I met a girl who is quite good looking but her personality doesn't fit mine. I would like to lay her as it's been awhile since I've had it. She has kids so I don't want anything serious and I think she wants a relationship. Outside of her appearance her personality is really annoying, lol.

We went on the date and she was a cocky but kind of a decent girl and you could tell she wanted to get serious with me and we ended up talking about past relationships. I let her know I wasn't getting into anything serious and she said to me she doesn't give it up so easily. What shall I do?normally I want a relationship but at the moment I don't feel like having one because I was hurt last year after a long relationship. Plus she has kids....

There's a lot going on here so let's dive in and hash some of this stuff out.

For starters, dates are for women whom you've already slept with. You can hang out on a day 2 (coffee shop, putt putt, art museum, etc) but the traditional dinner date is for girls whom you've already hooked. No exceptions. I don't know what your "date" consisted of but I pray it wasn't dinner or a movie. There are rules to this game that exist because they work, stick to them.

Avoid talking to targets about past relationships unless the story is funny as hell and loaded with DHV spikes. The subject of her not giving it up so easily probably wouldn't have appeared had you two not been discussing relationships. Out of sight, out of mind.

I literally just went through a similar situation about a month ago with my real-estate agent. Unhappily married, kids, smoking body, garbage personality.

We texted back and forth, I invited her to my house one night "to get get input on decorating". Poured some drinks, amped up the sexual tension, and then put a movie on the tv in my room (since this is intentionally the only place in my home with dvd player). We're on the bed (no chairs in my room) and I began escalating. I got LMR from her so I rolled off, waited and tried again. After we had sex, she hit me with the "I have feelings for you."

My response that followed was hands-down the most difficult part of the game for me to grasp.

The quality of your game will drastically increase when you begin to be honest with women about your intentions. If you want to date one girl exclusively in a traditional manner, then say so. If you want a lively harem to select from, then say so. You determine your own reality, so if a harem is what you think you deserve, project it.

My response to her was this: "I'm not looking for a serious monogamous relationship right now and am dating around."

We texted for a few days after and she didn't like my refusal to commit. We soon stopped talking and now everything is well.

If you don't want a relationship with a girl, then don't get into one. It's completely possible to have sex with somebody who is not your significant other. Exert your frame and stick by your decision.

It's not that I want to be a player, but I've never been succesful in a relationship or a benefits deal. I usually get numbers and don't call them if I feel no connection or if I knew they had kids but the fact I've not had many dates is the reason I gave it a shot. I've met a few girls with kids and they are needy, and I'm not financially stable so that's why I would like some fun.

How do you guys know when a girl is DTF?

From their appearance/personality or something more sly because alot of girls meet me and get needy but I want a girl a little different. Someone that is a slight challenge but can be broken if you have enough charisma like I do. I'm not a big fan of girls who throw themselves at me. This one throw herself at me and she isn't exactly my type and she has kids and I hate those things lol.