For anyone interested, here is a link to a previous post I did about 2 weeks ago same girl: being-willing-to-walk-away-from-her-did ... 28993.html

she ended up coming around but is showing the same hot/cold shit again.

Basically I met this 21 year old girl (HB 7) 8 weeks ago off POF. For like a month we texted everyday and flirted a lot (like 100 txts a day) and she usually initiated them. We went on 5 dates and made out once. For a while we'd kinda take turns initiating texting then over the past 2 weeks I was usually the one to text her every day (AFC mistake I know) but she was very responsive and flirty so I figured it was ok.

The weekend before last she texted me when she was drunk saying she missed me and wanted to kiss me because I wasn't able to see her. Then last Tuesday she invited me out with her friends and I noticed she was physically more distant and such. I tried being physical but she wouldn't grab my hand like she use to although she did let me kiss her.

Her friend also told me that she likes me (when HB went to the bathroom) although that could be hear say because HB isn't acting like it.

She dropped me off at my house with no hug or kiss or anything (I was sorta drunk) and I texted her the next day and she was more cold than usual and giving one worded texts and no smiles like usual. Here is our last conversation:

Me: I don't know what got into me last night
Her: What do you mean?
Me: Doing stuff like putting ice down your shirt
Her: Alcohol
Me: No way! really?
Her: for real!
Me: I had fun, it was so hard to get up though
Her: Were you hungover?
Me: Just a little, I assume you weren't
Her: DD's don't get hangovers! I was fine
Me: lol I know! Thanks for dding
Her: No problem
(I didn't text back)

BUT...I saw her in church later that day and she sat with her friend and walked out before I could say anything afterwards. I took this as a big red flag of disinterest and I decided to give her some space figuring she'd come around. I haven't heard from her in a week (another red flag) and she usually texts me first if I don't text her in 3 days so this is unusual.

I am giving her space and don't plan on talking to her until she gets back in touch, but is it time for me to move on or should I text her in a few days? I feel like if she were interested she would have gotten back in touch with me.

Continue to move on or give it one more shot? I figure I need to ignore her if she's not that interested anymore.

Unfortunately I have no other options and have oneitis I'm trying to cure because she's a virgin and has only been in one other relationship so I keep thinking she could be a keeper but I guess not after all this BS.

I guess the AFC in me is thinking maybe I did something that night I couldn't remember that pissed her off or I acted like a fool although I think she would have mentioned that.

I don't know.

After thinking about it, I'm pretty sure ignoring her indefinitely and moving on is the right way to go. I guess I was having doubts because she was the last one to text me and maybe she's mad but but I figure if she were still interested and mad she would get back in touch still. It use to be where if I didn't text her within 24 to 48 hours she'd text me again even if she texted last.

I'm just surprised she lost interest so fast over the period of a day or two. It might have been gradual in her mind though. Oh well...I guess no contact and moving on is the best and only chance I'd have even if it takes weeks. Am I right?

#1 I dont think you guys were on the same page. Texting is gay. you should have called her for any long chat you were going to have. This is so that you guys are used to communicating which i think you missed when you went out. You were thinking one thing while she was thinking the other because reading something is very different than hearing it.

#2 I dont think you earned the right to be physical with her. her as a virgin probably had a different idea in mind.

#3 Not sure if you DHV enough.

Have you read any books on PUA? I see a lot of flaws in you game bro, Im not trying to sound like im talking shit but I have a feeling I do. I would HIGHLY recommend reading the Mystery Method by mystery. You will finish the book in a couple of days. A lot of great info in there that will make you re think your strategies.

The game by Neil Strauss is also a good read but more of a story than an informative literary piece.

GL bro, If I were you I would move on but if you really like her, I would start strategizing a jealousy plot.

I agree with you about the texting part. I told her early on I don't want a texting relationship and she agreed but we kept texting regardless. We did talk on the phone a couple of times for a few hours though.

I've read mystery method a few years ago. I guess I'll have to read it again. My game is weak because I don't practice it that often, I've only practiced it at parties (being an engineering major at a tough school = no social life) but once I graduate in a few months I'll be able to turn it into a hobby.

Anyway, I'm not sure how I can recover this one. A jealously plot would be good but I don't have any other girls to help me out. I guess I could take a picture with a random one and put it on facebook. Idk.

Your classes are your playground bro. Just be alpha all the time everywhere you go. Doesn't have to be only at "designated social areas" like bars/clubs/parties. Just start sets everywhere you go. Just be an overall social person. Soon you will be the one deciding which girls you want and which you don't. gl man.

New idea!

I'm thinking of sending her a text and friend zoning her. Would it work? here is a link to my thread about the idea: here-vp615103.html#615103

Basically I was thinking of beating her to the LJBF and since it's been a week and all signs point that she has lost interest....anyway + she was the last one to text maybe this would work better than No contact?

I have really pretty much moved on and think it would be best to be friends with her anyway since I'm moving in 2 months. Even if we were in a relationship, she's a virgin and wouldn't go past making out (which we already did) or it would be tough to. What do you guys think?

I think I have nothing to lose if it's pretty much a dead deal anyway. It's a long shot but may be better than no contact.

Maybe something like:

"Hey (her name), I hope I didn't do or say anything wrong last week but I was thinking about it over this past week maybe it's best we just stay friends. I just didn't feel like we clicked that well last week and that's where we seem to be most comfortable since we still don't know each other very well.. I'd really like to stay friends though because I feel like we have a lot in common."

Or something along those lines? I guess I want to add a tad bit of hope in there and not totally lead her to believing she has no way out of the friend zone. I dunno maybe it would present a challenge?