guys, i am pretty experienced with a good success rate and i rarely allow myself to let a woman into my head.

But one has got in there ! we have chatted on line for a few weeks, about 6 now, i have done most of the running but she seems fairly keen.

she has been let down twice by this idiot on line so is cautious, fair enough. i asked her out she says lets see how it goes, so i see how it goes. i ask her again, she says we'll see, lets see what develops. so i ask her what does we'll see mean ? are you just being nice about telling me you are not interested ?

no she says, just that she wants to take it slow and see what develops. she wants what i want, however we are both married, we both want a long term freindship/buddy.

this woman is special, am just not sure if she is playing me and this is an ego trip or if she really does want to let it build !! agghhh !

help me guys !!

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I think she may be assuming sex is implied. IF you can re-assure her that you want the first meeting to talk in person and put a persona to the words on the screen. I am not sure how your conversations have been. If there has been any sexual escalation or not.

The very fact that you are making it a "date" rather then a friendly meeting may be hindering her.

I suggest toning it right down. Make it just a friendly meeting. Tell her you want it to go slow as well and you completely understand her rationale. But demand if you are going to slow it down, that you at least meet in person. So that you may both become more comfortable chatting in the future.

Getting her in person will allow you to better assess the situation. You can use your experience to read any type of tell she may be giving off with her body and mannerisms. ( remember! words are merely a small fraction of a conversation)

Be sure to over state that it will be completely friendly. ( shit can change real fast in your favor once you are in person)

Good Luck.

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Thanks fella, yes I know that once we actually meet it will be game over for her, she'll be mine !

without being conceited i am excellent reader of body language and can flirt at olympic standard, like you say its just getting it to that point.

I am not going to suggest anything for a couple of weeks as i dont want to pressurise her, even it is is for a friendly meet.

never had someone string it out this long !

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How did things go? Did you meet? I'm interested for obvious reasons.

I also am married. Met the equivalent to your girl. She'd only been with her husband, and wasn't happy. As friends, she broke it off and came clean to her husband before we met. 3 days later she emailed again saying she wasn't sure she wanted it to work with her husband. A week later we met. I didn't escalate and played it cool. She came right to me. I cut it off and left after kissing a bit, and told her I didn't want her to do something she'd regret. We talked the next day, she was cool. We talked a LOT and met the next week. She said multiple times she couldn't wait. We met again a week after the first time, and we had sex, and it was good. Next day she was all about it, telling me she didn't think she could see me without ripping my clothes off. I told her to slow down. She went on a religeous retreat that weekend, then called on Monday and said it was over and not to call her ever again. Not sure what to make now.

@callan You been chatting with this girl for 6 weeks now and not met her in person? Dude move on. She most probably wants the attention that she isn't getting from her husband at home. If she really wanted to cheat she would have at least met you in person by now and most probably cheated.