Old post...but I have pertinent advice.

Much of the problem with the 'virginity' mindset (especially if you are older) is that you will sabotage yourself. You are likely fearful of how things will go when you finally get to the prize. It sounds to me like you have been doing this.

The solution is knowledge. Knowledge is the answer. Experience is not the answer. There are millions of guys (most probably) who have been laid a LOT, and are still lousy. Most women can confirm this. If they have been with more than 10 men in their life....they will probably have 1,2,3 who they consider great, and the rest are not even close.

Read David Shade's material. This guy knows what women want in the sack. Sex is very mental for women. Most guys can't relate to this, so they do what they think would please them if they were a woman. As Shade notes, the most important tools for turning on women in bed are your voice and your brain. Read this stuff....and you will have a whole new take on things. You can go in knowing stuff that 95% of guys...regardless of their level of experience....simply do not know. This will give the confidence to stop sabotaging yourself.

I know this first hand, because I lost it pretty late (21 in college) despite having ample oppourtunities. I had the same mindset holding me back. I had not read Shades material at that time (because he had not published it) but luckily for me I had read some good material...and mad did it help. The first time I was with a girl, she literally refused to believe that it was my first time (I brought it up AFTER not before). It did not hurt that I made her come 3 times before I even nailed her....

Get a Fleshlight, practice many many times, it will give you the ability to make it alot longer without coming, seriously

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