Been with my girlfriend for a few months now, shes a pretty cool chick and when we're together we have a great time. But its the time apart that messes with me.
Heres a couple of things that are probably very obvious red flags, but its hard for me to determine when most of the time i love her to bits.

1. Has a past of drug abuse at a young age (i ignored this, because i've been through the same, but found strength to move on and live a happy and normal life )

2. Never leaves her phone, never lets me touch it, but is always checking her messages when im around?

3. Completely obsessed with her pet cat.

4. One of her best friends has cheated multiple times.

I guess the one that really has me thinking is this obsession with her cat. Is it a rejection thing? Could it be that no matter how bad of a person she is or has been, her cat will never be one to judge?

Sorry if its obvious that i should break up with her, but i just hate not knowing whats wrong before i give up

Ehh.. forget the "red flags" for now. The only one on your list that matters is the history of drug abuse and you've already come to terms with that one.

Tell us about the real issues with your relationship. Are you saying that she treats you well when you are together, but you think she's having sex with other people? Are you in a monogamous relationship with this girl (or do you just assume it's monogamous)? What else is going on with the relationship?

The more information you give us, the better. Furthermore, you should read the links about screening and handling bad behavior at the bottom of the post and tell me what category she falls into (i.e. does she have freak tendencies?).

-Wolf

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Screening: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html
Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html

Ok so i should have clarified that we had been dating for about 6 months last year, in which i was too AFC for my liking! We broke up and had no contact for a month or two, until we started working things out and officially got back together about 3 months ago.

Yes Wolf, when we are together things are usually great, but some days, even weeks shes can be a moody so and so, and even my best efforts at not reverting back to AFC sometimes seem pointless when she has these prolonged typical girl moods.


And her only freak tendencies are her obsession with her pet cat, and a borderline OCD problem with having a clean bathroom!
I understand that most guys will tell me to run as far away as possible, but i do love her and want to try everything i can before breaking up!

A small detail i think i should include is that we had a fight before we broke up last year, and she said " i dont know why, but everytime things are going smoothly i fuck it up".

Does this mean that she clearly falls under the "freak" category?

Cheers

I don't really see what the big deal is. Keep dating her if she treats you well. I'd just cut contact with her when she is being moody.

-Wolf

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Screening: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html
Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html