| I met a girl at a club, and she was really into me. We talked outside for a while. Had a lot of commonalities. So I get her number, and she gets mine. We go on a date a few days later.
She comes to my place, but waits outside for me. I walk to my car, she's wearing heals so it's hard to walk. It's a downhill thing, so she's like "Oh man this is steep". So I playfully offered to give her a piggy back ride. She says yes, and i carry her to my car. We go, eat and drink. It's going well. We're talking, and I make excuses to touch her arm, and hand. Touch her when asking where she got her ear-rings etc.
She then hits me with two deep questions. She asks if I cheated, and what religion I was...... I am an Atheist, and I cheated twice in my life (with a legit explanation, but cheating is cheating. So I frame it as me not saying it's an excuse, but explaining it. Long story short, two insecure women in the past. Long distance, they already thought I was a cheater, and accused me. got drunk, and bang a girl out of spite. I have since swore of long distance, and told myself I'd end a relationship if the insecurities of a women were too much).
We get deep into why I'm atheist, what I believe in etc. She hits me with weak scenarios on why I should believe, I rebuke with logical responses. It's nailing jello to the wall basically. We agree to disagree, but it never got into a heated debate. So after these two things, she gets more quiet, not as flirt, and it becomes more small talk banter. Walking back to my car we still talk. She seems to warm back up. We get back to my place, and she gets out of my car walking behind it. I go in front. I didn't notice, but seeing her walk the other way, I figure "Fuck it's done". I go in, and she hugs me. Not even a cheek kiss.
After this I wait 24 hrs to text/call. I text her a full day after that nights date. Just a quick hi, but I get nothing until the next day in the morning. Small chat here, and there. I tell her i'm going to a friends bday in DC, and she's welcome to come. No response, until the next day in the morning again.
Part of me wanted to just be blunt, and say that I'd like to get to know her more. Then preface it with "If you're not comfortable with me being Atheist, and having cheated..I understand. Just let me know, I don't want to waste each others time". I feel this is AFC ish. She also added me on FB before our day 2. She hasn't deleted me or anything, but I'm not sure if this is a sign.
My question is this. Is it over? Should I push for a 2nd date? Or should I just write it off as a loss.
Thanks.
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