ok so i went out with this girl for like 5 months she broke up with me bc of a lot of stupid shit i did like drugs and i could rearly see her she was in love with me and we were going to have a baby but she had an abortion.. days went on and we were broken up then months she pretty much got over me its been like 5 months and now she doesnt want to know anything about me i call her she never calls me she has told me everything mean possible to leave her alone that im annoying that shes going to put a restrainting order on me that she hates me she treats me like shit and alomst everytime i talk to her i cry i love this chick and i got so attached to her i knew what to do i knew i had to leave her alone and not bug her but i kept on doing it and now she thinks im a weak needy ass kid who she could give 2 shits about.. and it hurts me like shit everytime i try to not call her i end up calling her she tells me to get the fuck out of her life to go fuck myself but i just always come back and i always promise her ima stop and i dont i cant... i need help i really do i want to get over her but i just dont know how please help

First of all MAN UP, it's alway girls who should be in a situation like this.

If you really are serious about getting over her then here's what you need to do:

1- STOP BEING MISERABLE.
2- DELETE her of facebook.
3- DELETE her number.

Now when you've done all that you'll have no way of contacting her right? that's what you need? Once you've done that you need to start looking after yourself and stop doing drugs, shave and get yourself some new clothes and style because from the way you spoke i can tell you look miserable, facial hair, look a mess. YOU LOOK UNATTRACTIVE. Sort yourself out and get with friends and go out and meet other girls, this will help you a LOT. Having something to do will take your mind off her.

Good luck

yess and im so ready for this i want to get in shape and i need a job i think that even tho she didnt brake up for me bc of this i know it had to do with it i let myself go and i never really did anything but smoke... then when she broke up with me i just begged her and begged her for like 5 months bc she would give me some attention she even gave me a bj like a month ago when i last saw her but thats it... i really would like to get her back but i know my chances are slim and now i just want to move on and do better with my life if she comes back she comes back but its not my priority anymore bc i know ill move on to once i fix a lot of my set backs thanks you guys for the support and help any addvice for how to get over an ontis will be appreciated like hobbys and motivating things idk even some ideas on how to get her back

What you are doing believe it or not is hurting your chances of ever succeding as human being(yes im overeacting), and also having a shot with her again or with anyone.

What you should do is try and put your life on the first priority. Maximize your potencial. How do you do that?

First if you have possibilities go see a psychology( this helps alot, I did and made me realize alot of shit when my life was at a STOP)

Quit drugs, it doenst help you one bit.

Go to the gym i cant stress this enough GO TO THE GYM you will feel tired in first 3 weeks but it will pay of.

Eat healthy.

Go out, dont stay at home.

While you are looking for a job(go voluntary work explore other options)

in regards of your ladie. Let me explain, in terms easy to understand.

You are at this point a small company without much to offer to market(miserable. drugs, low self esteem, you have two options expand your business and be sucesfull, or you maintain your path of self destruction and bankrupt-

While your ex is medium company( have objectives , has continue with her life), your small company dont have the resources to buy her company

So the trick here is maximize the real you... so you can grow and become a "Google" and you can easily buy the medium companys hope you understand this methapor

When I got back with my ex, I had more game, had more oportunities in life , more maturity, in general my life was way better, and she saw that and became interested again.

but you have to maximize the real you, change for the better improve your life, and perhaps ppl around you will notice and she will notice and wants to be a part of your life. If not continue on that path will land alot of new oportunities.

But I know how hard it is to move on with your life, its a work in progress every single day, but in the end the reward is worthy

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

thanks you guys you i cant tell you how much this is helping me... i wonder if she will miss me she says she dosent she says she misses another guy and she tells me its bc he never begged her he just left her alone somthing i didnt do but i wonder if she will in the future... anyway thanks for the addvice greatly appreciated

I would like some information on how to get over ONEITIS when ur IN a relationship with her... that can also ruin it!