Hey guys,

I did my first direct approach a few days ago and got a number. I text a few hours later with the usual hey nickname do you speak text? Nothing happens for nearly 48 hours.

Then while I was leaving work I see a missed call from her and a text "hey, its you, are you still at work?" Well, I was gonna have a phone interview in a while so I wasn't really in game mode to call her and chat. So I just text her back about an hour later saying something like yep, i was at work at that time, did you make it home safely on Saturday? (I met her while she was returning from a trip, pulling her suitcase through downtown). Never heard back.

Okay, so probably not the best thing to say but I was too focused on my interviews.

My question is, is it because I didn't call after she gave me a missed call and I preferred to text (thus moving down the intimacy scale) or that my text just sucked? Or that I didn't do much qualification when I got her number? I mean we talked about what we do, where we're from, etc but didn't even try to identify any commonalities or anything... more like superficial comfort rather than qualification.

Is there anything I could do to turn this thing around? Its been like a week since then and I'm only asking now, a week later, because I had more interviews during this whole time.

Thanks in advance.

Who cares. Numbers mean nothing. Girls are fickle. They respond on how they feel, at the moment. You're just starting out in game. You're going to mess up a lot of numbers. After a while you'll figure out the best system, but there will be times for no reason you'll lose girls other than they just didn't feel like it at the time. As a general rule, if she calls you, call back. If she texts, text back. Girls that are preemptive to texting indicate a higher level of comfort if they start calling instead of texting, so watch for it.

Yea man your placing WAY too much emphasis on the number. When you open a girl you should be focused on getting her invested. Numbers are meaningless if the girl hasn't spent time with you, invested emotionally, invested financially or invested physically. I can relate though to what your sayin. Last lil while I decided to drop game and go natural. Just kinda go out and put in 0 effort and see what would happen lol. I'd see a girl and I could tell she was attracted so I'd give her my number and wait. I had two different girls start texting me with this. Of course it lead to nothing because they weren't invested. I flirted with them, built rapport all kinds of stuff. Doesn't mean shit. You gotta have the girl in the room with you. Get her aroused make an emotional connection and then plan a meet up which justifies the number exchange. You've got a long haul ahead if you wanna take complete control of your dating life. In the end its worth it.

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I did not read these other gentlemen's responses yet, so for that I appologize.

She called you which is awesome!!! And she texted after the call which is a plus!

Your response was lame. You sound like her grandpa.

Just call her, dude. Think of something funny to say or text her "Coffee?"

If she accepts it as an invite, plan it with a minimal word count

If she has to ask what you mean, ask her if she likes coffee.

If she says no she's busy, think of a funny neg such as I wasn't inviting you I wanted you to help me choose a flavor

Thanks everyone for your comments. And I have to agree, I did sound like her grandpa!

Anyway, I guess its too late to turn this around now. Its been more than a week so not sure what I could do to save it, since we didn't really have an interaction. I guess going for another number is the way to go!

Thanks again!