So on Saturday on my way into town I got chatting with a girl in the street, we walked and talked for about a minute before she had to go the opposite way to me to go to the library and study (important point for later). I grabbed her number (called her back when she was half way across the road) and said I'd be in touch etc. So Saturday evening and Sunday I had a few texts back and forth, nothing special, me basically busting her balls on stuff as ya do trying to build a lil comfort/attraction on top of what I did in the street.

So Monday I decided to call her to invite her to a quiet bar I was going to on the way home from college, no answer but I get a text a few minutes later with her being all apologetic about missing my call etc but she's up to her eyes in work (she's studying for a law degree and has exams coming up in a few weeks, I know this is true as it was pretty much the first thing she said when we met), she asked why I called and I said I was going to a bar and just gonna see if she wanted to join. Again she texts back all apologetic that she's so busy and starts saying stuff like "you must be thinking I'm so boring" etc. She mentions in this text that the work she's doing has to be done by Thursday but is going away for the weekend with friends, so I took the opportunity to say "Ok we're gonna plan in advance then, this Thursday at **** at around 6ish (I'll have to go by 7:30 though)" I decided to chuck a false time constraint in to ease her mind that she won't have to take too long a break from her studying. However I've yet to have a response.

So I'm not panicing as I know she's extremely busy and often takes a while to text back, as well as she seems to be interested given that she keeps qualifying herself to me on top of the fact it was clear we clicked well when we met, but I'm just trying to think of a way to get her to drop at least an hour from her scheduale to meet up so I can build up a more solid foundation of 'game' with her (a minute or 2 in the street is rather weak IMO). I've frozen her out for today and I was thinking maybe tomorrow just adding her on facebook without sending a message (just purely to keep me in her mind) then giving her a call on Thursday or Friday to try and arrange another meetup as I want to get a day 2 arranged asap before we just become phone buddies or something lame like that.

Cheers in advance chaps.

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dude. I just joined this forum and posted an almost identical story as my first post. I mean if she is busy then she is busy. I would let her chill for a week or two then send her a text or a call seeing what she is upto. The other strategy would be to not text or call her and hope that she hits you up.

Its ok to chase to a point but u gotta make sure u dont cross that line

Literally just looked at yours lol. Yeah I'm not gonna chase like a mad-man, in a couple of days I might just send her a standard response envoking text but not anything too much, just to ensure she still knows I'm here as it were.
I'll prob try again after the weekend now, if she flakes again I'll reserve one more attempt which if she flakes on that (I'm talking with no attempt to arrange for another day) I'm just gonna blatantly say "It was nice meeting you but speaking honestly I didn't get your number to just be phone buddies, so as it's looking like you're too busy to meet-up again I wish you good luck in all your endeavours"

I always like to do little sign-offs when things are going nowhere for some reason lol.

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Just as an update after a 3-day freeze out (last time I spoke to her was Monday) she text me yesterday apologising for not being in touch saying her week has been crazy (which I already knew anyway) and all that. I just text her back today saying it's ok as I knew she had a busy week coming up when we exchanged numbers etc and that I 'may' have some free time next week and that 'maybe' we could arrange something for then.
Ironically a girl who I'd last spoken to Monday aswell (went on a date with last week which I kinda screwed up) also re-opened me yesterday after a 3 -day freeze out haha.
So freeze-outs are the flavour of the moment it seems.

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