I grew up during my teenage years not learning how to become an Alpha male, but I find many times where I give my power away to other people. This leads to people taking advantage of me, and lowering my value. What are some ways to not SPAM your power and demonstrating yourself as an Alpha male to not only girls but guys.

for example:
I do favors for people and let them borrow my stuff. I know that doesn't sound anything serious, but I feel that I give my power away to other guys, and this lowers my status.

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Do not hesitate on reading this book bro.

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started reading the ebook. This will help alot, thank you

LOL

I thought I'd reply, because your post brought back memories. I was that alpha guy borrowing your shit (metaphorically).

I was (am?) a nice guy, but always alpha without realizing it, never much of a player until college years. ( Now I'm a married AMOG but if I see a single PUA working his game, I'll pivot my group in and social proof him and eject. (got to help a brotha out))

Anytime I'd need to borrow something and I'd just ask, and people where always lend it to me. Cars, tools, time, dates. A guy in school had a really sweet 70's Mach1 mustang, I'm like "Hey let me borrow your car." (don't remember what for), and he hands the keys over.

Also my junior prom my GF and I had broke up and I didn't feel like spending $$ on some random chick. So I ended up showing up single half way thru (jeans t-shirt) just to say hi to my friends and check the scene out. Spotted a couple of girls I didn't really know looking bored with their dates. I walked up and asked to "borrow" their dates for while. We get some punch and then we hop in my mom's car left for about an hour. Just went somewhere and got some food, and general high school silliness.

I guess my point is: The reason people ask for your stuff, is they consciously or sub-consciously know you'll comply.

The way to stop it is to have a) say no when appropriate, or b) if you do help out with something, put yourself in charge.

Example: I often get recruited to help people move. I don't mind, but everyone knows that when I'm helping someone move I'm fucking in charge. I bust my ass twice as hard, don't take breaks (pussies), tell people how to load the truck, etc. And I'm nice as hell the whole time. And if my GF (or these days wife) is there helping to, they can't wait to get my sweaty ass home because watching me work gets them hot.

The take home is: Be a nice guy, but be the AMOG while being a nice guy.

-Hyde