Hi guys, these days, I’m wondering what could be wrong with be. I might have a weird AA. In fact, I seem to be unable to take advantage of the situation when I have an open door. Let me tell you two short stories that happened to me this year.

Story #1

This was a sunny summer day and I was waiting at the bus stop. There were about 4 or 5 people at the bus stop at the moment. Then, this cute girl comes to me and asks me what time it is (which, as I realised later, was an opening). So we talk for about 2 or 3 minutes about where we are going and stuff. Then, the bus arrives and we split. 10 minutes later, I get out of the bus and guess who gets out too? Yeah, her. So she tells me that she works just a street across where I work. We talk for 5 more minutes and we arrive at our work place. I could tell that she was interested in me it was so obvious (+ she clearly opened me earlier). What did I do next? Nothing, f**king nothing! Byebye and we split. She was probably praying for me to ask her number.

Story #2

This is more complicated, but it happened to me today. So, I was working. My job was to pack groceries and other things at Costco. We are very very very busy and keep in mind that, from the moment I say hi to someone and the moment I say goodbye, there is only about 1 minute.

I was working and I saw this cute girl in the line with her mother (I guess?). So I finish with the customer in from or her (which I would realize later is her father or grandfather). I am very friendly with customers and this man was very nice too. So while I am packing the mom’s things, I notice that the cute girl is talking to the man just to my left. What are they talking about? Me. She seems shy and embarrassed. Then I hear the man talking about things like “He could be a good boyfriend for you”, “You should ask him his name”, etc. I don’t really understand what she answers, but she really didn’t seem to be against the idea even if he is teasing her! So, as usual, I’m joking, messing around, having fun, etc and as soon as I say something funny, she laughs (She wouldn’t if she was somehow disgusted by me right?). This story is trickier because I am busy and the time constraint is very short but I know deep inside that I could have done something. Maybe I would have fail but I didn’t even try!

Honestly, I don’t know what is wrong with me. Maybe it’s a fear of failure that keeps me from really trying and putting me at risk, I don’t know. I’m not introverted at all, but I still have problems at trying. I’m very sociable, I have a lot of friends (male and female) but nothing serious maybe because I don’t try to go above the friendship with girls.

If someone understands my problem, tell me what I should do lol or at least give me some hints on what I am doing wrong .
Thanks guys!

Try stop masturbating and other methods to increase your horndog. When your horny, picking up women will become a more natrual part of your vibe.

This vibe-deal is very important for naturals such as yourself. While some PUAs memorize 15 different openers a natural feels his emotions and let them guide him to saying something. Read Stormys post on this subject. Whenever I have a date or am going to a party, I listen to a song called "ridin solo", it puts me into my gaming vibe. Of course this gaming vibe is what I use to approach and pick up girls.

Make sure your vibe is confident, sexual and flirtatious.

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one way to help you fix this is you could force yourself to go out, and force out an soi to 5 random girls a day, you don't have to number close or anything, just for maybe about 1 month, leave your house, go to a mall or something, make it just 5 girls a day, any girl, ugly, good looking, young, old, just simply the first 5 girls you see in a row, walk up to them, and say excuse I know this is random, but I had to let you know that you are cute

from there you can either start a conversation (if you feel comfortable), or just say, well that was all I had to say glad I got that off my chest, and leave

do this for one month 5 girls a day, every day, no excuses, you are not trying for success here, or to obtain anything, so your target selection should be irrelivant, just any girl will do and just say it, say it to any random girl

after a month post up a report on how you feel now about talking to girls, and what has changed, then maybe a new sticking point can be taken care of

on a side note, at first this will probably seem extremely difficult for you (seeing as how you are in freeze up mode), but it will get better, at first it might take you 3 hours just to work up to courage to do 1 approach, but you must force yourself through it, do it just like a chore until you can relax and you find yourself doing it for fun

approaching a stranger and giving them a compliment is sort of like bungee jumping, at first it is pretty scary and it is really hard to work up the courage to do, but after a while you realize it is fun, and you get excited about doing it, then if you take 2 weeks off from bungee jumping, you can still do it, but all of a sudden a new fear has come back and it is sort of scary to start again, I think approach anxiety is fairly similar, when you go out every day, you get excited but not so much anxious as much anymore, just a good adrenaline rush for the first few sets, but the longer you go in between approaches, the more anxiety you will experience,

get out there, make yourself feel uncomfortable until it feels comfortable to be uncomfortable

GOOD LUCK

You seem to understand what I'm living. I'm a natural and I don't have trouble flirting with girls I know and especially those who are not my type (maybe because there is no real challenge) but there is something missing. I must find the balls to speak to any random girl that I like, but the most important, I need to be interested in going further in these conversations. You might be right, I might just not me horny enough...

I'm not THAT scared of talking to random girls but still, you are right because your exercice seems tough. I'll probably try it soon in the bus or the mall