i have been getting with a new girl she is stunning definitely a HB9.

I met her at a party couple weeks ago but we were both with differnt people..

but now we are together and have been sleeping together but today she was saying how she has always been in long relationships and now she is having fun being single etc... although she really likes me tells me all the time about how happy she is and we have been spedning night and days together... do I confront her and say are we serious or just fun?
as i want a relationship with her and she is the one making all the plans to see me and driving to see me.... so it shows she likes me... will it ruin things if I ask are we serious or just fun??? but i dont want her getting with any other guy as im not getting with anyone?

HEELLPPP!!!!

You can't force someone to feel ready to commit. Just keep doing what you're doing, build rapport but let her pace it. This way it will transition in LTR naturally. It's too soon talking about exclusivity, but it sounds like she's not seeing anyone else either, but if you take that option away, you might scare her off. Let her set the pace, keep being fun, but add more depth as well.

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Yea spot on advice. Let her bring it up if things keep on going the way they sound, it will come up eventually. Then you can either accept or not it's up to you.

You need to reevaluate your situation. You say you want to be in a relationship with her and she's wants to be single. Dude, it should be the other way around! She should want to be with YOU. Saying she's just having fun being single is another way of saying she doesn't want to get locked in with you because she's unsure of your value. Something better could come along. You need to alter her mindset. Make it feel like YOU have plenty of other options and she needs to lock YOU down.

Don't confront her. That would reaffirm her suspicions. It would lower your value.

I changed the way i act with her and when i was out the other night she text me saying "please behave because i really like you too"

the more i have stepped back abit she is saying she really cant wait to see me and again and she does want thing to go somewhere with me and she likes me so much she doesnt want to rush into things in case it goes wrong and she gets hurt... she already introduced me to her family..

i just said im not going to hurt her and im cool not being together just wanted to make sure we both on the same level and we are not getting with other people...