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requires most guys to overcome the social conditioning they have been indoctrinated with from a very young age. That's not so easy.
-Wolf
tips?
Well, I think the underlying reason this forum exists is to come together and figure out what actually works as opposed to what society tells us should work. For me, reading the forums has been a huge help (specifically, the old MASF relationship forums.. I didn't find this place until that one became a ghost town). Here's a list of some of the more influential posts (I am standing on the shoulders of giants):
http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php? ... -old-forum
Obviously, there is no magic bullet. Everybody's situation is a little bit different. What we DO know is that society is very bad at preparing guys to handle dating and relationships. That's why we're all here. So now what we have to do is figure out all our bad habits ("dumb-guy mistakes") and fix them. If I had to narrow down some core advice that I have internalized since joining this community it would be this:
1) Learn to screen. Personally, I like the "Freaks, Hoes and Good Girls" classifications that have been around for awhile. Different women look for different things in relationships. Learn how to spot the different types of girls and treat them accordingly. Don't try to have a serious relationship with a freak unless you really know what you're doing.
2) Learn how to lead. Be confident and make decisions whenever possible. Most girls are indecisive and hate being the ones to make decisions in relationships. Submissiveness is a feminine trait and being in a submissive role makes most girls feel sexy. Don't argue with your girlfriend. Guys handle conflict logically while women handle conflict with their emotions. Arguing doesn't work and it only rewards bad behavior by giving her your attentions (which is what girls want most). Either change her emotional state (ideally, by having sex with her) or, if she is in the wrong, leave or ignore her until she cools down. Never accept ultimatums.
3) Be congruent. Know what you want and act accordingly. Set up your expectations early and stick to them. If a girl is a FB, then don't treat her like a girlfriend. Don't lie. Lying is beta behavior. Don't promise monogamy if you don't intend on being monogamous.
4) Know that nothing lasts forever. Monogamous relationships are mostly set up to fail. When we first meet somebody who we are attracted to, our bodies release strong hormones / endorphins when we are around them. However, this effect mellows out over time. The strong reaction lasts a good 2-3 years.. more if you have kids (think "seven year itch"). Sure, some people get passed it and have life-long marriages, but it typically isn't their sexual passion keeping them together (it's common bonds and comfortableness.. you see this work really well with 2 people who are equally co-dependent). Be prepared.
5) Always bring your A-game to the bedroom.. always try and keep sex passionate, interesting and frequent. Mix it up as much as you can. Be dominant and don't be afraid to treat her roughly.. most girls love that stuff. Get toys and restraints and anything else you can think of to add some variety to your sex life. Do some research and learn how to make a girl squirt. Learn how to properly introduce and perform anal sex. Talk to her about sex and learn about her fantasies. Be the guy that allows her to fulfill those fantasies. Touch her all the time.. as often as possible.
6) Don't fail shit tests! Don't ever show jealousy (and/or just don't get jealous of other guys.. that's beta). Don't tolerate or reward bad behavior. Giving her attention when she acts out or picks a fight is
BAD. Do, however, reward good behavior (this is part of leading well). Don't be that pussy-whipped guy who can never hang out with his friends. Don't be her psychologist or the one she constantly complains to (that's what her female friends are for). You should be the guy who makes her forget all the bad stuff.. a vacation from the troubles in her life. Avoid being around her when she's in a negative state and refuses to get out of it.
How is that for tips? If you want i can make a whole different post about all the BAD stuff society teaches us: That there's only 1 girl for every guy. That the best thing anybody can do is to settle down, get married and have kids (and live happily ever after). That woman need to be won and put on a pedestal. Guys should pay for everything. You need to be rich or famous to get lots of women. Non-monogamous relationships are weird and/or immoral. I could go on and on.
-Wolf
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