In conversation I'm having some problems, Like I'm not sure if I'm expressing my personality right. Also I don't exactly know what to say once I'm in a convo with a girl, how do I build a connection?

I had the same problem too. Start reading books, it expands your vocabulary. Get an unique style of talking. (I talk like a philosopher but girls know that I'm doing that playfully. Ex: HB: I got 50% on my maths exam, but i studied a lot!
Me: Why do you even worry, maybe you got talent for something deep inside you and i placed my hand 3cm above her tits. And she laughed and said thanks)

=D

Read the newspaper each morning. Find topics that anyone can relate too and discuss those.
A really good technique is knowing both sides of argument, and expressing the opposite that people choose.
For instance,
Do you think abortion should be illegal?
Yes it should be illegal because women are no longer taking the pre-cautions necessary and as result abortions rates have skyrocketed. Abortion is now becoming a 'normal' option as a form of birth control.

No it should not be illegal. Women who are raped are sometimes impregnated and w/o the option to abortion, women would have to bear the child of a rapist. There are several instances where condoms do break, or the necessary precautions do fail. None of these options are 100%, and it is for this reason that abortion be legal.

Basically read alot and understanding of things to have a discussion. Practise practise practise.

build rapport then capitalize on that, find commonalities, share stories, etc.

Just practice practice practice! everyday. Whenever you see a target, approach have a chat you'll eventually realize that you're getting better and better. Don't be afraid to get out of your comfort zone.

I have ice melters as i call them because if I freeze up it helps me .

All after you have at least done a good opener of course. I will share one with you so that you can see the mindset of the questions and come up with your own .

If I get stuck I may say something like .

"I am not a guy that watches chick flicks, But if you were to punish me to watch one with you which one would it be? "

her ---- the notebook----

me ------hahah thats funny bc I swore with all the hype Id never watch that movie.

or she could say I hate chick flicks

me ---------man in that case im gonna make you watch the notebook with me

or

me --------- thats good becasue I thought i was gonna have to break up with you and we just started this realtionship,,,


There are many question gambits you can run like that one that will help the conversation flowing again just based on the response.


Hope it helps.

BALLSY!! im sur ethat must have worked. touch is a very sensetive thing and using it in a conversation is very effective. just imagine if you were talking to a very attractive girl and she touched your leg or your body, youd get all tingly an nervous... well you can use the same method, it works both ways. im slowly learning all this conversational stuff too ..

I use something similar to this. When i finally let go that I work as an engineer, and the target says something about her not being smart enough, I quote Albert Einstein - "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." Then launch into how there has to be something she excels at. Even better if you steer it into something sexual.