Hey guys,

I am fairly new to the game and have just found my first major obstacle I am having a lot of difficulty socializing in large groups. See the major issue for me is that i have a heaving impediment which can make group discussions more difficult. I can speak to an individual easily as my concentration is focused on that person so I can listen and respond well, and small groups are fairly simple as well as it is normally obvious who is going to speak next so i can give them my full concentration.

The issue is that I generally need to be looking in the direction of the person speaking in able to hear what is being said, the annoying thing is once i miss what a couple of people have said I either fall out of the conversation or repeat what someone has already said, which needless to say makes me look dim.

I do have some insecurity issues with it which is why i tend to stick to the night game as i will leave the hearing aid at home and go clubbing. It generally works well as people speak up quite a bit as it is a loud environment and if i don't catch what is said at first i can get away with asking them to repeat. It is also an added excuse to get close to the girls to listen, also because of the problem I am naturally more focused on the conversation which i find benefits me as the girl knows I'm listening and giving her my time and attention.

I just wondered if there was any advice for dealing with larger groups. I just want to say I don't normally have problems isolating a girl in situations but this is my main issue and it is harder then it needs to be, and prevented certain situations from unfolding!

Peace, Cola x

Ask them to repeat it.

Say it in a confident manner. Not in a apologising way.

if they challenge too much, just say hey I can't hear, be nice and speak clearly for me. If u r not strong they may think u r a nuisance.

Or just claw one member of the group and speak one on one. Again if challanged just say u have a hearing problem and cannot speak to a whole group.

Honesty is best when u r new, even if it temporarily lowers your value.

In bars and daygme, I've had deaf people grab me and hug me, I feel good about it because they are smiling and having a good time with lots of their friends. Everything is a DHV if u wish it to be.

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