How should you handle it? This happened to me a couple of weeks ago and I've mostly moved on. We were dating for 8 weeks and then she started pulling away within a few days and on our last date she was distant and then she LJBF me. She never said why other than "she's not feeling it and her heart wasn't in it".

So I just told her that's totally fine, I was having doubts about her too and I'm moving in 8 weeks anyway so I'm fine being friends. She drunk texted me last week and I didn't respond until 3 nights later and she was drunk again when I texted her so I told her to have a good time and she never got back.

I plan on going no contact for a month and not texting her back if she texts me again.

I was just wondering, should I have been more harsh and totally cut her off or was I right by saying "it's no big deal" and acting like it didn't phase me? Is it best to tell her it's no big deal when she breaks up/LJBF you?

I was unsure because I wanted her to wonder why I wasn't phased/didn't care but at the same time I didn't give her that sense of loss either. So I'm not sure which I should have done.

Here is a link to my thread when it happened if you want more details: just-got-ljbf-by-girl-i-was-dating-for- ... 30050.html

There's really no benefit to burning bridges or acting butt-hurt. By remaining cool about it, you are basically sub-communicating that you have other options. I think you did the right thing.

-Wolf

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you did the right thing.

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What you did was good, but I would also take a moment to reflect back on the relationship itself. When you get LJBFed by a girl, there's usually a valuable lesson behind it. Not enough competitive anxiety? Were you not escalating enough? Being secksual? Need to be more dominant? Use the break up for motivation, and analyze the relationship to figure out how that motivation needs to be utilized.

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Good to know, that helps bring some sense of closure knowing I at least did the right thing at the end. It's been over a week and she still hasn't returned my text so it's officially over. Even if she texts me I don't think I'll respond. She lead me on the entire time from when I met her. If you are into someone even as a genuine friend, you'll text them back.

Should I unfriend her on facebook or is that too AFC?

I just recently had the same problem, except she said that she still liked me but needed time to "figure things out", this all occured after we had already slept together. It sucks cause i was just starting to get really involved with her.

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Well lucky you. You still have a chance if she said she still likes you. The thing you should do is just drop contact for like a week or two and then get back to her only if she contacts you first. Better yet, go out with other girls if you have them, be busy. Don't respond to her right away. Act disinterested because she said that.

That's what I failed to do much earlier in my case. Right after she said "I like you but I'm not sure 100%" I dropped her for half a week and she kept texting me first with all kinds of IOI's for a few weeks after that then just suddenly dropped off the face of the earth for good after our date 2 days after she was telling me how badly she wanted to kiss me and she missed me. That's what's most confusing in my case.

I guess I still texted her more than I should have and should have just totally dropped her for a few weeks. Girls are hard to figure out, you never know just how much or how little contact/attention to give them in certain cases.

Ok, I'm feeling so alpha right now. I went downtown and to a bar to meet another chick I was talking to and at the same time ran into the girl I was dating and who LJBF me (the girl who's thread this is about). It wasn't intentional at all. She was like hey! (my name) but I barely glanced at her because the chick I was meeting was 5 ft to the right at the bar so I went over to her and after 40 minutes of conversation started making out with her. She was a MUCH better kisser too. I'm hoping the girl I was dating saw it but I didn't even bother to look. She may or may not have. I was with this other chick for like 60 minutes so she might have. Either way I'm trying to feed off this confidence to get over this girl I started the thread about.

I didn't text her or anything, she hasn't texted me asking why I ignored her either so Idk. Just feeling good regardless. That's how true PUA's move on.

Thats awesome mate^^

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Yeah, unfortunately I don't know if she saw me or was on the other side of the bar because I didn't look. Even if she didn't, I didn't really pay much attention to her so maybe that in itself helped DHV. She still hasn't texted me in 10 days but I don't really care as much which is good regardless. It would just be cool if I could have girls competing for me

Should I text the girl I was dating (who I ignored) asking how her night at the bar went? Or is that too AFC. I just want to see if what I did even affected her.

Or is the right thing to wait and have her come to me? She may never text me back at all.

You will be my hero if you DON'T text her. At this point, she thinks you and this other girl went back to your place and engaged in the sexual olympics. If you call her, it may look otherwise.

Let us know what happens.

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I won't text her, I don't know why I was thinking that. But I never saw her again since me and the chick I was with left before closing hour. She could have walked by and left without me seeing though. Idk, I wasn't too concerned at the time.

I could have f closed the girl I was with, I just wasn't expecting things to go so fast. I'm sorta religious so I always have second thoughts about that going to fast too but Idk, I haven't gotten laid in a while so I could have used it. She also said it's too fast to do that on the first meeting.

I told her I was tired and wasn't feeling it and we'll do a raincheck. I was happy enough to make out.

I guess I'm an idiot but I still felt great for even going that far.