So here's the thing, I'm talking with a girl that I'm sure she's not a virgin, but I am, and I'm 19 years old. So I'm wondering how I should react if she brings up the sex conversation, which I'm not very comfortable talking about since I don't know what to say. I mean I have to tell her at some point that I have never had sex, should I be open about that immediately? and I have no idea how to respond if she asks WHY I haven't had sex, the only reasons I think of is because I've always been too shy and I haven't found anyone who pursued me enough, and I look at that as lowering my value :S

Thx

Just don't tell her? Pretend to be alpha when about to do her?

Tricky. I didn't tell her my first time because some girls won't do it with you becasue they think you should be in a relationship...but I bet you they didn't lose it in a relationship. I said I had done it, probably gave her the worst sex ever and a friend told her the next day. Not like I gave a shit, was a one nighter and my first ever pick up ended in a f-close. I was on top of the world.

But be very careful about lying to somebody who you want a future with. And if you are going to tell her, don't be weird or random about it, only say when it feels right to say it. You could lead the conversation about first time sex, bad sex etc and basically force her to ask you when you lost it..then you can say you haven't!

If you don't want to lie, try to keep it ambiguous if you had sex. If she pushes you hard enough, you can say something like how do you know I'm not a virgin? Maybe I want to find someone special who knows. If she's still persistent then tell her she needs to figure out another way to find out.

She may get frustrated but she will at least respect you for not answering her every question like a beta.

When having sex with her, talk every now and then, say you're so good, your body feels amazing. Also, take charge, start out with foreplay and change positions whenever you feel like it. If you can last 10 minutes and do all that, you're golden. It's that simple.

You can even tell her and she won't believe you... It's all about tonality... It's also a good conversational piece... "I'm a virgin... don't be rough with me" jokingly...

Is there a topic/article on this?

I just did a good job with foreplay and didn't tell her - I didn't last very long (it wasn't with a condom) but didn't really give a damn. I did tell her the next day how it was my first time without a condom though, but not that it was my first time having sex.