Me and my girlfriend had been dating for 11 months. I am 17 and she is 16 and we are in highschool. Picked her up, began dating her, fell head over heels for her. But then, at about 7 months or so i began to feel differently. Small habits of hers that were cute became annoying, i felt like i was in an old people marriage. When i broke up with her she was completely heart broken, couldnt even talk to me, and balled her eyes out as she left. That was approximately 24 hours ago. I broke up with her because I am going to college in like 5 months, and I didnt want to squeeze out every last drop in the relationship. I wanted to end our dependence before we were faced with extreme anxiety in regards to "the end" in sight. But now that she is gone, I really miss her. I thought all i wanted was to party and hook up with girls, but now im starting to feel like all i want is to have her in my life again. I dont know what to do/say. I'm thinking about asking her to still be in my life, but instead of being dependent on each other, just seeing each other less, like on the weekends and stuff ( The fun part of the relationship ) So basically, im just venting and any comments/ect... would be nice.

Me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 4 months broke up about three weeks ago. I lost my virginity to her and I "loved her".

We broke up because we started arguing a lot, and there was a lot of jealously involved. I felt pretty good about the break up for a couple of days, but then I started missing her and wasn't sure if I made the right choice.

Well, I decided to stick it out for a while and see if I wanted to be with her or not. After I explored the amazing world of pickup for a few days I started to realize that my options are now open, and I'm free to talk to, flirt, and make sweet love to any girl I want.

Basically what I'm saying is give it a while. It gets better. And knowing about pickup, and this forum will help significantly.

"Time heals all".

I know exactly how you feel right now - I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years a few months ago and I miss him terribly right now. I still love him, but I know deep down that we made the right decision, because we were at the point in our relationship where we either get married or break up. I am not ready to get married right now - much as I love him, there are so many things I need to do before I settle down.

When my first serious boyfriend and I broke up (aged 19), I never thought I would love anyone again and that I would never get over him. Over time, I did and fell more in love with my ex than I had ever thought possible.

You just need to have good friends around to help you through this time. Be strong - it's not easy, but you will get through it.

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....Thought you might like a girl's opinion....

well the thing is, im doing okay. Like im not sitting home crying about it. I am a man. therefore i am logical. i know we can't be together forever, and that is okay. But, we COULD be together for a few more months. And tonight i made out with a girl that i had been flirting with for a while. I didnt enjoy it, i felt like all i was doing was making this girl reinforce my beliefs that i am a good "pick up artist". I know im good at talking to girls, i know im good at this shit, but when i was making out with this girl i realized how much more i enjoyed making out with my girlfriend. To me at this stage of my young life, in this very moment, a strong connection to a girl, notice i dont say the word LOVE because that is something i dont want to get into. A strong connection is much more enjoyable then making out with girls with nice tits and pretty faces. (trust me, her tits are nice). To be honest, all i really thought about while i was kissin this chick was my ex girlfriend. I realize that time heals all, and i realize that with or without my ex girlfriend life will go on. But i am beggining to see this as a game of happiness. Obviously, making out with this girl didn't make me happy. I dont think getting my dick sucked by her would make me happy, or even fucking her would make me happy. But i do think that to look up at the stars with my highschool sweetheart would make me happy. Maybe im childish, maybe im wrong, maybe im right, maybe i just grew up a little bit.

I've been there. I know you two have a history, and you want to be with her, but trying to make a relationship work when only one person makes it want to work is like lifting a couch. A couch that she's sitting on, not helping you carry. You might be able to make her pine for you again, but it'll only be temporary.

No one girl will replace the girl you had feelings for. You'll have to keep your standards about you and be on the lookout for someone who challenges you. You will find her, though. Keep your chin up, man!

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Good luck guys. Just remember not to rush yourself with getting over her, and do NOT try to date other women to try to make it easier on yourself. You'll only end up making the situation for yourself worse and hurting some other innocent girl. Give yourself the time you need to figure things out and love yourself again. You'll slowly transition into a thought process where you're 100% happy with being single again, and at that point, you know it's time to strike again.

Also, I know it's tempting to think that she might send you a text or something and you'll magically get back together, but trust me, that doesn't happen very often. And when it does, it only re-opens the wounds and ends up failing again anyway.

Well i have some news. After I broke it off with her I told her why i was in the position i was in and why i made the decision i did. She really really loved me a lot when i did this, and the next day she told her friends that her eyes hurt... But, I realized that i had been taking her for granted and that I wasn't doing my best and thats why we werent having a fun time. It was me. But last night i went over to her house in the middle of the night and got a pretty mean breakup blowjob. Goin back over there tonight... looks like were getting back together.

I have someting to say about getting back with ex girlfriends. A lot of people on here state that you have to have this frame and not text her too much and all these rules about what makes you an AFC and what makes you a PUA. My advice, from real experience would be this. Don't play any games. Figure out what you want, be totally upfront and honest, and do everything in your power to get what you want. You don't need to freeze out a girl to make her like you more. Do you want girls to like you because of how awesome of a guy you are or because of how awesome of a guy you pretend to be? Girls find it much more attractive when you follow your heart and do everything that you want to do, rather then do something incongruent with what you think.

I dont know, thats just my two cents. Pickup isn't about always saying the right things at the right time, or doing the right think at the right time, its about becoming a more confident man and getting the things you want. There is no need to trick people, just be you.