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| rezrez0 | PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 12:52 am | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum | Joined: Sun Nov 14, 2010 8:25 am Posts: 140 | | is it AFC to add a girl on facebook after you've met her & she hasn't sent you a request?
I have 2 different cases
1) I was dancing with a girl at the club the other day and she was really into me (this was about 3 days ago). she was my dance buddy the whole night and she said she had a great time. we have mutual friends but i havn't sent her a request and she hasn't either.
2) (one i'm most concerned about right now). That same night at the club one of my classmates told me her friends thought I was really good looking, but I didn't really pay attention to her nor her friends cause I was kinda busy. Well today my classmate sent me a message on facebook saying her classmates really liked me and she 'recommended' me to her friends, she REALLY wants me to add one of them and talk to her (i saw pics of her and she's actually pretty hot, so i must've fucked up at the club..). Not sure if it is AFC to add her and do as my classmate says or what.. not sure what to do because I havn't talked to this girl in person but apparently she wanted to meet me or something?
what do you guys think? thanks
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| jabmaster | PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 4:53 am | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Sun Jan 16, 2011 7:59 pm Posts: 121 Location: Mexico | | Not at all, people do it all the time. Think of it as a simple step of the escalation process.
If you still feel nervous just make sure to prepare a cocky/funny answer for "who are you?" and "why did you add me?". _________________ Every man dies but not every man truly lives
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| rezrez0 | PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 5:20 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum | Joined: Sun Nov 14, 2010 8:25 am Posts: 140 | | im not nervous its just , idk it seems afc'ish...
like, the girl would probably think 'wow this guy went through the effort to try to find me on facebook' .
i mean i know her name and everything but it's just a doubt I have in the back of my mind.
I know you're not supposed to add the day after, it's been around 3-4 days already .
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| rezrez0 | PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 6:11 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum | Joined: Sun Nov 14, 2010 8:25 am Posts: 140 | | im not nervous its just , idk it seems afc'ish...
like, the girl would probably think 'wow this guy went through the effort to try to find me on facebook' .
i mean i know her name and everything but it's just a doubt I have in the back of my mind.
I know you're not supposed to add the day after, it's been around 3-4 days already .
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| jabmaster | PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 6:16 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Sun Jan 16, 2011 7:59 pm Posts: 121 Location: Mexico | | I really don't see a big effort in typing the name of someone you met while you are doing your stuff in a computer.
It would be AFC if you also send a message telling her how much fun you had and how eager you are to see her again.
It is a matter of frame, as long as you make no big deal of it you will be OK.
I am actually dating a girl I met in the same situation. _________________ Every man dies but not every man truly lives
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| rakeal | PostPosted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 9:10 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Tue Jun 01, 2010 8:32 pm Posts: 289 | | Ya, you've got to try something. Nothing ventured nothing gained. I will say that I have had better success when women add me or when women are the ones chasing. Many women though won't chase. Most women actually. In that case it's a matter of chasing without chasing them away. Getting the balance right is what the art is all about.
Another thing I should mention is that having a facebook with a bad profile that DLV, it would be better not to add them. But one that is really good, you'd want them on there.
I agree with Jabmaster that messages are more AFC than simply adding someone. If it were me and I had the inside scoop like you do. I would just add her and wait to see if she made the next move.
I WISH I had the setup you do. lol
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| john__12345 | PostPosted: Fri Mar 02, 2012 7:05 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Mar 02, 2012 5:28 pm Posts: 11 | | I agree with what he said. That has worked for me a few times too.
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| AFCr | PostPosted: Sun Mar 04, 2012 10:02 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sun Mar 04, 2012 9:55 pm Posts: 34 | | If I have learnt anything it's that as guys we have to take the initiative, and anyway it's only fb I think you are over thinking it
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