Is it ever healthy to tell her exactly with how many girls you've had sex??
She tells me she has been with around 7 or 9 guys ... but she's hooked up with way more than that (kissing)... She told me she lost the count at an X number, and I told her, wow thats a lot of guys, to which she said.. yeah but only kissing, sexual partners have been more like 7 to which she said, that she bets its not even half of what I've been with.
She hasnt asked me directly with how many girls Ive been and the other day I was counting them in my head and I remembered about 17 ... we're both 21 .. My question is.. if I tell her this number when she asks for it.. is it healthy? or would it come back to bite me?

I don't think it really matters whether or not you tell her. Sure, she might shit test you a bit and give you some crap if you tell her, but you should be able to handle that kind of thing by now. I don't really see how that could come back to bite you.

On the other hand, I don't have a clue how many girls I've been with.. so I honestly tell girlfriends that I have no idea. I've never had any problems.

/I'm curious what other people think about this

-Wolf

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Ask her, "Would you really like to imagine me having sex with anyone else but you?"

The answer is lose-lose, no matter what it is.

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I guess that at the beginning of the relationship is a natural question for some people, to know if their partner is a "slut" or "player"...
I personally don't mind that by the age of 21 she's had 7 to 9 partners... at least I'm not the first one so she knows what's out there.

Don't tell her, don't ask.

I did, and it fked me up. the idea of her with other guys made me sick for weeks.
I know I should be alpha and not care, but.. it still hurts somehow.

It's a stupid question. It leads to no good place. Whatever you respond is no good. It really is a loose loose situation. You respond with a big number then she is thinking of you fucking a bunch of women before, easy, non selective, player guy, don't be surprised if this starts coming up on future arguments etc. If you say a small number then you loose value by way on not being the most interesting man in the world among other ways. Loose loose buddy.
Now you are going to want to know about how many guys she's been with also. If you are really into this girl this might burn through your veins for days to come. Common side effects might include loss of sleep, head aches, substance abuse, diarrhea, facial hair, wrinkled buttoned up shirts etc etc. If her boy count is bigger that your girl count please stop and call a doctor immediately as this might be signs of a rare but death threatening condition.

So does anyone have a decent response when she drops this sh1t test on you? Dr. Jones's wasn't bad. But, you can't be like "I'm not telling". Obviously it's a lose lose situation, but ultimately every girl I've been with has brought it up, and like an idiot I answer truthfully. I'm sure answering truthfully doesn't help my game.

Does anyone care about kissing? I'm guessing iv kissed atleast 200-300 girls possibly more within the last 4 years. Only slept with 10 though.

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I avoid the conversation. But if she persists, just say what she said "7 or 9" and be done with it. She can't really react negatively if you've had equal partners.

OR

"Somewhere between 3 and 30. I don't keep track" and just laugh it off and change subjects.

I find as long as you're confident about your sexuality, women rarely test you. Back when I only had one lay even under my belt, my confidence gave off the vibe that I had far more than that and women picked up on it and were attracted to me anyways. Even when I was a virgin, the same thing. I just made zero issue out of it, and as long as you don't she won't either.

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