Day 19 -
Well one girl was all i approached today
i've been reading a lot of poeticlyskua's body language thread recently which is AWESOME...
so anyway, i saw her body language, she seemed intensely shy and intensely attractive lol, which is a very cute combination..
so talked to her, she was flattered by my attention, i thought she was a lecturer or something, she turned out to be 18 lol... she's at that very small moment in her life, where she doesn't realise HOW attractive she is, so cute...
but yeah, too young for me..
still, i got a massive buzz from being able to talk to a stranger like that, zero approach anxiety, i just dived straight in... the trick was, i had nothing riding on the outcome, i was genuinely intruiged by her and her body language....

STILL haven't met EC girl, haven't knocked on her door... i'm starting to feel the advice i was given by friends was pure CHUMP... i don't see why i can't just knock on her door and say hi again... i mean its not like she's not interested...
bah. i'll say hi tmw i think, in the evening, if i don't see her..

Day 20
no new girls approached today.
tired beyond belief..
saw EC girl today for about 5 seconds - she was out doing some field work with her classmates, got shy, i left her too it... feel like i missed the moment..
very annoyed i didn't knock on her door on day 1...
i think taking advice from 'chumps', when the way people here roll is different...
VERY annoyed at a friend who said i'd be a creep if i knocked on her door, and then said, 'oh if u wanted to do it, you should have manned up and done it'... that's like about 3 negs in one there... hardly confidence boosting...
enemies, who needs them with friends like that?

i was gonna knock on her door today, but im too tired and no positive vibes, have to go in with the right attitude... gonna do it tomorrow..hopefully =)

Day 21
late update
Average day at uni - i realised making stronnnnnng eye contact with someone out of the group when im with friends can freak my friends out lol.. i might need to tone that down a little..
i knocked on EC girl's door today (last night), she was not in, home for the weekend i think, according to her SPAM anyway..
ummmmmmmm,
went to a quiz night afterwards, a girl was giving me mad flirtatious glances, but i think, its just in her nature... when a girl does that to me, it just annoys me, rather than turns me on... because if she does it with me, then with another guy, than another, than another.. it's just no fun..
nothing else to report...
except the fact, that by me learning to stand up for myself, by respecting my own boundaries, by not giving to people, who only ever take from me... i think a lot of people don't like that..
believe it or not, my SPAM yesterday had a massive go at me for using my own pot to cook food and putting it in my fridge, as they'd grown used to using my pot, and i was being 'discourteous' by hogging my own property... apparently..
lol, pathetic...
maybe part of becoming more confident (which i definitely am now compared with 3 weeks ago), is that, you learn not to apologise for existing...

bad news is, for the first time, since this started, i actually feel lonely, even though i was surrounded by friends all day...ahhh, hopefully, all this work im putting into this will pay off soon.

Day 28
Hi guys,
i've been incredibly busy with assignments due etc. therefore my 'game' has had to take a backseat...
i haven't forgotten my objectives though, and i have continued reading poeticallyskuacs's awesome body language thread!

right - i can't remember much...

highlights
1) talking to a hot blonde - i didn't know how to close the deal, she was shy - i vibed well at first but 2) a RANDOM girl asking for my number in the middle of our convo really killed the vibe lol.. i came across as a phone slut lol

2) talked to a girl i like for an hour... i didn't get her number.. she is now officially known as 'relgirl' as she's religious.. if i make a play with her, it's got to be serious, and i'm not sure if i want to do that.... just yet..

3) EC girl has disappeared out of my life, knocked on her door twice 'she's not there'...
ugh, i so feel like i've missed the boat on that one...

4) HB4 tried to seduce me on the bus, it was fun because i knew bodylanguage etc., but though i didn't accept her date type requests.. it's kinda sexy to feel wanted (yes that does make me a slut of sorts lol)

lowlights

1) accidently making EC with girls and making them blush WHEN I HAVE NO INTEREST IN THEM LOL

2) not talking to a cute girl who was open to me... ugh


that's about it....

and oh

3) low light - i'm getting majorly horny now that i've stopped um... going solo...
i think it's a good thing... but its making me see the world like a 14 year old again haha

I read a few of your days so far, I admire your ambition and willpower, I'll read all the rest of it and get back to you after with a good story of mine and how I became so succesful with women. Hope I can be off help, Anyway - TTL.

thanks man, please feel free to share any links or post stuff up =)..
your post made me re-read where i am...
and i have to say i'm pretty astonished...
it is absolutely 100% true, until 1 month ago, i had only ever approached one girl in my entire life, like a pure cold open with 'intent' lol... of course you talk to people in a normal way, you get introduced etc.. but actually going up to someone and talking to them like that.... never...
and now i'm so much more comfortable...
in the last month i guess the number must be around 10 by now....
in the next month, my target has to be to start getting dates... with girls who i actually find interesting.....
i've come to realise, incredibly pretty girls aren't actually necessarily 'good' for me.. i still want a girl i can dig..
and someone with a neutral expression, when you talk to them, and their face lights up... or doesn't... wow that really does have an effect..

Incredibly motivating reading your stuff, keep us posted.

I have just a while ago started getting into game, so far studied a lot of stuff from this forum, read books and looking for information. Been out every now and then, not really been sarging but tried to meet new people, chatted with people and see how they react, tried to act and be seen as confident, keeping strong eye contact and that kind of stuff.

But reading your posts makes me wanna go out right now and talk with every stranger and hit on every girl I see.

haha, glad to hear it man...
but remember, the interaction IS the outcome... don't go in with an objective... just talk, and enjoy the moment for what it is... if you become friends, that's cool... something else, that's cool too, and if you never talk again, well hey, you had your fun right.. that moment, when you got that thrill, that was pretty awesome.. that's what it's all about..
and oh..
what i say to myself is..
i don't try to act confident
i AM confident...
it's amazing how that little play on words helps

day 30

well folks, today i met 'relgirl' again...
we talked for a good few hours, face to face...
it felt awesome...
and you know what felt even more awesome...
TWO seperate guys came up to her and said she was the prettiest girl they've seen in uni... and i was talking to her.. i loved the fact they were just sincere, they weren't hitting on her... but yeah, i think... when you talk to someone, and they're laughing and smiling etc... well, it's pretty magical..
based on the fact we seem to have chemistry, i am going to play it cool with her.. i.e. i'm going to not try to make EC with other girls etc..
and oh she's 18.. lol... i think i have a thing for hot 18 year olds lol...
but yeah, its not about the looks, its about inner beauty... it really is..
anyway, i'll keep you guys updated

Well, i saw relgirl again...we spoke for a couple of hours...
whilst i was with relgirl, i saw ECgirl wandering around with a guy following 2-3 steps behind, either he's crushing on her.. or feelings mutual..
i wonder if me and EC girl both caught each other at a very small window, when we both weren't.. well, talking to anyone..
funny how things work out....
anyway, i'm trying really hard to not do my usual thing and give up all my secrets, i'm giving myself some respect, taking it slowly with relgirl, and yeah, she really likes the mystery...
anyway folks, I won't report back unless something major happens..
i WONT be pursuing other girls, making EC with other girls for now..i want to respect this interaction... i'll let you all know what happens...
and yes, what's happening, wouldn't have happened without me changing my mindset, and using the resources here and what the links here introduced me to (so thank you to this place existing and the people posting here some incredible stuff)... i.e. natural game, inner game, learning how to be confident..
and being confident, and respecting myself, as a Man..

DUDE I have just been reading your first month of gaming. ummm I was following along with the attitude of 'holy crap thats exactly how I feel' until day 28 something changed in you... and I want to know what the hell that is because Im not there yet lol. A random girl asked for your number??? thats nvr happened to me in my life could you explain that mabye more clearly? and a girl was seducing you on the bus?! dude where did the change from girls ignoring your texts to doing this happen? just persistance in gaming. I am really disheartned right now. It was a huge step for me to actually talk to a girl, like you said the last time you cold appraoched was when you were 21 lol.. yea Ive nvr done that either. But now Im cold appraoching like a champ without thinking. and pulling numbers. This is amazing but I have been in this sort of purgatory of sorts lol for months and Im disheartened Im doing my best but after I number close they nvr text me.. .. any thought much appreciated

thanks
Alex
Sonoma State Uni in California

hey man, nothing much changed lol, it's just little flips in the subconscious which help a lot...we're still both the same... please bear in mind, i'm just 100% new at this lol also, but here are the key things that have changed in me.
1) i dont try to act confident anymore, i say i AM confident, and i act accordingly
2) i set myself boundaries, and i respect them
3) i tell girls, e.g. relgirl, that i'm interested in them, i don't...try to defuse the sexual tension, i embrace it.. girls really like the upfrontness
4) i understand what outcome independence means now... to me, the ideal is talking to a gorgeous girl and not caring what happens next, just enjoying the interaction.... if i want to get a number, that's already given HER the power to validate me... e.g. i told relgirl WHY i hadn't asked for her number (it was context specific), but it showed her i had boundaries,, and it made her even more curious about me, so now she's trying to get my attention and i'm just trying to keep her eager.. (i'm not awesome at this lol, but that's the intention)

5) bodylanguage - girls are always open to us, we just have to be 'scanning' - the girl on the bus who came onto me lol, i knew she was interested, i dress well, my posture exudes confidence, and i said hi to her when she looked at me, everything else, well, i just played along with (except going out with her lol)... if a girl is completely closed to me, well that's harder... but its amazing how much you detect from bodylanguage...

dude, please don't get disheartened, centre on yourself... this may sound like bullshit, but its not.. for a girl to get to know you, it's her honour..LOL... if a girl is open to you, she's making ALL the right non-verbal signals... by you not saying hi to her... YOU are rejecting her..... so by saying hi, you're just reciprocating...

this is the only bit of game i've started to learn so far lol, learning how to deal with complete strangers with zero eye contact is beyond me!

Day 35
Well, i've been speaking to relgirl again...it's chill with me and her, there is a sweetness to her.. a lightness I like....
i try not to give her too much... i am intense when i'm with her, but then, i don't overpower it by phoning her etc (we don't have each other's numbers).. so it's like a yin-yang thing going on, her lightness to my dark side...

so yeah, speaking of which, as silly as it may sound... i'm learning how to be a 'man' again... i realised that i had forgotten what that meant... I feel myself like a sexual being again...
i realise that when i talk to girls, it's about my words making the beauty within her come out... so if i make her laugh, or she smiles at something, or she thinks about something cool, that makes the beauty come out within...
so yeah, was talking to another girl yesterday, she invited me to a house party tonight...
i MAY go... however.. after all said and done, i'm still a lot more comfortable talking to a girl 1 on 1, then i am being in a house party environment...
i may go, just to challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone... we shall see..
and oh, i bought David Deida - the way of the superior man - i guess you could call it part of my man-development training!
take care,
'Jeff'

ps it seems its quite a natural occurence for relgirl to be told she is pretty by guys lol, i've been talking to her and seen her receive that compliment a lot lol, just a sincere compliment, but my feeling is they do it, because they know me and are being nice to my 'new friend'.... but its something they don't have to say, but they say it anyway... and i won't lie... i fuckin' love it

solid

Day 36 -
About yesterday's house party... i think i struggle a LOT to vibe well with a lot of people around... it's hard, people want me to talk to them... and i can have really cool convos, but i can't have cool superficial convos, the gossipy style stuff which seems to pre-dominate..
i think, my 'approach anxiiety', doesn't really exist in the way it used to anymore, it isn't anymore 'omg i'm too scared to talk to her'... its more like 'i can't think of anything interesting to say to him/her'... lol, it's like i have failed convos, i'll talk to someone, and the convo will die away again after 10-20 seconds..
However, focussing on the positive.... i'm getting the practice down.. a lot of people would have got this practice down when they were teenagers, i'm getting it now.. and you know, i'll get better at it =)..

ps..
i've been thinking a lot this weekend about the fact relgirl is 18, and i'm 29.... she's absolutely stunning, and we vibe well, but idk, i worry if it's like entering a race where you have an unfair advantage.. if that makes sense... i'll talk to her about it when i see her tomorrow.. i'm going to talk to her about the implications of the age gap, and if she feels comfortable with the it, then we'll see..