| shit tests are a test of your congruence, you are being tested on who you are, what sort of person you are,
if you have been cool social ''high value'' type of guy, exuding confidence and security, and that is persona you are congruently trying to portrait as yourself (hopefully it really is yourself), then the best way to pass that test is simply, not EMOTIONALLY react to the test, note that it is your emotions you must keep in control, not nessicarily the content of what you are saying, but obviously there is a degree of social intelligence you must display to not seem socially retarded,
the easiest way by far to pass shit tests, is simply be congruent, if you are just yourself, but your true self without fear or need for approval, then you will confidently and congruently just express yourself and act in a way that expresses your intent without the need to filter yourself
when you have an instinct to just blurt something out and you are not having an EMOTIONAL reaction to what has been said, and what you are saying is not a reaction to that EMOTION then what you say will most likely naturally just pass that test, as you have remained congruent, unless what you are saying completely contradicts the person you have been viewed as
(in other words a confident secure person, will be sure of himself and who he is, and if someone tests how sure of himself he is, he simply remains sure of himself and doesn't get mad or irritated or anything, because it doesn't matter, he knows who he is and has a strong idea of this)
the other way to pass tests is just to not take them, or completely dismiss her frame
either way what is important is that you don't care about what the test is and don't react to it, she mocks your accent, you respond in a way congruent to what you have been doing,
for example your accent thing, almost any answer will do as long as it does not have an emotional undertone of, I AM BUTTHURT AND THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS, the answer should just either ring with, ya, why would you say that?, or haha cute, depending on what action you want her to take, you want to encourage it or dissmiss it as it doesn't bother you?, passive or agressive really depends on your own personality, but being a butthurt crybaby is a good way to fail tests and create dis-interest rather then interest, you have to learn to control your emotions, if you get irritated or angry over female emotional outbursts and you can't handle them, you are failing shit tests before they are even answered
keep in mind there is a difference between saying
WHY DON'T YOU GO SUCK A BIG HAIRY DOG DICK!, when you are mad, and saying it when you are happy, or saying it when you are simply calm, being emotionally non reactive also has little to do with being stoic, it does not mean be emotionless, it simply means control your emotions and be active in generating your own emotional state rather then reacting to others and basing what emotional state you are in on external stimulation (like pretty much every girl does)
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