Hey guys so Yesterday, girl invited me over for a dinner for the first time.. I did everything superb.. Kino, rapport, and I even did the Cube on her.. We sat on the couch together and we built comfort and everything
Everything was good and this late morning, I sent her a text saying "I never got to thank you for the dinner " and of course she replies back "welcome ^_^"
Towards the end, I don`t know if I fucked up or something but I got an IOD from her... What was my mistake?

Well here is the transript

ME: I never got to say thank you for the dinner you made me
HER: Welcome ^_^
Me: Anyways, I told some of my friends that you know (celebrity #1) and (Celebrity #2) personally and they freaked! --( They`re foreign celebrity, apparently she dated one of them(
Her: Lololol
Me: Yeaa they`re jealous that a white girl knows them personally n not them
Her: It`s not a big deal I didn`t know they were famous when I met them lol
Me: Lol thats the thing, this girl was like:"she didn`t deserve that, she doesn`t them like I do" n I was like riiighhttt
Her: Lol they`re just people
Me: Ha yeaa, oh n I`ll pick u up around 5:30 tomorrow
Her: I can`t come tomorrow I have to do some homework and gotta wait on a package
Me: Aww Poo. err hows today?
Her: Nopes promised to spend some time with my friends today
Me: Wahhh lol aight very well, we have to jump to friday then
Her: Lol Okay
Me: Jerk.. haha and you need work on getting more gold stars
Her: >_> okay
Me: Well I gotta goto class, I`ll ttyl!

What did I do wrong? or is it just me being impatient and anxious?

I can see plenty of things you did wrong and I'm sure others will agree. You kept rising her value for no good reason, you showed that you have jealous immature friends. You probably thought that you were dhving yourself because you mentioned that they're female friends but you did more damage then good.

Lots of smileys in your text, can be misinterpreted as nervousness. Your tone seems a bit childish as well, how old are you if you don't mind me asking, I'll have a better understanding of the situation. Don't say things like ahh, poo. Maybe you're trying to be cute or something but you're taking it too far, it's too beta/feminine.

Don't ask her out like that too much. Be more aloof.

Now you can learn from your mistakes, once you see her, you can repair the damage done, turn her on, use some push pull tactics, have good tonality and body language and you will be back in the game. It's better to have her chasing you, not the other way around.

You are reading waaaay into this. You got a date on Friday, just wait 'til Friday.

never ever switch days! makes you look desperate! and girls will always blow you off for some stupid plan for a desperate guy. If your gonna push, push for the same day. Then your just being pushy, not desperate. If you wanna know why girls flake on plans, is because they see you as being too available, and they know they got you.


Here is the convo I had with my homegirl during lunch while back. I got her to come hang out with me and my friends with no effort at all. She has no clue about the game either.

Me: Me and boys are going bar hopping tonight, come join us.
Her: I have date set up tonight, but I am gonna cancel to come hang with you guys.
Me: Just go on your date, it might be fun.
Her: No, I can go out with him anytime, i got him locked, lets hang out tonight.

No convincing at all! And she comes and chills with me and my friend that night. And yeah, she has tons of guys chasing her

So what should I do between now and Friday.. Cuz yesterday we were supposed to hang out together at 6PM.. Should I game her through fone, text SPAM or what?

just talk to her about random crap.

So what would be a permanent solution to this?
I mean it`s clearly an inner game thing...
are there routines/excercise I can do to change my mindset?

and also, I feel like I don`t have anything to talk about with her..
I feel stuck. and feel like shit

AND HOW DO I STOP MYSELF FROM RISING A GIRL`S VALUE?!?!
IT SEEMS LIKE THATS ONE OF MY BIGGEST STICKING POINTS RIGHT NOW...
UGHHH

I'll talk you through your text game and give you some ways you could improve.

ME: I never got to say thank you for the dinner you made me

HER: Welcome ^_^ she's already got the upper hand here. she's responded with a single word, putting it completely on you to keep the conversation flowing. If I was you, I would have either left it after this response, and texted her later, or gone straight to arranging the next date.

Me: Anyways, I told some of my friends that you know (celebrity #1) and (Celebrity #2) personally and they freaked! Like the others said, you're raising her value here. You're probably just trying to be a nice guy, right? But it's not worth it dude. You're putting her above you. And this is where it goes downhill. The fact she mentioned that she knew famous people and even dated one of them was her trying to DHV and you should be more unfazed by it.

Her: Lololol

Me: Yeaa they`re jealous that a white girl knows them personally n not them

Her: It`s not a big deal I didn`t know they were famous when I met them lol

Me: Lol thats the thing, this girl was like:"she didn`t deserve that, she doesn`t them like I do" n I was like riiighhttt

Her: Lol they`re just people See how elevated she is now? She's having to talk down her DHV, because you talked it up. She's way higher than you at this point.

Me: Ha yeaa, oh n I`ll pick u up around 5:30 tomorrow

Her: I can`t come tomorrow I have to do some homework and gotta wait on a package

Me: Aww Poo. err hows today? Not the correct way to respond to an IOD. Respond to IOD's with IOD's - punish her for them. Also, it seems like you're scrambling for any way to see her. The conversation could have ended here, with you IODing back.


Her: Nopes promised to spend some time with my friends today

Me: Wahhh lol aight very well, we have to jump to friday then

Her: Lol Okay

Me: Jerk.. haha and you need work on getting more gold stars Don't call her a jerk.

Her: >_> okay

Me: Well I gotta goto class, I`ll ttyl! The sign off is too available.

Try being more aloof with your texting. I know you're just trying to be nice to her but in this case it put you in a position you don't want to be in. Lose the smileys. If she IOD's or says she can't make a date, act unfazed by it (as though you'll just find someone else to hang with) and don't scramble for another time to see her.