Now... GF and me are in argue ( some more argues happened in the past ).

she text me ; ' I will come over to you after the weekend, meanwhile think about wether you want me o me or not. make up you're mind DEFINITLY. i'll give you some time to think about it...or so.'

i got this 2 days ago. since then there is no communication. i freeze her out.

any advice how to deal with this ? shall i wait till she contacts me telling me when she will come to me? must i keep freezing her ?

I would freeze her out,it might open her eyes(if she is committed). but if you do,be ready for some bitchin!

Arent your sure if you should be in this relantioship or not?

She is telling make your mind?

I dont think we have enough details to tell you should freeze or not.

But if you are argueing and she is the one starting all this shit I would freeze her out.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Lol man if you don't know if you want to be with her or not how are we supposed to know then? :S

She asked you to make up you mind and i think you should decide whether you want her or not. Freeze her out and she'll dump you, and nothing hurts more than being dumped. If you want her then sort things out, if you don't want her then dump her and make your life easy!

After her texting saying to make up my mind, i replied one hour later that i don't have to think about it and that we just have to sort things out. So she allready knows i want her.

about 4 hours later i was sitting on a terrace having a coffee and i text her ; ' i'm sitting here on a terrace having a coffee, it's beautifull weather. wish u were here '.

And now she's freezing me out.

So, she knows i want her and she knows i want to sort things out.

What can i do next ?

What if she will text me tommorow like ' you don't text me no more, why ??? '

should i remind her of my last texting and tell her i was waiting on her to respond ?

and for now... shall i freez her out ? i mean, i was the one who has send her the last texting telling her i want her and want to sort things out with her.

This is what happened: You and your girlfriend had an argument. She tells you she will come over the weekend and for you to "decide" whether or not you want her, effectively establishing herself as the person who needs you less; because her frame presupposes that you will say yes. You respond an hour later saying you want her back, so you further supplicate to her and give her hand. Because you are no longer a challenge, have no competitive anxiety, and she knows she can get you back whenever you want (you are predictable), she is losing interest, and very quickly. Right now she is being patient and freezing you out because it's EASY for her to be patient. Whoever needs the other person less in a relationship has more power and whenever a GIRL is in the POWER position, they act with much more disposition. Ever see a girl just LJBF a guy and then NEVER see him secksually again? Ever see a girl argue and be so stubborn she ignores her bf for a month? That's the result of a combination of a power dynamic lopsided in favor of the girl + natural female caprice.

Now you want to text her to remind her that you texted her before. This is the crux of why relationships fail. Someone pushes, and the other person instinctively PULLS. But in reality, relationships are COUNTER INTUITIVE. If your girlfriend begins to lose interest, you must become less available and go back to being the guy she first fell in love with, not the needy AFC you are acting like.

Telling her within the hour "I want to sort things out" was the worst thing you could've done. Remember women do not want you to be easy, nor do they want you to be predictable. The key to a girl's heart is to FLIP THE SCRIPT. You should act like YOU are the one who's unsure if you want to be with her. Although she overtly gave that decision to you, clearly your balls are in her fist.

So right now, you need to revamp the fuck out of your relationship. Focus on things that increase ATTRACTION, what makes a girl crazy for a guy? Phone calls? logical explanations as to why you belong with her? needy statements? a letter full of I love you's? NO. These are all things to build rapport. Think more on the lines of jealousy, unavailability, and an aloof + masterful attitude.

And let go of the fear of losing her, that single parasitic thought is what's driving your needy behavior. To keep a girl, you must NOT be afraid to lose her.

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Maybe i should tell you that BEFORE her texting me to make up my mind, i have been freezen her out for a while and suddenly she texted me she loves me and misses me.

than i replied ' you know what i want'

she replies withe the sms to make up my mind.

So i know she misses me and loves me.

she's mindfucking me ?

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you can't ALWAYS get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll get what you NEED.

And here is where our good friend Hakuna would say "dont care about what a girl says, just look at what she does/her actions"


I think that answered it all...

Now she is freezing me for 4 days.

What should i do next?

Is there anything i can do to establish contact again ? Or should i keep on ignore her too ?

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you can't ALWAYS get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll get what you NEED.

Well, after 4 days of ignore from her side, i text what she want.
She started discussion from scratch again, telling me what i do wrong.

So i told her to GTFO, telling her 'game over'

End of post

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you can't ALWAYS get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll get what you NEED.

Well, after 4 days of ignore from her side, i text what she want.
She started discussion from scratch again, telling me what i do wrong.

So i told her to GTFO, telling her 'game over'

End of post

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you can't ALWAYS get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll get what you NEED.

Hakuna is a beast... last summer i went through the same thing , iread his post and followed his advice with full belief thaf i would get her back. Guess what it worked.

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Live and let live...

Could you redirect us to Hakuna's post that you followed? Would love to see it.

Glad to see you get out man. Before I discovered pua the girl I was dating was always telling me shit I did wrong. I froze her out for maybe thirty minutes while we were walking home from some sight seeing thing we were doing. I walked ahead of get so she was clear I didn't want any of her shit. she started apologizing and I continued freezing. Then she asked if we were done. I agreed and didn't even have to do any work to end it.

Omg.

She now is texting me shit like i am a arrogant son of a bitch and that she is going to a terrace today and to keep her eyes open for other guys.

Like... What the hell does she try to pull of ?
She is intimidating me right ?

Anyway i will ignore her from now on. If i loose her... Then so it will be.

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you can't ALWAYS get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll get what you NEED.