I made this list of alpha male mannerisms for the purpose of keeping it with me on a smallish piece of paper, and I would look at it every once in awhile to affirm that I am keeping in line with each and every action of an alpha male. I got this idea after reading The Mystery Method in which Mystery preaches field testing as a means to internalize the lessons learned in the book. I figured that the same internalization process should work with alpha male-ness as well, and eventually after constant correction one can fully internalize the traits of an alpha male and in turn will become a legitimate alpha male. After all, you are what you convey.

So Here's the list I made, and everything on it is derived from MM and topics in this forum. The idea was to keep the listings short and concise to keep the list as quick yet effective reminders rather than a big bulky essay:


- Relax, take up space, make yourself at home

- Keep a wide stance when idle

- Remain unaffected. You don’t care.

- Don't apologize, it was their fault!

- Smile. Be the guy having a good time

- Don’t take yourself too seriously

- Convey a sense of abundance; do not be needy

- Stop fidgeting

- Walk with purpose and ambition

- Don’t walk too fast

- Speak clearly and confidently

- Look people in the eyes when you speak to them

- Speak with varying vocal tones

- Have an energy higher than that of the group which you enter

- Stop saying “um” “uh” “like”

- Lean back in a crowd, not inward

- Hold your head and your eyes above the horizon

- Hold your shoulders back

- RELAX


These are what I believe are key points in alpha male mannerisms, so by all means add or remove things from the list as you see fit. With that said, does anyone know of any other traits that should be added?

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Good list..

Yeah, the most important one.

Look people in the eyes when you speak to them.

If you can copy this guys mannerisms and facial expressions you'll never have a problem attracting all the women you can handle. You don't have to look exactly like the guy, just practice looking and talking to women like this in the mirror. Remember the art of the half assed smile, and plenty of eye contact.

For you guys who are too young to remember, this is Bobby Sherman in 1970. Yes, those are real girls.

[youtube]http://youtube.com/watch?v=FSFJJh7W30M[/youtube]

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How bad is it to say "um" and "like"? MOST people do it...so wouldn't this kind of fall under NLP/mirroring?

If asked a question...i might go "umm.." look around and take my time to answer. I also stutter so "um" .."like" has become how i talk when i catch myself about to stutter. I guess it acts as a speed bump for me..and in that case should i still try eliminate it completely? If so, how do you guys control the tempo of your speech?

In my opinion these are just things that come naturally when you interact with people. And this is also why I think it is imporant to interact with people at diffirent places as most places have something else to add to yourself.
Gym: posture
School: Knowledge
Club: female attention and feedback

just some examples.

Just keep up a strong reality around you so you pull her into your reality. If you show its weaker then you are letting her dominant your choices. Even if she trys to play it off usually she is effected by your witty comments, and the way you present yourself.

Alright, after about five days of keeping this list as a reminder of what do do, I have found myself needing to look at it less often. More than once I have caught myself reaching for the list, only to realize that I was already doing many of the bullets instinctively. This is very exciting to me; after a couple more weeks I should be able to exude alpha-maleness almost completely naturally.

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I read somewhere that when someone says "um"/"uh" it conveys to others that you have a lower intelligence, and that when said in between sentences it is because you are worried someone is going to interrupt you, where if you believe what you're saying is interesting, no one would dare interrupt you, so your speaking comes off as being more powerful and absolute. That's why I added speaking without the "ums"/"uhs"/"likes".

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It is important when two people are communicating, they say exactly what they want the other person to hear and do not assume ther can put the pieces of a fragmented idea together in their head. Do not add confusion with unnecessary words or sounds unless it is for dramatic effect. Speak clearly. Remeber this in both your tone and the words you choose. It is the AFC who does not think before he speaks. A PUA says what he means no matter whom he speaks to.

For body language, do as you would if it were your bar or your club. Pretend you owned it and took care of it. Make others feel welcome, walk with a sense of purpose and enjoy yourself while you relax into your very own social home. Being comfortable creates a sense of comfort in others. Enjoy your drink, your seat, your immediate company and your entire SPAM. Acting "Alpha" will come naturally.

Very good list bro. I agree with you with all the stuff you listed. I actually do find my self saying uh/umm/like alot i dont know why its just something that naturaly happens maybe i should try to stop that... I have also actually tested out walking upright with your head up, before i used to walk chin down i felt non confident but ever since i got onto this site i realized how much body language matters, so i started walkin up right with my chin up and i noticed alot more girls notice me and actually do make eye contact. All these little things seem like they dont make a difference but really they make a huge difference.

The reason it's on the list is as follows, and this was something I found on the forum somewhere: Saying "Umm" a lot during a conversation conveys a few things, the first being nervousness. You are afraid of being interrupted, so you don't want to have a pause where someone can interrupt you. There's a video somewhere on youtube with Mystery blowing through some girl's shit tests and the whole time he just stands there smiling and when he finally talks, he does it slow and direct. He never says Um, never stutters, never pauses. It displays strong confidence and that what you have to say is important and well thought out. So yes, eliminate using Umm and Like when speaking. It will challenge you to find new things to say to keep your conversation going without any lack of confidence in what you are saying. Shalom.

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Cohath

Ha Cohath, Shalom to you too....
Do any of you guys have direct links to Mystery Videos on YOutube?
I cant seem to find them =\

I've added "Keep a wide stance while idle" to the list. This is because I usually have my feet really close together when I stand and though I follow the list pretty well, it didn't seem right. When you keep your feet at about shoulder-width apart (or a little more than that) I feel you convey more confidence in the same way that keeping your arms apart conveys more confidence than keeping them folded.

Once again If anyone thinks of anything else don't hesitate to suggest it

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Take as much room as possible- Remember, the area is YOURS.

Pee on as many items as possible, don't forget to mark your territory.

If you see someone weaker- Attack.

If a girl turns you down- Kick in her in the face with your manly man legs. Remember, YOU'RE the MAN.

These three steps always work for me.

Hehe, whatever works for you works for you.

Anyways, I added a couple mannerisms to display in a group setting as, of course, the game begins in a set.

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If my post made me appear homosexual, I want you all to know that prior to sitting down at my computer I slammed 15 shots of whiskey, went balls-deep into my woman, and recited Clint Eastwood lines for 20 minutes.