night too.
don't beat yaself up!
as time moved on i started doing a few more openers and the more i did them the more easy it felt. it is true that approach anxiety never dies but is easily controlled when you get the just of things. i started getting my right openers and i used the "who do you think lies more, men or women?" opinion opener now and that has been working for me.
one evening i set out to go out by myself and as soon as i entered a bar i saw an acquaintance and joined them. i was speaking to a guy about pick up and nobody in Scarborough knows this sort of thing. it's pretty much a gold mine and is rarely sarged. basically, i was alot confident now with my openers and i basically asked him "choose any group and i will go and open them" he chose a 3 set of the the most beautiful women i have ever hoped to open if it was myself choosing. i thought "fuck it ok!" i took a sip of my drink while preparing what to say in my head and then instantly walked up, i saw them and closer it came to me the harder it felt but i kept the feeling under me. i was here and saw a perfect opening where i was seeing all three at once. there was one girl speaking to another guy, she was a bit pissed her other two mates weren't as such. i asked " hey i just need an opinion on something, i'm only going to be here for a minute but i was peaking to my Friends over there and what we were talking about pretty much came to a slight debate and would like a female opinion on the matter. who do you think lies more men or women?"
through this i kept their attention and my heart was racing like a mother fucker, they paused for a moment. all life was getting sucked out of me waiting for a reply. after a couple of second one had a slight giggle and said "men! deffo men!" the other girl said "men" in a more heated tone. now all these girls i would pass for HB9's. the other girl who was preoccupied with another man even turned her attention to me and was interested in what was going on. one girl tested me by asking who i was with, i gave her a direct answer who i was with pointed over to the two guys. after a minute talking about this i said. "thank you, i enjoyed chatting see you later" this reason was because i didn't know what to say afterwards.
i got over to the two guys and had massive respect by them. they thought this stuff wasn't possible. here i knew something had improved dramatically. i was pretty proud by this.
enough said, ill cut it to the now:
since then ive used the same opener with many girls but i still have my sticking points. sometimes i can't show enough value and with some girls i cant even get passed the opener. i had a 3 set at one point where one girl fully bitched me out. she was more of an AMOG than most of the guys int the club. serious bitch but atleast it was one bad open out of 20 so i can't complain. shit happens when you open but never let it fault you. you can go up to anyone and open them and end up sticking with them for the rest of the night and go from there. some girls you don't even need to show much value at all and you have caught them at the opener. it is always best to have a wing man though. someone who you know can get you out of sticky situations or with someone who can project value and get you int eh girls area. e.g you yourself use the opener and a minute later your mate comes up with another question for the girls to get to the next stage. always keep your options open and keep at it, down the line these girls will remember you anyway and another night you can end up taking to them and hit it off from there. just don't be scared and get on it. anyone can do it and the more you do it the easier it becomes. sometimes you may not get the best girls but at the end of the day your getting more than what you would be getting a year ago.
i'm meeting a girl today at 4 o'clock and she's been thinking of me all week while ive been in Germany. iv'e now figured out how to project enough value for girls to fall for me now and worked out the future routine, this is my own that i only figured out this week and i am going to practice on more women to see if i can get a good enough hook point out of other girls. things are looking very optimistic in my dating life at the minute. you may go through a dry spell for 4-6 months but that is only your own problem to sort. always look in your self and see what needs to bed done. iv'e learnt that if your just looking in a girl for sex most of the girls you desire will not give you what you want. it's all about letting them know you can give them a future.
well, i think i have spoken enough but that is my journey i hope anybody can learn from this especially the newbies out there. most of all i hope many people can relate to the journey i have had to their own. more importantly, thanks for reading
much love and i would appreciate feed back. maybe you can teach me a thing or two.
cheers, ian !
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